[ryanf]

http://www.xojane.com/relationships/my-h...use-im-fat

Basically, wife gets fat, learns about "fat acceptance" on the Internet. Sends articles to husband thinking he feels the same way, he returns with articles about weigh lifting (genius frame control BTW). She "accepts herself the way she is" and "doesn't feel she needs to lose the weight", and is upset at her husband because he doesn't feel the same way.

Eventually they separate, but the poor beta doesn't think he can do any better and gets back with her. The most recent picture is beyond disgusting, it's actually disturbing.

Warning: this article is full of. SO. MUCH.

[RandalGraves]

The article is basically "so this is how I came to slowly justify giving up on myself."

[Lemmo]

(03-12-2013 07:39 PM)ryanf Wrote:  

http://www.xojane.com/relationships/my-h...use-im-fat

Basically, wife gets fat, learns about "fat acceptance" on the Internet. Sends articles to husband thinking he feels the same way, he returns with articles about weigh lifting (genius frame control BTW). She "accepts herself the way she is" and "doesn't feel she needs to lose the weight", and is upset at her husband because he doesn't feel the same way.

Eventually they separate, but the poor beta doesn't think he can do any better and gets back with her. The most recent picture is beyond disgusting, it's actually disturbing.

Warning: this article is full of. SO. MUCH.

And why does he prefer being with a land whale to being alone? And he married her when she was 160, 5'2". She is now 200. So he was willing to marry a fat slob; he just hand second thoughts when she reached freak show proportions. God forbid she should be expected to make any effort to remain vaguely humanoid in appearance.

[storm]

It looks like the ostrich is fat shaming her. Check out the caption

[InternationPlayboy]

(03-12-2013 08:04 PM)Lemmo Wrote:  

(03-12-2013 07:39 PM)ryanf Wrote:  

http://www.xojane.com/relationships/my-h...use-im-fat

Basically, wife gets fat, learns about "fat acceptance" on the Internet. Sends articles to husband thinking he feels the same way, he returns with articles about weigh lifting (genius frame control BTW). She "accepts herself the way she is" and "doesn't feel she needs to lose the weight", and is upset at her husband because he doesn't feel the same way.

Eventually they separate, but the poor beta doesn't think he can do any better and gets back with her. The most recent picture is beyond disgusting, it's actually disturbing.

Warning: this article is full of. SO. MUCH.

And why does he prefer being with a land whale to being alone? And he married her when she was 160, 5'2". She is now 200. So he was willing to marry a fat slob; he just hand second thoughts when she reached freak show proportions. God forbid she should be expected to make any effort to remain vaguely humanoid in appearance.

I was thinking the same thing. She was obviously a fat slob already when he met her.

[JayRock604]

The ostrich be all like:
"Really? You're not going to eat that? Are you sure? There is obviously something wrong with it, maybe poison..?"
The other ostrich don't want nothing to do with whale scraps and is all naaah f*** that sh*t, knaw'm'sayin?

Edit: also: "When I met my husband, I was the thinnest I'd ever been in my adult life. At 5'2" and 160lbs"

Oh god my ribs hurt, she needs to check out the dictionary for te definition of thin

[GameTheory]

[Sailor]

At 5'2" and 160lbs

What? 1,57 cm and 72 kg? I know girls with 15 kg less and about the sime height and even they are fat!

[storm]

Here is 5'2" and 160lbs


It was all downhill from there my friends.

The only question is:
Would you bang?

(03-12-2013 08:15 PM)JayRock604 Wrote:  

The ostrich be all like:
"Really? You're not going to eat that? Are you sure? There is obviously something wrong with it, maybe poison..?"
The other ostrich don't want nothing to do with whale scraps and is all naaah f*** that sh*t, knaw'm'sayin?

Edit: also: "When I met my husband, I was the thinnest I'd ever been in my adult life. At 5'2" and 160lbs"

Oh god my ribs hurt, she needs to check out the dictionary for te definition of thin

[liberman]

Why Why Why Would you get married to someone who is 160 pounds??

[JayRock604]

(03-12-2013 08:29 PM)storm Wrote:  

Here is 5'2" and 160lbs


It was all downhill from there my friends.

The only question is:
Would you bang?

Oh Jesus I lost my virginity to a chick like that. Do not want. Never again no no no NO.
Now I need to repress that deep in my skull again

[bacon]

ryanf wasnt exaggerating with this article here are some choice quotes

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learning to love my fat body was a smarter goal than losing weight?

Quote:

Was he unconvinced by studies that showed diets don't work?

Quote:

I argued that what we consider attractive is influenced by society; he insisted that it was an innate preference for which he didn't deserve to be judged. He felt like I was accusing him of being gullible and stupid, brainwashed by a culture that vilifies fatness.

Quote:

anti-fat crusader

Quote:

I had given up: given up on dieting, given up on the idea that my body needed to be fixed.

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my fat was part of the package, not something that could (or should) be changed

[JohnKreese]

The comments are predictable, but get pretty funny

Quote:

Anna_Diver> gatogold•10 hours ago−
(Author here) - a little bit of both. He was definitely a dick sometimes and even he admits this now. I left out a part where he took the whole discussion to the internet and threw me to the trolls... that was not a good day

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Anna_Diver> atheologist•9 hours ago−
Yup. I suppose you could consider this piece my revenge... mwahahhahahahah.

You all are being a LOT nicer than the folks over at Testosterone Nation, though. Imagine that...

