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So I joined OKC after new years to supplement the time away from my girlfriend I see once a month and to hopefully get out a bit more and hook up with new girls on the down low. After reading the entirety of the 70 something page thread on here about OKC (it's long but totally worth it) I was able to make the most out of my profile focusing on a great headshot, shirtless pic, and one of me and my friends (edit the pictures on your phone so it looks like instagram) I then reworked a profile template I found on a PUA forum where they guy averages 100 views a day. (The important part is the message me portion) it works as a qualifier and also giant cold read.
Message me if you would like to. But this is how I would describe women I usually date:
She is attractive, intelligent, mature-yet carefree and independent.
Educated but also street smart, she is open to new things. She hasn't quite decided yet if she wants to live in NYC for all her life, but she loves being here.
She has good friends and prefers talking about events and ideas rather than people. She has a passion.
She holds similar interests, but is always able to show me something new. She considers herself a challenge.
Now comes the messaging/spam part of the online dating game. A huge thank you to RandalGraves for outlining the template for me and showing me the way. As stated on the OKC thread
"Keep it short and upbeat. The goal is to keep it quick but leave her feeling you have a connection. I usually keep two conversation threads going in the same message, continuing the TV show convo and then making another observation about a hobby or fun thing in her profile. By the 3rd message I send out, I end it with btw, my name is _____. She responds with her name in the next message and generally by the 4th message I send I continue the conversation(s) and end it with Hey ____ you seem pretty interesting. Let's grab a drink sometime in _____. She will say okay, and my final message will be okay send me your number so we can keep in touch."
This has been so helpful and I can't count how many times I've referred back to this until I had it virtually memorized. So all of my messages to girls look something like this.
Me: Hey, you look like a _____ type of girl
Her: I don't want to sound stupid but what does that mean haha
Me: Have you seen the show? So good! Barney keeps me cracking up for days haha I'm ____ btw
Her: I'm _____. Oh haha yeah that show is the best. Barney is funny, but Marshall is my favorite he cracks me up.
Me: Yeah they're both really great. So you're into fashion right? Any tips on what to wear to a first date?
Her: Yep. Well it all depends on where you're going. But you can't go wrong with a nice clean pair of jeans, and a dark color button down shirt. I don't know why but girls always love when guys wear a black or dark color shirt. Girls especially check out shoes so go with a pair your comfortable wearing but that look fairly new.
Me: Awesome, thanks so much for the advice! I'll be sure to keep dark colors and nice shoes in mind. You seem like a really cool girl, maybe we can grab a drink sometime
Her: No problem anytime and definitely.
Me: Alright cool, send me your number so we can keep in touch
Her: XXX XXX XXXX
It gradually becomes set in stone what I'm going to say no matter how she responds because it's always the same. The only difference might be her hobbies that you ask about but it's usually fashion, dancing or yoga. After I get the number I shoot her a text asking when she's free that weekend and stack her either on Friday or Saturday night. It's important to stack dates because flaking as you can imagine is huge. So during the week I'll collect numbers and stack dates and send out a confirmation text the day of and deal with flakes. Here's my data for January.
Profile views per day: 30-40
Numbers: 35
Dates: 6
Bangs:1 Russian flag
Conclusions: Super happy about my Russian flag I should really be proud she was awesome! But it basically turns into a huge funnel, from messages to getting the numbers to the dates which they hopefully show up to. Even the dates turn into a funnel, the only second date I got turned into a bang. To get to that point you have to work with large quantities of girls and not get excited about anything except maybe if you get a second date. The farthest I've gotten on first date has been a make out which happens 50% of the time. There's no time to text back and forth and build rapport because most likely she'll flake. In fact don't get excited about dates because you most likely wont get another one. If you don't get a make out forget it, don't ever text her again. After a while this gets draining and I had to take frequent breaks.
Hypotheses: I'm working on this new theory of trading pics before meeting, yet another funnel to the equation. I haven't had success with many pretty girls trading pics only ugly ones so far. Also I've noticed a trend of "nerdy" girls on here who brag about being into video games etc. Watch out for these because they are ugly and the reason they pretend to be into nerd stuff is to get attention from nerdy betas because they're so busted they can't get attention from alphas. Beware I've had this happen twice. Also investigating keyword search for "Poland" "Brazil" and "Russia" hopefully to score foreign girls and searches for "just moved" and "new to the city" to get some of the new girls.
Goals: Next month I want to work on tightening the funnel and qualifying girls more, also I think I'm going somewhere with the date stacking and pic trading. My goal is to have hot girls come over for drinks and a movie (bang) but I'm having difficulties connecting the dots. The single night lay eludes me. I'll be sure to post again next month with an update, thanks so much for reading!
