[POHammer]

I think I'm not alone when I say its very hard to decide on a city to settle in long term. I know Vorkuta is in search of the best FSU town, Roosh is searching for possy paradise, etc

Its a huge decision. Where will I stay for the next 10-20-30 years? Once you set up shop with a long term job and apartment, you give up the nomadic life and stay in one spot.

I know in his King of Warsaw post, Roosh writes of the idea that you can "take a less than ideal town and turn it into something great". But if that was the case, why not just stay in the US/West? I had the idea to travel back in my late teens but brushed it off, saying I should give it shot. In some way I gained valuable skills, but in some ways it was a waste of time and I should have travelled earlier.

Now,
I've got a town in mind.
I think I like it.
I'm heading there.


There is no book on this subject and I personally don't know anyone who did it. That Winston Wu dude seems reasonably happy with his choice. Perhaps Southeast asia would be better, perhaps I won't do well here.

So many alternatives to such an important decision. Nobody told me there'd be decisions like these.

[Belize King]

I feel you. I grew up military so it isnt shit for me to move. As long as you have a plan and a back-up, you will be okay.

I was ready to move to BKK next month. The plan was to knock out a month in the States then head back to teach. But money called and was too good to pass up so the plan is on hold till next year.

You have a wealth of info here plus battlebuddies all over the world. When you touchdown, do not be afriad to use that mouthpiece and network. Smile, open your ears, and follow-up. Do those when you meet locals or expats and doors will open for you. I met three different expats that had jobs for me if I chose to stay. I found a business opportunity also.

The hardest part is getting there. Once you are on ground, you will find your way. Good luck.

[The Pirate]

If you can not settle down in one city, then don`t do it. If traveling and the nomadic life is what`s closest to your heart, then that is what you need to do. Sometimes we have these big questions in front of us, and the answer is very simple. Do whatever makes you most happy, be ruthless in shaping your life the way you want it and don`t give a fuck about what others say and maybe even what your sensible side says.

In the end it`s a question about time, and how you value it. There are certain things in life you can not do in your 60s compared to when you were in your 20s. So in my choices I always make time vs aging vs options, the guideline for my decisions. Live your life today because tomorrow someone could be scraping you off the asphalt 3 years into your long term plan... and you`d die as an unfullfilled strugler with lots of plans for yourself 15 years ahead... Or you could be the happy guy who aims to do exactly what you want and live in the moment. I firmly believe we are put here to collect as many happy moments we can. Unfortunatly most people are working ants who feel easily content and just let their lives pass by, and hey that`s what makes the world go around I guess.

To me it sounds like you are over-thinking things, and I get the impression some of your thoughs are coming from anxiety of not succeeding....do you spend an equal amount of time thinking what will happen when you succede? Sometimes you just need to go by your gut-feeling and "do it" Failing won`t kill you, and for each mistake made you are closer to perfection. There is really no other way thinking of it, unless you want to be a spectator to your own life.

[POHammer]

(04-25-2013 09:24 AM)The Pirate Wrote:  

If you can not settle down in one city, then don`t do it. If traveling and the nomadic life is what`s closest to your heart, then that is what you need to do. Sometimes we have these big questions in front of us, and the answer is very simple. Do whatever makes you most happy, be ruthless in shaping your life the way you want it and don`t give a fuck about what others say and maybe even what your sensible side says.

In the end it`s a question about time, and how you value it. There are certain things in life you can not do in your 60s compared to when you were in your 20s. So in my choices I always make time vs aging vs options, the guideline for my decisions. Live your life today because tomorrow someone could be scraping you off the asphalt 3 years into your long term plan... and you`d die as an unfullfilled strugler with lots of plans for yourself 15 years ahead... Or you could be the happy guy who aims to do exactly what you want and live in the moment. I firmly believe we are put here to collect as many happy moments we can. Unfortunatly most people are working ants who feel easily content and just let their lives pass by, and hey that`s what makes the world go around I guess.

To me it sounds like you are over-thinking things, and I get the impression some of your thoughs are coming from anxiety of not succeeding....do you spend an equal amount of time thinking what will happen when you succede? Sometimes you just need to go by your gut-feeling and "do it" Failing won`t kill you, and for each mistake made you are closer to perfection. There is really no other way thinking of it, unless you want to be a spectator to your own life.

Yes, I do want to settle down.
Of course I'm anxious...having made mistakes in the past I don't want to repeat them. Especially, when its about investing money and much more importantly, years worth of time.

Some people have it easy- "Yeah, I'm going to New York, the promised land for cash flow!"

For those searching less obvious goals (women/culture/societal values) its a lot less clear since most people are blinded by search for cash alone when it is useless out of context.

Obviously I'm not a spectator as I left the Western world behind several years ago. So, I am doing it. Have you settled down to a city/country you like? How did you choose it?

