Back in the west for a bit, I went on a date with a borderline SecretInternetFattie last night. She was not really obsese but a good 10-15 pounds heavier than her photos suggested. Since I was hungry anyways I switched from coffeeshop to restaurant within 15 mins (not inviting her but saying I needed food and she could "tag along" if she wanted to). She did the predictable "where do you see yourself in 2 years" thing etc that most 25-29 year olds seem to throw at me these days. I figured I would just be honest and see what would happen. I mentioned getting my PhD part-time and spending time travelling in SE Asia (threw in Pattaya to provoke). The conversation moved on to life in general, gender roles, kids etc and I threw out a lot of my jaded views on western culture, engagement rings, working mothers etc etc. I figured I would get a nice, amusing hamster response (not really interested in a sdl due to her fattie deception so the gloves were off).
Surprisingly, she mostly agreed or said "I can see that", often asked questions because I kept my statements pretty short. I treated her like I would a colleague or a random stranger on a plane who I might never see again but who starts philosophical convos: no need for censorship and the person is not really important to me.
When the bill came she immediately threw in her part and I figured that was it, however, she wanted to "talk some more" on the way out and we ended up at her place, the rest was easy and more enjoyable than I had anticipated (turns out it was not that much "extra").
This was a woman who cleary looked for a long-term relationship so I thought I might have just gotten lucky and would never hear from her again. Got 2 txts this morning requesting to "talk some more" tonight or tomorrow. Any thoughts or similar experiences? Is she maybe one of those "convert the bad/ bitter guy" types?
Surprisingly, she mostly agreed or said "I can see that", often asked questions because I kept my statements pretty short. I treated her like I would a colleague or a random stranger on a plane who I might never see again but who starts philosophical convos: no need for censorship and the person is not really important to me.
When the bill came she immediately threw in her part and I figured that was it, however, she wanted to "talk some more" on the way out and we ended up at her place, the rest was easy and more enjoyable than I had anticipated (turns out it was not that much "extra").
This was a woman who cleary looked for a long-term relationship so I thought I might have just gotten lucky and would never hear from her again. Got 2 txts this morning requesting to "talk some more" tonight or tomorrow. Any thoughts or similar experiences? Is she maybe one of those "convert the bad/ bitter guy" types?
