[rdvirus]

I got fucked over in a LTR not too long ago, was sadly very beta and walked myself into it.. Girl cheated on me then left me to find out for myself.. Snapped on her when I did, told her to go fck herself, atleast have the decency to break things off with me first, you're a slut blahblahblah guilt trippin beta. Found this site and got my first real taste of red pill.. Been progressively feeling better about every little thing in my life since, even got a bang within a month of reading and trying to apply some basics to my game. Anyways to the point -- ended all contact with this chick about 2 months ago to preserve what little dignity I had left.. Found a pair of yoga pants cleaning my car out, dropped them off at her house with a note saying I wasn't sure if they were her or her friends(mutual, always accused me of hooking up with her - wish I did) as a decent but sad attempt to piss her off and get her hamster spinning. She messaged me asking if I had dropped something off and I never answered.. Fast forward a couple weeks, 2am -- my phone rings. Sure enough it's her calling me.. Curiosity got the best of me.. Answer the phone and she's balling her eyes out.. telling me she's so sorry, she doesn't know what she's doing blahblahblah. Says she's walking home, she's freezing,(-20C outside) doesn't know where she is(lives up the street from me).. Told her its okay but I'm busy and can't do anything to help her. She said thanks for answering, kept sobbing and started saying I guess ill hang up now(sure bud)... Told her to let me know when she gets home then hung up. She sent me a couple txts saying sorry and all this bullshit.. Never answered, been a few days now.

I don't even know where I stand mentally with this.. I feel like I played the right cards when I talked to her on the phone -- my options are open still. She was clearly putting on a show and I'm guessing expected me to respond by dropping everything and going to save her(what I woulda done pre-RVF) I guess what I'm looking for is some advice with how to proceed..

Do I do everything I can to get her over, hate fuck the shit out of her, jizz in her hair then kick her out and make her walk home? Or do I play the indifference card and make her my beta orbiter? Or do I completely ignore her, cut my losses and move onto the other billion fish with lessons learned? Or do I say I'll do something and then get cursed with oneitis again and lifelong ODing on the blue pill?(kidding)

Revenge is pretty sweet but dignity is too.. Part of me says if I would have went to meet her she woulda tried to come back to my place and seduce me, get me right back into her clutch but I coulda played that to my advantage. Part of me says to just leave it and not stay hung up on anything to do with this cunt any longer. Over analysis FTW

So, opinions?

[Julio]

(02-26-2013 10:01 AM)rdvirus Wrote:  

Answer the phone and she's balling her eyes out.. telling me she's so sorry, she doesn't know what she's doing blahblahblah. Says she's walking home, she's freezing,(-20C outside) doesn't know where she is(lives up the street from me)..

Probably she fucked some random dude who then kicked her out his place and then she was calling you because she felt horrible...

Don't talk to her, she cheated on you, there is nothing she can bring you except more problems and headaches. Keep on working on your game and forget her...

[GenJx]

(02-26-2013 10:01 AM)rdvirus Wrote:  

Or do I completely ignore her, cut my losses and move onto the other billion fish with lessons learned?

you should have already done this, not make a long post on a forum about her

[rdvirus]

(02-26-2013 10:15 AM)GenJx Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:01 AM)rdvirus Wrote:  

Or do I completely ignore her, cut my losses and move onto the other billion fish with lessons learned?

you should have already done this, not make a long post on a forum about her

Ahaha seen this coming.. Hence the newbie forum.

[TheIslander829]

I understand where you are, bud. Just keep working on your game and banging more girls.

If you're no longer emotionally attached to her, you can always bang her and then kick her out of your place. But by the looks of it, it's best you stay away form her for at leas 1 year or 2.

[RouteBackwards]

If you have sex with her, or even see her, it's because a part of you still has intense feelings for her. When you do this, you will end up down a slippery slope of familiarity and those good feelings that she gave you in the past, will resurface. Your post exudes a sense of wanting to gain her approval again. That's not your fault, love fucks dudes up, but if you choose to see her again, or even speak to her again, you'll end up right where you left off.

You have to ask yourself, do you really want that? I understand you are going under the pretext that you want revenge, but that word is only a vehicle to drive you to seeing her again. So, you must ask yourself, do you really want to go down that route? There was definitely good on that route, but there was also a lot of sadness, and pain, and by giving her your time again, you will end up feeling those things again, even if everything feels sugar coated and nice this "time."

A man with options that are better than his ex will nullify any feelings for his ex. Of course, love is involved, but fresh, tighter, cuter pussy will help numb you to the effects of love and in turn make it easier for you to move on.

Me personally, I would find a sexy nineteen year old, fuck her and ask yourself if you still miss your ex. If the answer is yes sir, then you can tuck your tail between your legs and go back only to "jizz into her hair," but your male hamster will rationalize that being "nice to her this time" because she's being so sweet will be ok, and those familiar relationship routines will come to surface after a couple times of fucking her again.