[Teedub]

I'm in a similar boat. I want to escape to somewhere, but don't know where. I just plan on going on a lot of solo trips (I'll call it 'travelling' to spare the shaming from mates - "Why you going on your own? etc") between now and 30 and try and decide. It's getting time off though that is the problem. Yeah sure, I get 22 days holiday, but that means, including weekends I could only go to 4 different places for a week each time. Which isn't nearly enough time to really determine what it would be like to LIVE there. I'm going to one day set up a boxing/combat sport equipment website - I've wanted to do it for a long time and I have two friends who are successful (one is a multi-millionaire now, at least in assets) online retailers. I know South America (Namely Argentina - boxing, Brazil - MMA) could be a market, but it's hard to set up a business there, whereas Poland is relatively easy, especially for an EU citizen, and boxing is massive in Poland and the other EE countries. I also want to write a book, or books, or ideally break into screenwriting. All goals are achievable with hard work and ambition. Arnie taught me that.

[The Pirate]

Point is, you will never know what pops up around the next corner. You can only control so much. If you have done previous mistakes in your life you for sure have decreased the chances of not succeeding in the future. I think you should adjust your mind to focusing on succeeding, not concerns about not succeeding. If you get uptied by the thought of losing your hard earned money you are probably investing outside your comfort-zone and should adjust it to where you feel more comfortable. I can`t think of any worse menatlity to enter a bussiness than being scared of losing your time and money.

[POHammer]

(04-25-2013 09:42 AM)The Pirate Wrote:  

Point is, you will never know what pops up around the next corner. You can only control so much. If you have done previous mistakes in your life you for sure have decreased the chances of not succeeding in the future. I think you should adjust your mind to focusing on succeeding, not concerns about not succeeding. If you get uptied by the thought of losing your hard earned money you are probably investing outside your comfort-zone and should adjust it to where you feel more comfortable. I can`t think of any worse menatlity to enter a bussiness than being scared of losing your time and money.

Fuck money, its time that really matters. No amount of gold will get you even an extra day.

I'm interested in places I can succeed with women and a culture I enjoy.

@Teedub

Fuck yeah, Arnie is the man! You watch Pumping Iron and think about him being just a kid with nothing immigrating to a new country. Thats what I'm doing, moving to a place to reach my dreams.

[The Pirate]

@ Ah I see. You expressed concern over investing money somewhere in there. I think it might be connected with time unless you were born rich.

[POHammer]

(04-25-2013 09:53 AM)The Pirate Wrote:  

@ Ah I see. You expressed concern over investing money somewhere in there. I think it might be connected with time unless you were born rich.

Sorry for the confusion, I meant finding employment and apartment, thats what I meant by money.

But you can get a job and apartment anywhere...from London to Shanghai. Its time that matters.

[Volk]

Some people are in some kind of search, similar to the search for "El Dorado" that the Spanish Conquistadores did when they got familiar with south america. Just like there was no city made of gold, there's no city where just opening your mouth will get you swarmed by 9s begging you to let them have sex with you, but some people need more years of travelling, until reality makes them jaded and they realize that in order to have something like that, they have to sit down and build it.

[POHammer]

(04-25-2013 10:40 AM)Volk Wrote:  

Some people are in some kind of search, similar to the search for "El Dorado" that the Spanish Conquistadores did when they got familiar with south america. Just like there was no city made of gold, there's no city where just opening your mouth will get you swarmed by 9s begging you to let them have sex with you, but some people need more years of travelling, until reality makes them jaded and they realize that in order to have something like that, they have to sit down and build it.

I think you're right.

You find city A and tell yourself, "This place is above average."

Then you find city B, and say "This place is also above average, but is it more above average than city A?"

You could go looking for city C, or just go to city A and start building.

[solo]

Having multiple choices, and the thought that the grass might greener on the other side.

I spend a lot of time thinking about where to travel and where to possibly live for a longer period of time. I don't want to settle down before I have been around a bit more. I'm also kicking myself for not traveling more earlier, especially with so many report on here about countries being ruined. Imagine living in a place like Prague in the early 90's, for instance. And I don't mean just because of the girls, I mean because of the general atmosphere and optimism of that time and place. Or maybe these pussy paradises of passed times are just a construction.

Anyway I have no better suggestion than to visit places you have on your list. This is what I strive to do. You could just go to one country each in the regions: Latin America, Europe, FSU, Africa, Middle East and Asia. Then you can settle down in the country you liked the most. Then within a couple of years you can find the optimal country for you in that region, in terms of whatever it is that you prioritize (business opportunities, girls, culture etc). Personally I would like to visit countries in all those regions, if only for a short time, before maybe starting to narrowing don the places I travel to frequently.