Just wondering if someone with some 'experience' can decode some 'women' behaviors for me?
1) One girl I started to date last fall is moving back into the area and wants to get together. We only went out about 3 times (only ended up kissing). I think this time I'll escalate things rapidly and see where it goes the first time we get back together. Thoughts on that? Or should this situation be considered a friend relationship now?
2) Another girl I dated last year - which was a _very_ passionate time felt by both of us (I screwed up the relationship by turning 'wussy') has started texting me again... she says I should come see her, etc. Our texting very quickly turns into banter & sexual teasing. She pointed out she has a boyfriend - while in the middle of some 'textual play' with only one line "You should know I have a bf." The textual play continued and at a 'high' point, I told her I had to get back to work. Yesterday - I texted her - just suggesting her and her female friends come to this event in town. I wouldn't be at it, but suggested we could get together for drinks and conversation after. She turned the conversation sexual this time. Followed up saying how "bad" I am for being a bad influence on her. I called her on that saying I really don't think she's complaining about it, but rather doing some fantasizing instead - which she quickly admitted to. (I doubt she'll make the event though - its an hour drive each wayr, and short notice for a babysitter, but still - she likes the idea). After telling her I'd be nice, and getting "that won't be fun", in reply, I continued to escalate the conversation..... but said I'll be gentle (no bruises) to avoid suspicion from her bf to which she replied "good call".
What is up with that? Is she only wanting to be playing like this (texting)? She's obviously missing out on something with her current bf -- but is there a way I could/should pursue this? Just keep her happy 'textually' until she gets rid of this guy? Or try to escalate physically once again? By the sounds of it, if she's like this via text to me I really don't think she'd have second thoughts about enjoying my company behind her bf's back (and she really is a lot of fun, so I wouldn't have a problem with it).
Anyway... thanks for reading... any more advice for a newbie in the 'game'?
1) One girl I started to date last fall is moving back into the area and wants to get together. We only went out about 3 times (only ended up kissing). I think this time I'll escalate things rapidly and see where it goes the first time we get back together. Thoughts on that? Or should this situation be considered a friend relationship now?
2) Another girl I dated last year - which was a _very_ passionate time felt by both of us (I screwed up the relationship by turning 'wussy') has started texting me again... she says I should come see her, etc. Our texting very quickly turns into banter & sexual teasing. She pointed out she has a boyfriend - while in the middle of some 'textual play' with only one line "You should know I have a bf." The textual play continued and at a 'high' point, I told her I had to get back to work. Yesterday - I texted her - just suggesting her and her female friends come to this event in town. I wouldn't be at it, but suggested we could get together for drinks and conversation after. She turned the conversation sexual this time. Followed up saying how "bad" I am for being a bad influence on her. I called her on that saying I really don't think she's complaining about it, but rather doing some fantasizing instead - which she quickly admitted to. (I doubt she'll make the event though - its an hour drive each wayr, and short notice for a babysitter, but still - she likes the idea). After telling her I'd be nice, and getting "that won't be fun", in reply, I continued to escalate the conversation..... but said I'll be gentle (no bruises) to avoid suspicion from her bf to which she replied "good call".
What is up with that? Is she only wanting to be playing like this (texting)? She's obviously missing out on something with her current bf -- but is there a way I could/should pursue this? Just keep her happy 'textually' until she gets rid of this guy? Or try to escalate physically once again? By the sounds of it, if she's like this via text to me I really don't think she'd have second thoughts about enjoying my company behind her bf's back (and she really is a lot of fun, so I wouldn't have a problem with it).
Anyway... thanks for reading... any more advice for a newbie in the 'game'?