[pimpc]

i'm in college right now, i'm a junior and i havent hooked up w/ as may girls as i wanted to yet. i dont want to think that if i do bad in college that i'm going to for the rest of my life. so i was wondering for those of u that went to college..how big of a part has it playd in you life .. is it like a little speckle that u just take w/ u and learn from it, or was it a big part?

[Basil Ransom]

dude, don't worry about it too much. I was just reading studies about how the average college kid has one sexual partner per year. College is overplayed. Search NCHA.
I was gonna write a thread here or elsewhere about it. See http://www.acha-ncha.org/data/SEXF06.html (I think perceived is what people think the average is, averaged).

Although, at least at my school, hooking up is pretty common. I've slept with a few girls, but made out with 10x as many.

[pimpc]

yea i came to college w/ the mentality i was gunna have sex w/ so many girls, i've had sex w/ one girl that i already knew and hooked up w/ a random girl .. nothin great. but making it is like nothing anymore. it just seems like i'm never in situations where i'm partying w/ the same girls for longer than 30 mins so theres never time to spit game. but i definately worry about it b/c it makes me think somethings not right.

another thing .. my college is a huge frat school, and i'm not in a frat, so its not as easy to get w/ girls

[ned]

Both I guess. I learned a bunch from college, and I did a lot of crazy things I wouldn't do today. I did fine with girls, but in retrospect I could've done a lot more. You're still a junior, and you still have a lot of time left.

In general though, you need to live in the moment. You're already acting like school's over even though you have a chunk of it left. Since you already seem like you're regretting not doing it, make a change. The most exciting parts of my life were when I was doing things that were initially uncomfortable for me. I'm not trying to sound like a self-help book, but honestly the only things you'll regret in life are things you don't try to do.

So if you aren't happy with your results, go ahead and do something about it. Talking with a stranger at school isn't a hard thing to do anyway.

[pimpc]

its good to hear u say i have a lot of time being a junior .. my fresh and soph year i felt like a fresh and soph in high school again and i feel like i wasted a lot of opportunities. but yea lately i've been talkin to a girl at least every weekend. i'm at the point now where i'm just going to start making out w/ chicks after i talk to them for a while and i feel it. and see where that takes me.

i know what u mean about regrets .. i throw myself into uncomfortable situations constantly so i cna overcome them.

another thing that i'm realizing .. is how girls are at this campus. 4 months ago i would have had feeling for the girl and almost tried like wifin them or bein a gentelmen .. but anymore the mindset i have is i dont give a fuck. i'm gunna get drunk, i'm good lookin, built well, and if i try to hook up w/ if were both drunk and having a good time i just see no reason for her not to

[X-Factor]

You're just getting going my man. When I was in college, I tried out so many different techniques/approaches and encountered so many different closing situations and different women that I feel it was a true training ground for me. This was back in the late nineties, before we had forums and boards like this one. At any rate, I learned at the school of hard knocks, so to speak. I hit a lot of home runs, but I struck out equally as often. I often think of a quote by Michael Jordan that (loosely paraphrased) says, "I've failed thousands of times, and that is why I succeed." So true.

I think when I hit 26 or 27, I think I finally found my niche in the game and I've been on auto pilot ever since. You have a lifetime left to seduce women all over the world. Just remember to study hard, be smart about shit, and put yourself in a position to succeed. That's what you should REALLY be worrying about.

Respect.

[pimpc]

thats good to hear u say that ..

i think one think i'm worryin about now is life after college. for some reason i'm thinking that college is the time to meet a lot of different women .. then after college its when u start gettin married and stuff. i'd love to just seduce tons of women, but i feel as if i wont have time. i dont know why i'm feeling like that tho

[zorgon]

Life does not end after college. College is a unique opportunity in terms of meeting women, sure (one that I totally wasted myself -- I literally did not have a single date during all 4 years of college), but you will have plenty of time after college too.

[broken]

When I was in college it did. And the friends I met in college are the best ones I have. I honestly bagged a whole lot more in a college town after I was done with school.

If you're in college, and your game is so-so, Now is the time to become a God.
If you're out of college, and your game is so-so, Now is the time to become a God.

Seize the Day.

[X-Factor]

(10-02-2008 12:18 AM)pimpc Wrote:  

i think one think i'm worryin about now is life after college. for some reason i'm thinking that college is the time to meet a lot of different women .. then after college its when u start gettin married and stuff. i'd love to just seduce tons of women, but i feel as if i wont have time. i dont know why i'm feeling like that tho

My friend, you need to understand that life is not a script. Sure, when I was younger (high school/college) I had the marriage paradigm firmly ingrained in my psyche. I thought that you went to college, met a girl, graduated, married, settled down, bought a house, had two kids, etc, etc, ad nausuem...

I have since moved beyond that cloak of lies and have shifted away from the marriage-as-end-result paradigm. That is the subject of an entirely different thread. However, I would say that right now I am 31, becoming financially secure, have a master's degree, travel the world, enjoy my work, date when I want to or don't want to, have a custom motorcycle, take off two months in the winter to ski, live in an outdoor enthusiast's haven, and have all the freedom in the world.

I'll just ask you one question: Could I have this life if I were married?

[pimpc]

definately not man, it definatley sounds like ur livin the life.

my goal is to graduate .. make money .. work on my cars as hobbies .. have relationships .. travel .. but i definately dont wanna be alone my whole life. in that respect i guess thats where i'm knocking around in my head when and when not its time to settle down w/ someone

[X-Factor]

(10-02-2008 08:36 PM)pimpc Wrote:  

definately not man, it definatley sounds like ur livin the life.

my goal is to graduate .. make money .. work on my cars as hobbies .. have relationships .. travel .. but i definately dont wanna be alone my whole life. in that respect i guess thats where i'm knocking around in my head when and when not its time to settle down w/ someone

Nothing but respect to you my friend. All I'm saying is that you have to let life happen. I'm not opposed to marriage. It's just that you can't say, "I'm going to get married someday." You'll just end up getting married for the wrong reasons to the wrong woman and things will probably get ugly.

Just go with the flow and you'll be much happier in life. Trust that.

[Chick]

Marriage is a joke.
Live your life, enjoy it, and if you meet someone you meet someone.

[spaceman]

great advice in this thread