[Nascimento]

I'm looking to improve my text game, specifically by adding sexuality to it. It wasn't until recently that I started making a breakthrough by being more sexually forward with girls I knew were attracted to me. I have had no experience with sexual texting before, if anything just teasing, but nothing fully direct.

I met this girl last Friday, and was able to pull for my second ever one night stand. I gave her my number and told her she could text me if she wanted to.

She texted me Saturday:
- heyy
Me: If this is a booty call.. please tell me you also made me cookies
- Nope but I have ice cream

Her reply was at 8pm. I had a feeling I could have met her that night with great certainty, but I went out instead.

On Sunday, I start with:
- I can see you tonight after I'm done work. It might be past your bedtime, though
- I get you as a booty call tonight Don't worry I have a late bed time

From there we worked out the details, and I saw her last night.

Today (Monday) she texts me around 8pm 'hey cutie ' and I reply 3 hours later:
-Nighty night, try not to dream about me.
-Who are you again?
-Just an irresistible sex bomb.
-Oh him, never heard of him...
-Keep it secret. Can't provide everyone with sexual favors.
-Hahah okay Nascimento. You're not that great calm down but I'm going to bed night

How did the exchange go? With her in person after sex I was very humorous, I-can't-tell-if-you're-serious vibe, and laid back. Is this frame that I set over texting too cocky and incongruent? Or is she just busting my balls with that last comment?

Furthermore.. How did you guys add sexuality to your texting? I have been focusing on becoming more sexual in my interactions, where I have seen some development, but texting sexually is something I am just starting out with.

[Jaylow]

(02-26-2013 12:34 AM)Nascimento Wrote:  

Me: If this is a booty call.. please tell me you also made me cookies

^The only good line you had. I am assuming you had sex with her so the other stuff the day after doesn't matter as much. When you said to her "I get you as a booty call tonight" that is basically implying she is a slut so I would stay away from comments like that. Its the way you word it. Notice the difference between this line and the one I highlighted above, both had booty call in it but one was really good and the other line could have cost you her coming over.

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

The last part is too try hard, especially the "-Keep it secret. Can't provide everyone with sexual favors.". The Saturday exchange was great, though.

That said, you obviously banged, so who cares?

[bojangles]

im waiting for G Manifesto to roll in and say 'call her'

[Handsome Creepy Eel]

I'm waiting for G Manifesto to roll in and post a "Was this Beta?" parody

[Luxe]

Maybe other guys can offer different perspective, for me the only time sexualizing through texts has helped me was when 2 conditions were met: 1) she was initiating the texts and 2) I had already established a lot of comfort, either taken her out on a first date but did not close because or last minute resistance or bad logistics (i.e. more than just a 30 min conversation at a bar). I think a lot of people will say "you can't build attraction through text" but I disagree in certain circumstances, because I have kept some leads alive through texts and the girls referenced my texts in face to face conversations a week later. It will establish a sexual frame for the next face to face interaction. That means it was memorable and they were thinking about me.

Assuming these parameters are met, one good tactic is try to get her to send you a picture. Doesn't have to be anything too scandalous, a t-shirt and panties is good and means she is investing. You want to be more conservative though, 2 strong sexual texts in a row is pushing it.

[Nascimento]

(02-26-2013 01:15 AM)Jaylow Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 12:34 AM)Nascimento Wrote:  

Me: If this is a booty call.. please tell me you also made me cookies

^The only good line you had. I am assuming you had sex with her so the other stuff the day after doesn't matter as much. When you said to her "I get you as a booty call tonight" that is basically implying she is a slut so I would stay away from comments like that. Its the way you word it. Notice the difference between this line and the one I highlighted above, both had booty call in it but one was really good and the other line could have cost you her coming over.

She was the one who said 'I get you as a booty call tonight'

It seems like everything went well up until I had sex with her again on Sunday, a bit downhill after that.

I'm assuming I just don't initiate texts with her at all. If she sends me any text within the next few days, maybe reply with something witty/non sexual, just something brief? Best case scenario she gives another call and I can proceed with that, otherwise it doesn't matter. I'm going out this coming weekend to try and find another anyways.

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The last part is too try hard, especially the "-Keep it secret. Can't provide everyone with sexual favors.". The Saturday exchange was great, though.

That said, you obviously banged, so who cares?

Point taken. Still learning how to calibrate this stuff. I am thinking of keeping this line and reusing it again in the future 'if this is a booty call, please tell me you made me cookies'

[Matt3B]

If you're texting sexually do NOT be cocky about your sexual abilities. This will harm your chances even after you've fucked her because it makes you seem to her as if you're saying "hey, I've just had sex. I'm the man".

You can put a few feelers out there and see if she takes the bait:

"I'm just getting into my hot and steamy bath" - makes her think of you naked
"I'm just getting into my nice, big bed" - aka where sex happens (sometimes)
"I'm going for a shave" - shaving what?

You get the idea. They're ambiguous but if she takes the bait and escalates, you can continue in that frame. Maybe she'll playfully invite herself into the bath or bed to keep you company, or she'll tease you about shaving your legs.

You can't just text the majority of girls with an apocalypse sex opener unless you know what type of girl she is and she's comfortable talking like that (better known as a slut). Be smooth and get her thinking about it in subtle ways like I've said above. There's a whole load of ways to do it, but it's always best to let her start, I find.