There is an abstract scenario, or third pillar scenario, that happens to many gentlemen after having been cheated on by their girlfriends, and that's that you are going to sleep with women to place that void you feel for your girlfriend. Doing this will lead to ultimate dissatisfaction, because even if the girl is a ten+ model, your male hamster will rationalize that your ex girlfriend is ten times hotter and that you could be doing better. In this case I suggest you focus your time on not women, but hobbies that better you as a person like working out, building manly shit, or expanding your understanding of a particular topic you are interested in.

However, I am not you, and a man must build his own path, whatever route you choose will have its own set of obstacles, but is up to you to find out which obstacles will be most fulfilling in the long term.

[el mechanico]

I treat all my ex girlfriends like they're random bar skanks or after midnight girls. If you can do that hit it if not then don't either way don't waste "prime time" on her.

[BoiBoi]

(02-26-2013 10:13 AM)julio26 Wrote:  

Don't talk to her, she cheated on you, there is nothing she can bring you except more problems and headaches. Keep on working on your game and forget her...

Do yourself a favor and follow julio's advice. Fuck that bitch, she is rotten goods. Ignore her calls, dont meet up with her, just move on. Believe me, been there, done that...

[Parlay44]

She cheated. You caught her. Next.

I say this over and over in here ...If you were banging 4 different girls
then you wouldn't be sweating this 1.

[polymath]

Move on dude. She cheated on you and she doesn't deserve your sympathy or your kindness. If she wanted those things she should have been faithful when she had you.

You say that you cut off contact to preserve "what little dignity" you had left. Why, then, would you subject your dignity to another bout with her?

You options aren't open, they just feel that way because you haven't caved yet. Let her feel rejected for once.

I just don't see a reason to waste your time with someone who has previously cheated on you in a relationship.

[rdvirus]

This is why I posted.. Kinda a rant but needed to get it out there to someone for a second opinion. To be completely honest I'm thinking i fit into Routes "third category". Definitely some food for thought... Appreciate the support guys

[bojangles]

bang her friend, the one she thinks you were trying it with.

[Jaylow]

She just got fucked by some random dude she probably just met and got tossed out after 20 minutes. She was not crying until she dialed your number and the moment you hang up she stopped crying. Girls do this for sympathy/attention/manipulation. Dont fall for this garbage.

[DarkTriad]

(02-26-2013 10:18 AM)rdvirus Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:15 AM)GenJx Wrote:  

(02-26-2013 10:01 AM)rdvirus Wrote:  

Or do I completely ignore her, cut my losses and move onto the other billion fish with lessons learned?

you should have already done this, not make a long post on a forum about her

Ahaha seen this coming.. Hence the newbie forum.

I do the same thing. Whenever I'm having a beta backslide, I post in here rather than clog up the main forum.

[thegmanifesto]

(02-26-2013 10:31 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:  

I say this over and over in here ...If you were banging 4 different girls
then you wouldn't be sweating this 1.

Excellent advice.

[relo]

The single greatest regret of my life is not ghosting a slut who wanted me back.

[MrXY]

I guarantee you she had another guy's jizz in her when she made that phone call.

As El Mech suggests, if your inner game is strong and you have other girls you're banging, it can be ok to bang an ex from time to time if she makes it easy for you.

but you are not at that level yet, so it's best if you just cut her off and forget about her.

[jerome]

The greatest revenge is forgetting and realizing this is nothen and not important, life is to short to get depress and angry over someone that way not loyal....the greatest revenge is moving on and start living your life....start being happy and enjoying life....

Doing what you love, banging and meeting new hot bitches, making more money, and traveling = all of this should be on your mind, not this bitch.

[Spider]

fuck her. if you give in to her fake-crying and other bullshit, you'll end up in a worse place then when you first found out she cheated.

she should be dead to you...never respond to her.

[big poppa]

Agree with the consensus of this thread.

It's only been a couple months, my guess is you still have a bit of oneitis over this girl buried inside, which will resurface as soon as you decide to give her the time of day again.

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

You've made progress over the last couple months and you don't wanna go back to where you were. The exact same thing happened to me, my LTR of 2 years fucked her ex.. We broke up, but every chance I would have to bang her again I would take it, and it took me a long long time to fully get over her, which only happened when I dropped ALL contact.

In a years time, you'll laugh about how you ever even gave a shit about this girl.

[Matt3B]

There's some belting advice in here, rdvirus. The only thing I'm going to add to what everyone else is saying is don't ignore it because these lads are right.

[MikeinMKE]

(02-26-2013 11:25 AM)bojangles Wrote:  

bang her friend, the one she thinks you were trying it with.

+1. That's the only way to go here. If you hang the friend first I'd go so far as to say you could then bang the ex bc you'd be feeling your oats at that point

[esperar]

One thing I've had to learn the hard way is this: NEVER go back to a girl has disrespected you.