[babelfish669]

Like any tool Facebook is completely manageable. Use it right, it works great, use it wrong and its going to be a pain. If your convincing three girls that your in exclusive relationships with them, then yeah its going to be difficult.

I like Facebook. Girls are always breaking or losing their cellphones and no one uses their email daily anymore so its really good way to stay in contact. Plus I got some pretty ridiculous pics on there with celebrities. And I don't tell any girls I'm in exclusive relationships with them.

- You can block people from searching for you
- You can set up your wall so only you can write on it
- You can block friends from seeing your friends lists
and so on

Learn the privacy settings and use them to your advantage. Don't post stupid stuff on your wall or on your friends walls. Keep the jealous girls off, or set them up in a group where they can't see anything at all.

No Facebook account means you aren't going to know what pictures your friends have been posting of you up on there. If your seeing girls who know your friends, they might be friending them and not you.

[Timoteo]

I'm very particular about who I add to Facebook. It's pretty much people that are already long-time friends that are on there, and it helps us keep up with each other and communicate. It's also great for the international chicks I'm hoping to eventually visit and smash. That, of course, expands out to the occasional friend-of-a-friend that thinks you're cool, but that's about it. I like that you can find old school friends that you've lost touch with (and see how fat chicks have gotten over the years...HA HA!). I get the occasional random invite from strangers, which I reject. I have added a handful of chicks that I've had good communication with on another site (Tagged), but most I don't want to fuck. I added one that I DID fuck (and her oldest daughter too!), but I WANT her to see what I'm doing because she started acting like a jealous bitch (she's in London, so I don't give a fuck). On Tagged I ran into the jealousy thing with a chick I banged. She immediately started commenting about what another other chick was posting on my page, and was trying to see what I was posting back, but couldn't because the chick's page was private. I ended up having to delete her. On Tagged you can see who looked at your page, and the other chick told me she was trying to peep. Hilarious. Chicks are petty and competitive.

I've heard of people using FB for dating, but I've never seen it as being particularly set up for really doing that. It isn't the best for trying to meet strangers, and I don't want to add randoms that I meet here and there. You're giving someone you don't know access to your world, and you don't know if they can be trusted with that access. I have searched Facebook to learn more about chicks I've met on other sites though (if they're using their actual names of course - I've actually found and perused some facebook pages without telling them I know they're on FB). People will try to search for you on FB - almost on the assumption that you have an account there.

[Aliblahba]

(07-31-2011 11:47 PM)babelfish669 Wrote:  

Like any tool Facebook is completely manageable. Use it right, it works great, use it wrong and its going to be a pain. If your convincing three girls that your in exclusive relationships with them, then yeah its going to be difficult.

I like Facebook. Girls are always breaking or losing their cellphones and no one uses their email daily anymore so its really good way to stay in contact. Plus I got some pretty ridiculous pics on there with celebrities. And I don't tell any girls I'm in exclusive relationships with them.

- You can block people from searching for you
- You can set up your wall so only you can write on it
- You can block friends from seeing your friends lists
and so on

Learn the privacy settings and use them to your advantage. Don't post stupid stuff on your wall or on your friends walls. Keep the jealous girls off, or set them up in a group where they can't see anything at all.

No Facebook account means you aren't going to know what pictures your friends have been posting of you up on there. If your seeing girls who know your friends, they might be friending them and not you.

I recently discovered the privacy settings, which does make facebook a useful tool. Blocking your friends from others seeing it is golden. When questioned about, I say that I'm friends from guys at work that don't like each other, and it keeps the drama down on my wall, when someone makes a comment on it.

Bottom line, I can add girls now w/out getting busted.

[xmlenigma]

I'd like to keep in touch with a mexico girl or two who dont have Smart phones so whatsapp etc is out. Is there some non FB way to keep in touch or do I make a new FB account for these pursuits?

[Carlos100]

(10-23-2014 01:38 PM)xmlenigma Wrote:  

I'd like to keep in touch with a mexico girl or two who dont have Smart phones so whatsapp etc is out. Is there some non FB way to keep in touch or do I make a new FB account for these pursuits?

How about just basic Yahoo email or Gmail? I don't have a smartphone and I don't use my cellphone to message girls because I'm married. So, I use Facebook to message girls without "friending" them. Some girls' smartphones, apparently, won't clearly show messages wating in in their "other" folder/tab, so you have to let them know in advance to look for your messages there.

I use FB to stay in touch with girls who live in different countries, some of whom I've banged and some I haven't. I rarely send a friend request to a girl, but if she sends me one I will usually accept because I don't post hardly anything to my wall and I have it set where no one else can post anything to it, so it keeps the aura of mystery. If a girl I meet gives me her full name and says she has FB, sometimes I won't ask for her phone number or email and just message her later on FB without sending her a friend request.

So, just use FB as an alternate communication medium along with the other mediums you use. But, carefully control it so it serves your interests.

[godfather dust]

why do you want her on facebook, facebook is for faggots and women.

[Jameson]

I found Facebook and Snapchat have been useful for girls I don't want to put effort into. Simply add them, let my social circle and posts build value, then pull them when the opportunity arises (eg run into them at bars)

[draketton]

Everything on my facebook is invisible to people I add except for my profile picture, timeline picture and city of residence.

I will add girls who find me but if they're expecting to dig up juicy details they will always be disappointed.

[Rawmeo]

No. You never know when she will find an old publication or something that might disqualify you. Better keep your private things private, and pretend you're not on FB.

[boinerd]

I just deleted my Facebook it doesn't give me productivity while working. And its not good gaming for women.