You never know where she is. She could be out having a meal with her family or baking something with a friend or her mum and you won't have caught her at the right time if you initiate incorrectly. The examples above are what you can say, but also what you can lead her onto. If you're asking her what she's doing and she says one of the above, you can test the water yourself to get her thinking about you being there with her.

The thing is though, sex is sex and it's not done by text. You can get the topic going and she'll hope for you to escalate, you can talk about being in the bath with her and what you'd do to her, and assuming she's playing ball, she'll be getting hot for it and will normally ask questions like "what else?" and "then what?".

At this point, STOP talking sexually.

"And then I roll over to sleep and dream of being a jedi like Luke Skywalker". It'll frustrate her, she'll want more but most importantly, you won't be doing a beta move by talking too much sex with her by text.

[iknowexactly]

Today (Monday) she texts me around 8pm 'hey cutie ' and I reply 3 hours later:
-Nighty night, try not to dream about me.

Wait three hours after her flirtatious, inviting text, then you text something dismissive that offers nothing?

Just sounds mean and cheap to me.

[RCron]

I have never had good luck going sexual via text in the early stages of any kind of relationship. It was only after seeing someone for a while and banging then multiple times did sexting ever work as a means of turning them on. If I were in your situation I would just keep the texting fun and use it for handling logistics only.

You can't bang her over text message so why squander your attraction capital trying to do so?

[Hotwheels]

(02-26-2013 11:31 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

Today (Monday) she texts me around 8pm 'hey cutie ' and I reply 3 hours later:
-Nighty night, try not to dream about me.

Wait three hours after her flirtatious, inviting text, then you text something dismissive that offers nothing?

Just sounds mean and cheap to me.

That's an example of going too far with Aloof/Asshole game.

If I was to get "Hey Cutie" my response would be "What's up Hotbox?" a few minutes later, figuring she may be up for round three this evening.

Too many guys think the "rules" of game are ironclad or something and go way overboard trying to be something they are not. If you are really an "asshole" you don't need to play games like waiting three hours to text "Nighty night.. blah blah". That just looks try hard.

Broads know an asshole when they meet one and will know when you are playing a game.

[Menace]

With women I find it's best to go with innuendo and things that require her to read between the lines, especially if there is no ongoing sexual relationship established. Don't try too hard. If a chick is going to not bang you b/c of one text you sent, her interest was never strong to begin with. Women who are actually interested are somewhat forgiving, unless you text something REALLY retarded.

[soup]

I don't get the point of trying to sexualize a text convo with a girl you haven't banged.

You are treating her as if she has the same psychology of a man.

That's what gay guys do. They go on Grinder and just meet up and fuck.

Girls need to be gamed.

[Hotwheels]

This guy had already banged it sounds like.

Pre bang use innuendos to get her temp up without specifically talking about sex.

[Nascimento]

(02-26-2013 11:51 AM)Hotwheels Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 11:31 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  

Today (Monday) she texts me around 8pm 'hey cutie ' and I reply 3 hours later:
-Nighty night, try not to dream about me.

Wait three hours after her flirtatious, inviting text, then you text something dismissive that offers nothing?

Just sounds mean and cheap to me.

That's an example of going too far with Aloof/Asshole game.

If I was to get "Hey Cutie" my response would be "What's up Hotbox?" a few minutes later, figuring she may be up for round three this evening.

Too many guys think the "rules" of game are ironclad or something and go way overboard trying to be something they are not. If you are really an "asshole" you don't need to play games like waiting three hours to text "Nighty night.. blah blah". That just looks try hard.

Broads know an asshole when they meet one and will know when you are playing a game.

Duly noted. I have always been the one initiating texts and I have just started to change that recently.. I seem to think that even a simple conversation starter from her needs some special or out of the ordinary reply. Next time, I will keep it simple.. 'What's up dork?'

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With women I find it's best to go with innuendo and things that require her to read between the lines, especially if there is no ongoing sexual relationship established. Don't try too hard. If a chick is going to not bang you b/c of one text you sent, her interest was never strong to begin with. Women who are actually interested are somewhat forgiving, unless you text something REALLY retarded.

I think I messed up pretty bad here, looking back on it now. But maybe she will be forgiving, we'll see. I'm not going to apologize for making that mistake, acting like an arrogant dick. But rather, if she starts conversation again I will just be witty without trying too hard to impress. Worst case scenario, this will be a learning experience, so I don't mess up in the future with a girl that I am greatly attracted to.

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I don't get the point of trying to sexualize a text convo with a girl you haven't banged.

We did bang, the whole point of this thread for me is so I can learn how to calibrate my texting better after the bang. My pre-bang texting right now isn't sexual at all, more aloof/witty to get her laughing and try to get a meetup. Done fairly well with that in the past. This is just my first experience texting after the bang, so I'm looking for feedback on that. Seems like it needs lots of work, but I feel I can get this up to a decent level quickly.

[Knowledge Seeker]

You already banged her. So what's the big deal? I think you're over thinking it.

If you were already inside that pussy, feel free to text her as many nasty things as you want. It's not going to scare her off as it would pre-bang. Keep it fun. Keep it light. Keep it entertaining. Girls love when you describe what you want to do with them.

Keep it up.