[Divorco]

Women process emotionally instead of rationally. They think:

The way they feel about you is the way you should feel about them.

I recently saw a woman monologue about her obsessive teenage crush on rockstar John Cougar Melloncamp. She bought songs, joined the fan club, collected memorabilia, and wrote love letters in her diary. Eventually she met him at some publicity event. He was genial and polite to all the fans, including her. She was shocked to find he did not reciprocate her feelings. She had just presumed that there was some magical two-way connection that transcended her teenage hormones.

I recently met a woman online and dated her for one month. Then when she learned I had gone on another date, she flew into a jealous rage. I immediately dumped her. But out of curiosity, I went back to our correspondence. It turns out that due to her schedule and inflexibility, it took over one month to even get a first date with her. So before game created attraction, she expected me to wait a month to meet. But one month after attraction, she expected me to be exclusive.

I guess men make a similar mistake. They presume that because they are "nice guys" that women will be attracted. They simply don't look at the other person's perspective.

[Ryre]

I agree with you about the flip, male version of this. A lot of blue-pill game suffers from this fallacy. E.g., "I think you are beautiful, want to go out?" As if she should be attracted to you just because you are attracted to her, when you haven't demonstrated any attractive qualities.

(On the other hand there are moments when confidently acting on your interest in her is attractive to her and will ramp up her interest in you. But she should like me because I like her--that dog don't hunt.)

[Matt3B]

Gotta agree about the nice guy stuff. If a girl gives them even the slightest bit of attention and they're being polite, a lot of guys misconstrue it as her being interested.

It's pretty funny being the guy these girls fuck whilst watching her beta orbiters give them likes and comments on Facebook completely oblivious to the fact that they're pushing themselves away and bringing them closer to me.

[Menace]

One of the hardest things to wrap your head around (for some) is that women are not just shorter men with different organs. I really think some guys believe that aside from biology, women think the same way and should react the same way. Women fundamentally perceive the world in a different way from men, and I honestly can't even imagine what it's like. I don't even try to figure it out because it's not important for my goals.

I like the black box model of women. Sure there is evo psych underpinnings for everything they do, but really, that will just fuck up your game. I don't care what they think, just what they do in response to what I do.

BTW, you can be nice to girls; I am frequently very nice and sweet and generous (but not all the time). BUT, you can't be nice AT FIRST. You have to break them first, like a wild horse, then they will be yours to ride.

[bojangles]

(03-15-2013 11:43 AM)Menace Wrote:  

One of the hardest things to wrap your head around (for some) is that women are not just shorter men with different organs. I really think some guys believe that aside from biology, women think the same way and should react the same way. Women fundamentally perceive the world in a different way from men, and I honestly can't even imagine what it's like. I don't even try to figure it out because it's not important for my goals.

I like the black box model of women. Sure there is evo psych underpinnings for everything they do, but really, that will just fuck up your game. I don't care what they think, just what they do in response to what I do.

BTW, you can be nice to girls; I am frequently very nice and sweet and generous (but not all the time). BUT, you can't be nice AT FIRST. You have to break them first, like a wild horse, then they will be yours to ride.

I love this bit, it's great, it's exactly how it is, the attraction phase is basically taming a wild horse, than the comfort is the loving and brushing that horses hair to make sure you can trust it in battle (the fuck).