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Wonderlust> Anna_Diver•6 hours ago−
"I left out a part where he took the whole discussion to the internet and threw me to the trolls..."

The HELL?

Any man who would be so cruel, so viscous, to subject you to the wildly fat-shaming world of Internet trolls is certainly someone who has issues far more hefty than his wife's weight.

Look, it's one thing if he discretely and privately opened up about his feelings and new-found lack of attraction for his wife on a bodybuilding forum, for example. Everyone has that right. But that he made you aware of the fact that he made your private discussion public and you were eviscerated by trolls? What was that meant to prove to you? That he was right and YOU were in the wrong?

There's some serious fucked-up-edness going on here. I sincerely hope you're both still in therapy; I wish you the best personally, but I think your husband is a raging jerk for his actions.

Yet another reason not to get married; you're apparently a pretty bad person for trolling your fat wife on message boards.

And another thing, is it just me or do people who actually write out "mwhahahaha" (evil laugh) always tend to be fat?

[InternationPlayboy]

(03-12-2013 08:40 PM)bacon Wrote:  

ryanf wasnt exaggerating with this article here are some choice quotes

Quote:

learning to love my fat body was a smarter goal than losing weight?

Quote:

Was he unconvinced by studies that showed diets don't work?

Quote:

I argued that what we consider attractive is influenced by society; he insisted that it was an innate preference for which he didn't deserve to be judged. He felt like I was accusing him of being gullible and stupid, brainwashed by a culture that vilifies fatness.

Quote:

anti-fat crusader

Quote:

I had given up: given up on dieting, given up on the idea that my body needed to be fixed.

Quote:

my fat was part of the package, not something that could (or should) be changed

American society is so fucked that these fat women now believe that men are only attracted to thin women because of societies influence? WTF? This is fucked up shit. This weekend I told a couple friends how there aren't any brazilians here any more and the ones that are here are fat. One of them thought that was mean. I responded by saying, "Being fat is NOT a handicap, it's a lifestyle choice!"

[Walderschmidt]

Wrong thread. Woops.

[temujin]

I've broken up with girls for putting on 10 lbs they didn't need.

[Nonpareil]

(03-12-2013 08:30 PM)liberman Wrote:  

Why Why Why Would you get married to someone who is 160 pounds??

Maybe she's 5'10.5?

...with a D cup...

...And a fat ass...

?

Cage-diving with Great Whites is a very bad idea for a woman that size; Great Whites eat large seals because of their energy-rich, high-fat bodies.

Par for the course, the comments are a bunch of fat-accepting, back-patting, society-blaming circle-jerking losers.

[TheSlayer]

Not sure what's more depressing: the article or the comments that are mostly supportive of her. Seriously, women read these articles and I am sure subconsciously they think it's okay to get fat.

[ryanf]

(03-12-2013 09:46 PM)TheSlayer Wrote:  

Not sure what's more depressing: the article or the comments that are mostly supportive of her. Seriously, women read these articles and I am sure subconsciously they think it's okay to get fat.

The comments did it for me. I almost put a fist through my laptop screen.

"Society makes people think fat is unattractive!"

You misspelled biology.

[TheSlayer]

(03-12-2013 09:47 PM)ryanf Wrote:  

(03-12-2013 09:46 PM)TheSlayer Wrote:  

Not sure what's more depressing: the article or the comments that are mostly supportive of her. Seriously, women read these articles and I am sure subconsciously they think it's okay to get fat.

The comments did it for me. I almost put a fist through my laptop screen.

"Society makes people think fat is unattractive!"

You misspelled biology.

Yeah, I read the top comments and got off the page right away. Can't read those idiotic comments.

[Titan]

x1000


The fact that this girls think it's okay to be fat and still have attitudes is beyond my comprehension.

[MattW]

The "Healthy At Every Size" thing makes me sad. I did a quick search to see what 5ft2 and 160lbs looks like and found one where a girl compared pics of herself at 190lbs and 160lbs and the top comment was, "Weight loss is a FUTILE goal. The success rate is less than 1% LONG TERM."

What happened to the people in Pixar's Wally is depressingly accurate.

[ryanf]

(03-12-2013 10:04 PM)MattW Wrote:  

The "Healthy At Every Size" thing makes me sad. I did a quick search to see what 5ft2 and 160lbs looks like and found one where a girl compared pics of herself at 190lbs and 160lbs and the top comment was, "Weight loss is a FUTILE goal. The success rate is less than 1% LONG TERM."

What happened to the people in Pixar's Wally is depressingly accurate.

I used to say that Idiocracy wasn't a comedy, it was a prophecy. I'm thinking about switching that up to replace "comedy" with "cartoon", and "Idiocracy" with "Wall-E"

[Volk]

(03-12-2013 08:09 PM)storm Wrote:  

It looks like the ostrich is fat shaming her. Check out the caption

I don't need superpwoers to read it's mind. It screams "Man, ewww".

[Spike]

I can't feel sorry for the guy. He married his high school sweetheart who was already overweight. He couldn't prevent her from gaining more weight so he's not able to stand up to her and he's a too much of a pussy to break up with her and find a better match.

He got what he deserved and should be happy with it.

PS - I didn't read the article word for word since it was awfully painful to read so I don't know if they have kids. I can't really judge a man who want to stay around and raise his own kids. Society is best of with people being raised by two parents. Not two parents who hate each others guts and ruin the child this way.
I would still break up and try to raise the kids in a good way but then again here in Holland the divorcing rules aren't as fucked as in the US.