What women want from male feminists
This article and the comments retread familiar ground, but it is worth rehashing. The sensitive feminist man, the "sensitive ponytail man schtick to get more 'tang", the white knight looking to protect women is skewered. At the same time a man is counseled on what they need to do.
The feminist mandate: wear a dress, be our platonic friend (expect no sex), do the housework and watch the children, value our professional working life, support our cause in your art, support our cause even at the cost of hurting your relationship with other men, have no selfish motive (daughters) for supporting our cause, do crimes and violence in support of our cause, but don't take yourself too seriously.
Everywhere, women hold hoops to jump through, as if a man has no right or will to support an issue as he sees fit. "As a male feminist, I sum it up this way: when it comes to gender issues, I defer to whatever Jezebel tells me to do. That can get kinda confusing at times..."
In return, contempt from women: "To be honest, I don't like male feminists. They're also desperate for female attention and acceptance, they love being one of the "good guys", and will take any chance to use their "feminism" to pick up women."
It is clear here there is no respect for men who support their cause. They simply want men to do their bidding, and to become women.
The male voices in the comment section are alien to me. Something tells me these are the voices of millennial men who grew up in single mother households, who are trying to please their mother's ideology, the ideology they grew up with. When I supported women's rights (and responsibilities) when I was in college in the 80's (it was a different time, boys) I certainly didn't ask women about how I was supposed to do it. I would have been appalled at someone dictating this.
Are these ridiculous conversations (where insecure men parrot feminist tropes) simply the side effect of single parent homes and the lack of male role model (for boys and for girls)? Is being an "alpha" essentially refusing to take part in these ridiculous conversations.
This article and the comments retread familiar ground, but it is worth rehashing. The sensitive feminist man, the "sensitive ponytail man schtick to get more 'tang", the white knight looking to protect women is skewered. At the same time a man is counseled on what they need to do.
The feminist mandate: wear a dress, be our platonic friend (expect no sex), do the housework and watch the children, value our professional working life, support our cause in your art, support our cause even at the cost of hurting your relationship with other men, have no selfish motive (daughters) for supporting our cause, do crimes and violence in support of our cause, but don't take yourself too seriously.
Everywhere, women hold hoops to jump through, as if a man has no right or will to support an issue as he sees fit. "As a male feminist, I sum it up this way: when it comes to gender issues, I defer to whatever Jezebel tells me to do. That can get kinda confusing at times..."
In return, contempt from women: "To be honest, I don't like male feminists. They're also desperate for female attention and acceptance, they love being one of the "good guys", and will take any chance to use their "feminism" to pick up women."
It is clear here there is no respect for men who support their cause. They simply want men to do their bidding, and to become women.
The male voices in the comment section are alien to me. Something tells me these are the voices of millennial men who grew up in single mother households, who are trying to please their mother's ideology, the ideology they grew up with. When I supported women's rights (and responsibilities) when I was in college in the 80's (it was a different time, boys) I certainly didn't ask women about how I was supposed to do it. I would have been appalled at someone dictating this.
Are these ridiculous conversations (where insecure men parrot feminist tropes) simply the side effect of single parent homes and the lack of male role model (for boys and for girls)? Is being an "alpha" essentially refusing to take part in these ridiculous conversations.
"Equality may perhaps be a right, but no power on earth can ever turn it into a fact."
"Want him to be more of a man? Try being more of a woman!"
"It is easier to be a lover than a husband, for the same reason that it is more difficult to be witty every day, than to say bright things from time to time."
Balzac, Physiology of Marriage
