Okay, I need advice on two situations this week where I was close to isolating two separate girls(I got one actually inside the apt but no close). I think I know where I went wrong, but I'm always open to good advice.
So, for the first one, let's call her Lisa. After class, about four people, including myself, went to a bar really close to my apt. She showed lots of ioi's towards me: boobs on my back, breathed on my arm, playfully bit my shoulder, etc. I, in turn, touched her arm, touched her hips, touched her shoulders etc. Another guy from my class was trying to move in(this is another thread for another day), but she rejected his approaches in a friendly way in favor of me. Fast forward to the end of the night. She drives my friend(different one from the previous one) and I to my apt. even though I'm like a block away, and we give each other these looks--like 'what's happening next?' HERE'S THE KICKER: I HAD TO TAKE MY FRIEND HOME! I take my friend home, and I'm texting her, asking her what food she has at home to get an excuse to go over her house(she texts me 'i'm home'). Long story short, I didn't want to telegraph too much interest, so I ended with just asking what she had in her fridge. QUESTIONS: Should I have asked if I could come over and eat something even though she lived like10-15 min. away? Also, we agree to meet two days later to go to another bar, but she never responded to the confirming text on the day of. My cell phone's been acting weird lately, should I text her and ask what happened?
I'll keep this one short, since the previous paragraph was long. So, I do this cold approach on this French girl, let's say Sophia, at a bar. After 20-30 min, we bounce to another bar nearby. There's music there, but she doesn't like it, so we decide to go to another bar. I drive us(she walked there) to the bar, but on the way, i tell her if we can park at my apt because I have to use the bathroom. So, I get her inside the apt., we have a quick drink, but she says she has to get up at six am the next morning, so I let her go. Boom. No close. QUESTIONS: Should I have tried to make the move on her in the apt even though she said she had to wake up early? Also, I hadn't kissed her yet, and we only hung out for maybe two-three hours. Is that too fast for escalation to sex? I also got really eager and texted her later that night to hang out the day after. That's bad, right?(European girls are my type) Thanks!
So, for the first one, let's call her Lisa. After class, about four people, including myself, went to a bar really close to my apt. She showed lots of ioi's towards me: boobs on my back, breathed on my arm, playfully bit my shoulder, etc. I, in turn, touched her arm, touched her hips, touched her shoulders etc. Another guy from my class was trying to move in(this is another thread for another day), but she rejected his approaches in a friendly way in favor of me. Fast forward to the end of the night. She drives my friend(different one from the previous one) and I to my apt. even though I'm like a block away, and we give each other these looks--like 'what's happening next?' HERE'S THE KICKER: I HAD TO TAKE MY FRIEND HOME! I take my friend home, and I'm texting her, asking her what food she has at home to get an excuse to go over her house(she texts me 'i'm home'). Long story short, I didn't want to telegraph too much interest, so I ended with just asking what she had in her fridge. QUESTIONS: Should I have asked if I could come over and eat something even though she lived like10-15 min. away? Also, we agree to meet two days later to go to another bar, but she never responded to the confirming text on the day of. My cell phone's been acting weird lately, should I text her and ask what happened?
I'll keep this one short, since the previous paragraph was long. So, I do this cold approach on this French girl, let's say Sophia, at a bar. After 20-30 min, we bounce to another bar nearby. There's music there, but she doesn't like it, so we decide to go to another bar. I drive us(she walked there) to the bar, but on the way, i tell her if we can park at my apt because I have to use the bathroom. So, I get her inside the apt., we have a quick drink, but she says she has to get up at six am the next morning, so I let her go. Boom. No close. QUESTIONS: Should I have tried to make the move on her in the apt even though she said she had to wake up early? Also, I hadn't kissed her yet, and we only hung out for maybe two-three hours. Is that too fast for escalation to sex? I also got really eager and texted her later that night to hang out the day after. That's bad, right?(European girls are my type) Thanks!