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How's this for frame...

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(04-30-2013 12:34 AM)BarkChompson Wrote:  

When I use my time and actually act so that I'm present in the moment, that is frame control. Where you stop thinking and just act and speak based on what you really mean with no filter, you're in the best and most honest frame possible. That's when you can manipulate a conversation in the direction you want. Not because you're better with words, but because you're not thinking about them.

I love the whole post but this paragraph is one of the deepest things I've read on RVF. I'm going to try to paraphrase:

Being present in the moment is the ultimate frame control.

I fucked this up today and this post came back to me. I was present in the moment creating conversation but didn't break through to the next level where I was speaking what was on my mind, create some tension in the conversation, and invite her to follow my lead. It was a nice conversation but didn't lead where I wanted it to and that was due to my lack of will to act.