Anyone mind looking over my OKCupid profile? I'm assuming it's dreadful and I need help lol. Plus I'll take any pointers on appearance/whatever since you'll obviously see what I look like.
OKCupid Newbie
Here is a pointer: Get off your computer if you want to meet women.
Quote: (03-04-2013 04:06 PM)johnwu Wrote:
Here is a pointer: Get off your computer if you want to meet women.
This x100000. I don't care what your excuse is and I'm sure you'll find some resources here on how to get that profile in tip top shape but I wouldn't go down that road. I've met girls on OKC and fucked them and I've met STRs on OKC, but I categorically dropped online dating a while ago. It's just not worth it. It's dumpster diving, a waste of time, and not conducive to "real life" in-the-moment gaming, which is all that true players or those who want to become one fuck with.
The ONLY exception to this is if you live in Manhattan. If that's the case...proceed, but don't rely on it (I say this because it's the only market where online dating benefits can be worth your time).
"...it's the quiet cool...it's for someone who's been through the struggle and come out on the other side smelling like money and pussy."
"put her in the taxi, put her number in the trash can"
Quote: (03-04-2013 04:12 PM)presidentcarter Wrote:
Quote: (03-04-2013 04:06 PM)johnwu Wrote:
Here is a pointer: Get off your computer if you want to meet women.
This x100000. I don't care what your excuse is and I'm sure you'll find some resources here on how to get that profile in tip top shape but I wouldn't go down that road. I've met girls on OKC and fucked them and I've met STRs on OKC, but I categorically dropped online dating a while ago. It's just not worth it. It's dumpster diving, a waste of time, and not conducive to "real life" in-the-moment gaming, which is all that true players or those who want to become one fuck with.
The ONLY exception to this is if you live in Manhattan. If that's the case...proceed, but don't rely on it (I say this because it's the only market where online dating benefits can be worth your time).
Eh I'm in Cleveland on what a call an island. Bad areas around me to all sides so its difficult to meet women. Other than people on my campus where I'm pretty sure that anyone left is crazy as fuck. After my past experiences.
My OKC game is pretty strong ...
What I have learned is this:
1) Your profile has got to be good. #1 most important thing is your pictures, frankly. Make sure they are good. #2 is the content — as far as that goes, less is more. Make sure to display Alpha traits in your profile but you also gotta show some of the classic "boyfriend" traits or you will get written off as a player by most girls. So try to bob-and-weave a little bit. Overall, make sure your profile doesn't disqualify you. Be genuine but make 'em wonder what you're all about.
2) It's a numbers game. You gotta put out a lot of messages to get bites. Accept this fact and don't take it personally when you don't get a response.
3) If you spend more than 60 seconds thinking about what to say to any individual girl, you're overthinking it. I know some guys swear by cut-and-paste but it's not my thing. Just take a quick glance at a girl's profile and come up with something to say. As with an IRL approach, the first thing you say really doesn't matter that much — if a girl is interested at all, she will respond & give you the chance to continue. Far more important is where you go from there so make sure to stay sharp. Standard text game rules apply: be cocky, confident, and concise.
4) Try to get the conversation off OKC as quickly as possible — but don't rush it. You gotta feel out each individual girl. Some will need more back-and-forth before they will give you their digits or schedule a date. Others you can go right for the kill after a good volley or two. Try to match her rhythm of replies. Beyond that, not sure there are any hard-and-fast rules ... develop your intuition and trust your instincts.
5) If a conversation falls off and you give the dust some time to settle, don't be afraid to re-engage. But above all make sure to avoid coming off as desperate or a try-hard or your window will be closed and nailed shut forever.
6) If you are in a metro area where there aren't many quality girls on OKC (or even if there are) consider setting up your profile as if you're in another city until you get the hang of things & can consistently get digits ... that way you don't burn through all the good leads while you figure out WTF you're doing.
What I have learned is this:
1) Your profile has got to be good. #1 most important thing is your pictures, frankly. Make sure they are good. #2 is the content — as far as that goes, less is more. Make sure to display Alpha traits in your profile but you also gotta show some of the classic "boyfriend" traits or you will get written off as a player by most girls. So try to bob-and-weave a little bit. Overall, make sure your profile doesn't disqualify you. Be genuine but make 'em wonder what you're all about.
2) It's a numbers game. You gotta put out a lot of messages to get bites. Accept this fact and don't take it personally when you don't get a response.
3) If you spend more than 60 seconds thinking about what to say to any individual girl, you're overthinking it. I know some guys swear by cut-and-paste but it's not my thing. Just take a quick glance at a girl's profile and come up with something to say. As with an IRL approach, the first thing you say really doesn't matter that much — if a girl is interested at all, she will respond & give you the chance to continue. Far more important is where you go from there so make sure to stay sharp. Standard text game rules apply: be cocky, confident, and concise.
4) Try to get the conversation off OKC as quickly as possible — but don't rush it. You gotta feel out each individual girl. Some will need more back-and-forth before they will give you their digits or schedule a date. Others you can go right for the kill after a good volley or two. Try to match her rhythm of replies. Beyond that, not sure there are any hard-and-fast rules ... develop your intuition and trust your instincts.
5) If a conversation falls off and you give the dust some time to settle, don't be afraid to re-engage. But above all make sure to avoid coming off as desperate or a try-hard or your window will be closed and nailed shut forever.
6) If you are in a metro area where there aren't many quality girls on OKC (or even if there are) consider setting up your profile as if you're in another city until you get the hang of things & can consistently get digits ... that way you don't burn through all the good leads while you figure out WTF you're doing.
"If you live among wolves you have to act like a wolf." - Nikita Khrushchev
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