[deuce]

Hey guys, lately I've been in kind of a slump. No problems getting numbers but girls are going silent via text...sometimes in the middle of a convo.

Here's an example from a text convo today, I've gone out on one date with this girl (to a shooting range then drinking):

10:58 Me: Hey missy is the wine flowing at your place yet?
11:03 Her: Lol no. Not only its it morning still but [roommate] hit his head and is going to the hospital...so no wine. How was your week?
11:19 Me: It was good. You up for hanging out this week?
11:25 Her: Yea sure. When were you thinking?
11:35 Me: Wed or thur works for me...how about you

Since then, nothing. WTF?

Anyone ever change up their text game? Usually Roosh's text guidelines work like a charm but damn if I haven't had trouble lately.

[deuce]

She must read the forum , she just replied. Weird. So should I wait 6 hours per the text guidelines?

[esperar]

Honestly, it's just best if you don't stress about it. I know it's hard at first, but really, once you spit at loads of different chicks, you less you'll care about any single one. Experiment out there in the game, see what works, what doesn't, and take some of the good advice out there on what to do IN GENERAL.

[rudebwoy]

It seems you were eager to hang out with her while she was concerned about her room-mate.

Just an observation.

[Parlay44]

Strike while the iron is hot. If you have her attention for the moment, set the date.
And don't have full conversations over text.

[Balkanite]

Is she referring to a dude roommate?

[InternationPlayboy]

It was 11 am and you were talking about getting drunk already, makes you look like an alcoholic lol

[kenny_powers]

(03-26-2013 06:13 PM)deuce Wrote:  

10:58 Me: Hey missy is the wine flowing at your place yet?
11:03 Her: Lol no. Not only its it morning still but [roommate] hit his head and is going to the hospital...so no wine. How was your week?
11:19 Me: It was good. You up for hanging out this week?
11:25 Her: Yea sure. When were you thinking?
11:35 Me: Wed or thur works for me...how about you

We all make mistakes. Brush it off and NEXT. You have 3 texts. Here is how you should have done it.

1.You: "Hey girl" or "Hey whats up"
Her: "blah blah blah"
2.You: "We need to hang out this week"
Her: "jabber jabber jabber"
3.You: "Thursday 7 PM at ......."
Her: "Sounds great!"

Don't answer her questions. She asks how was your week, ignore and trial close for the date. Short and sweet my friend.

Text is not for talking. It is a tool to set up a face to face meeting.

[Days of Broken Arrows]

I don't want to be critical, but I don't think using the word "missy" helped you here. It sounds snide, but not in a good way. Sometimes really little things matter. I'm careful about word choices in matters like this. If you study language, you learn that some words touch "emotional centers" of the brain and subconsciously trigger responses. My guess is "missy" elicits a less-than-positive response. (It reminds me of something the teacher on "Boy Meets World" would say.)

It would be really helpful if some of us put together a list of "keywords" that trigger positive responses. Or sexual ones.

Example: Once while I was in the middle of a blah IM chat, I decided to drop in the word "splayed" to see what would happen. This triggered a "LOL!" response in the woman, who then went on to tell me it reminded her of having her legs "splayed" open at the gynecologists. This, of course, led to a highly sexual discussion (with her sending pics)...which led to the phone, which eventually led to use meeting. But it was that one word that started the avalanche and that came out of a very boring convo.

[alphanov]

Look what I've got (a shy girl). (Btw, most of my texting-game ends up in a similar scenario.)
Her (at 2 am after getting home): I'm texting you now while I'm at it, this way you'll have my number
Me: You must be Julie? Nice. Tomorrow I'll convince you to hang out with me
Her: OK, great!
Me (the next day): I liked talking to you yesterday. My offer is still valid. A drink tonight?
Her: I'm afraid it won't be possible tonight, I actually have lots of stuff to do!
Me: k, let me know the next time you're hanging out with your friends, I'll see if I can join you
no response ever since

[amity]

@alphanov better is to have a plan of action, have something definite on, and then tell her:
'i'm going to location A to do B at time C', meet me there
chicks love it when guys have plans made and then include them in it
it's better to appear to be a guy who's got plenty of stuff on, the mindset is that you're doing her a favour by including her in your busy social life and fun activities, rather than asking her to let you know next time she's hanging out
if she wants to get together with you, she'll invite you, but you asking her to invite you subconsciously makes her think that you don't have much going on and are therefore not that interesting or exciting, you see what i'm saying?

[alphanov]

(03-26-2013 07:19 PM)amity Wrote:  

@alphanov better is to have a plan of action, have something definite on, and then tell her:
'i'm going to location A to do B at time C', meet me there
chicks love it when guys have plans made and then include them in it
it's better to appear to be a guy who's got plenty of stuff on, the mindset is that you're doing her a favour by including her in your busy social life and fun activities, rather than asking her to let you know next time she's hanging out
if she wants to get together with you, she'll invite you, but you asking her to invite you subconsciously makes her think that you don't have much going on and are therefore not that interesting or exciting, you see what i'm saying?

yeah I see what you mean, that's why I added "I'll see if I can join you". Major problem is that those mountain chicks are afraid to go on a one-on-one date, even though they like me and maybe even kissed me (when their friends were supervising). I like it better when her friends are around, this way she is more relaxed, and besides her buddies often encourage her to make out with me.

[deuce]

Thanks guys, she eventually texted back and I tightened it up. Date set for tomorrow night. This dry spell has got me overthinking things. Hopefully it'll end tomorrow

[Giovonny]

Be more specific about your plans to have fun.

Instead of saying:

"You up for hanging out this week?"

Better to say:

"Wanna go to the Live Music-Laser Light Show at the Beach Thursday at sunset?? I'm gonna be making my famous homemade wine coolers with strawberries and mangos.

This does a better job of engaging their imagination and emotions.

[thegmanifesto]

(03-26-2013 06:13 PM)deuce Wrote:  

Okay, what did I do wrong here? (texting)

You texted instead of called.

[Grit]

10:58 Me: hey missy is the wine flowing at ur place yet
11:03 Her: Lol no. Not only its it morning still but [roommate] hit his head and is going to the hospital...so no wine. How was your week?
11:19 Me: shit ask him what his name is
11:25 Her: blah blah blah about his condition and doctors and how serious this is
11:35 Me: ask him what lindsay lohans cup size is
+10sec Her: this is serious! he could die
+1 hr: Me: i hope he guessed C. else it might be real bad

Edited for my amusement.

[CJ_W]

(03-26-2013 06:30 PM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

Strike while the iron is hot. If you have her attention for the moment, set the date.
And don't have full conversations over text.

This.

Set the date, then STOP TALKING.

save your talking for the date. If she doesn't respond, then she aint interested, most likely she found a cock to ride already, these things happen! so don't worry about it, just find another one.

you should be dating multiple women at the same time, so if one doesn't respond you'd probably forget about it since you're so busy with other women.

The fact that you have worried enough about it to make a post here (nothing wrong with posting questions btw just stop worrying) is an indication that you are not seeing enough women!

so. . .go and build your harem. . .5 girls at a time

[Giovonny]

(03-27-2013 02:16 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

(03-26-2013 06:13 PM)deuce Wrote:  

Okay, what did I do wrong here? (texting)

You texted instead of called.

G,

Did you see my post about how "Calling is Cool Again"?

Calling is Cool Again