when i was in high school, i had no clue what was going on. still, i was doing some things right.
i thought the universe had some cruel, ironic sense of humor because the more i interacted with girls who liked me and i had little interest in, the more they fell in love WHILE the girls i thought were super fly seemed to lose any interest they may have initially had in me the more time i spent with them.
in retrospect and, i think everyone on this forum knows the answer to this one, i had some lessons to learn before i could harness that power i had on less-than-fly girls. if it wasn't for the fact i was the star of a sports team, i would have been as loserish and beta as they come in hs.
fast forward.
at 25, i just broke up with my first LTR,(of almost a year). she cried a little bit, but what baffled me was her response a few minutes later when she asked "can we still have sex". i had to do the best i could to pretend i was considering it, that maybe it wasn't a great idea, but it might be something worth trying out... while the whole time i'm just like WTF...? i must have done something right this whole time, i just have no idea what it is. i was under the impression that the LTR was a tradeoff, unspoken and unacknowledged of sex for emotional investment.
i took away my emotional investment... and she still wanted the sex. obviously this is like that time in high school. i thought i understood shit, and i marveled at the irony of the universe. but in reality... there was a simple concept to explain it all.
thoughts?
i thought the universe had some cruel, ironic sense of humor because the more i interacted with girls who liked me and i had little interest in, the more they fell in love WHILE the girls i thought were super fly seemed to lose any interest they may have initially had in me the more time i spent with them.
in retrospect and, i think everyone on this forum knows the answer to this one, i had some lessons to learn before i could harness that power i had on less-than-fly girls. if it wasn't for the fact i was the star of a sports team, i would have been as loserish and beta as they come in hs.
fast forward.
at 25, i just broke up with my first LTR,(of almost a year). she cried a little bit, but what baffled me was her response a few minutes later when she asked "can we still have sex". i had to do the best i could to pretend i was considering it, that maybe it wasn't a great idea, but it might be something worth trying out... while the whole time i'm just like WTF...? i must have done something right this whole time, i just have no idea what it is. i was under the impression that the LTR was a tradeoff, unspoken and unacknowledged of sex for emotional investment.
i took away my emotional investment... and she still wanted the sex. obviously this is like that time in high school. i thought i understood shit, and i marveled at the irony of the universe. but in reality... there was a simple concept to explain it all.
thoughts?