Quote: (05-12-2010 09:03 PM)upandcoming1 Wrote:
i have learnt to never give the girl a inch of breathing room
Easy young Playa, You are taking this shit too serious. "Never give a girl an inch of breathing room". This is good advice if you are a Pimp and you are "training a ho" (which is not a glamorous or rewarding lifestyle). But if you are just a college kid trying to chase a few skirts around campus, then this is to "extreme", there is no reason to be this mean and demanding. You will probably scare away alot of good prospects because you might seem like you are trying to hard to be a "tough guy". Yes, some girls with major issues do want to be treated bad, but in my experience, you can shag more girls just by being a cool, laid back, yet strong dude.
You remind me of myself when i was in my late teens, early 20's. I thought that i could be the baddest dude in town by not taking any shit from anyone, including bitches. But as I got older I realized that by being this way, I was actually losing alot of girls, most girls don't respond well to being treated bad. Seems obvious right! A few girls will gravitate towards your Pimping, but what about the smart girls, the athletic girls, the healthy girls, the outdoorsy girls, the model-actress girls, the small town girls, the academic girls, the fashion girls, the coffee shop girls, etc. Most of these girls want a guy who is not so uptight. If you think about it, being to hard on your girl is actually a sign of "neediness".
I agree that you should not show any weakness or neediness to a girl early on, but after you have banged her a few times and you guys become freindly, it might be okay to let your guard down a little. If you don't she might start thinking that you are a little weird or that you are insecure.
In the long run, I feel you will have more success treating girls good then you will treating girls bad.
But, you are on the right track. Just adjust your game to fit the girl. And keep us updated young playboy.