[Hazaer]

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

[Harami]

@Hazaer
Initiate with a hi, catch up, tease her about her hair. Keep a casual attitude. In the end maybe try to get her number again. I think you didn't escalate much in your earlier meetups and she lost interest. This time leave such an impression that she never dares to lose interest again.

Let's just wait for a better suggestion. Nice write up. I'm curious, do you tend to overthink about particular girls due to your 'writer mind' ?

[Player_1337]

FB is quite lame in general, but has been a surprising gem for me regarding game. Despite the widespread lack of enthusiasm I've seen on the forum, I've landed many bangs and meet-ups using it for "reconnecting" with girls from high school and college. No luck reeling in complete strangers or au pairs... yet.

I've adapted my successful online game approach when using it. Keep things simple- a few terse messages (calibrate content, tone and length based on her responses and enthusiasm) back and forth and number close/proposal based on the premise of drinks and "catching up". All of my correspondence is carried out via private messaging, rather than public wall posts or commenting on airheaded status updates. My profile and information is empty- just some solid profile pics.

[Rawmeo]

I never use Facebook. While on paper you can have a "double life" by creating a "chicks" and "others" group and make your posts invisible to each other, this is a major drawback:

Your chicks and your "real" family members, perhaps LTR, will see each other in friends suggestion. I got caught this way. I had a "Chicks" group who were unable to see any of my posts, therefore ensuring that my family / friends / WIFE never know that I have those chicks on my Facebook, and my wife asked who was "this girl" when she got a friend request from her. The "people you may know" breaks every privacy barrier you are trying to make.

Even completely disabling friend requests from anyone didn't work, because I had a chick search for my name, see my profile, and leave without doing anything. Then my wife appeared in her "people you may know" list and she went crazy on me when she found out I was in a relationship.

There is no way to make 2 people invisible to each other on Facebook. I completely deleted my account and have a way better life since then.

Hell, Facebook now suggests Whatsapp contacts as potential friends. I had to delete my Whatsapp, and create a new one who ONLY runs in an Android sandbox that spoofs the IMEI / serial and forces the connection through a VPN. It's the only way to prevent my girls from finding out about my wife, even if I don't even have a Facebook. It's becoming crazy.

[Mufasa]

I'll use it to check numbers of girls I got the night before.
If they don't show up there I'll google the number "xxx-xxx-xxxx ok caller", lookup the name under the phone then Facebook the name
If THAT doesnt work,I'll give the number a fake name, look up the contact on snap chat for the real name, then Facebook the name

[Hazaer]

(03-13-2017 06:06 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

(03-13-2017 03:27 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

FB is quite lame in general, but has been a surprising gem for me regarding game. Despite the widespread lack of enthusiasm I've seen on the forum, I've landed many bangs and meet-ups using it for "reconnecting" with girls from high school and college. No luck reeling in complete strangers or au pairs... yet.

I've adapted my successful online game approach when using it. Keep things simple- a few terse messages (calibrate content, tone and length based on her responses and enthusiasm) back and forth and number close/proposal based on the premise of drinks and "catching up". All of my correspondence is carried out via private messaging, rather than public wall posts or commenting on airheaded status updates. My profile and information is empty- just some solid profile pics.

Yeah but what happens when a girl rejects your fb request. That seems to be the worse case. Is it even worth it investing effort on her or even talking to her?

[Player_1337]

(03-14-2017 04:10 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(03-13-2017 06:06 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

(03-13-2017 03:27 PM)Player_1337 Wrote:  

FB is quite lame in general, but has been a surprising gem for me regarding game. Despite the widespread lack of enthusiasm I've seen on the forum, I've landed many bangs and meet-ups using it for "reconnecting" with girls from high school and college. No luck reeling in complete strangers or au pairs... yet.

I've adapted my successful online game approach when using it. Keep things simple- a few terse messages (calibrate content, tone and length based on her responses and enthusiasm) back and forth and number close/proposal based on the premise of drinks and "catching up". All of my correspondence is carried out via private messaging, rather than public wall posts or commenting on airheaded status updates. My profile and information is empty- just some solid profile pics.

Yeah but what happens when a girl rejects your fb request. That seems to be the worse case. Is it even worth it investing effort on her or even talking to her?

Most were already in my existing pool of friends. If she ignores the request and/or the message- you just move on and don't contact again.

[LeoneVolpe]

(05-10-2010 02:14 PM)Willy Wonka Wrote:  

If you meet a girl and y'all start dating and you know her whole name, is it acceptable to just friend request her on facebook or should you wait for her to say something while y'all are dating, like "are you on facebook?" or should you just wait for her to look it you and find you?

OP,

Social media + being in a relationship = inevitable drama

If getting into an argument with your girl is what you desire, why not skip the social media middle man and tell her directly she's got a fat ass or your ex gave better head or something? Women's erratic emotional states are difficult enough to deal with as is, the last thing you want is to provide her any more fuel for her fire, which is exactly what social media will supply her. But who knows maybe you'll like having to explain who the "random bitch" that commented on your photo is?

Don't misunderstand me, this isn't about being fearful of pissing your girl off, it's about not making an unnecessary conflicts for yourself. She'll provide the conflict all on her own, trust me. You don't have to help her.

On an unrelated note, how can you choose to call yourself "Willy Wonka" and not use a Gene Wilder avatar?! That's sacrilege!

[General Stalin]

(03-13-2017 06:06 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

She lied too you about going to another campus and ghosted your FB request. This girl is not interested in you. Meet more/new women.

[questor70]

My stage-5 clinger ex sent me an unsolicited PM, not a friend request per se, just a PM, that said this:


"I found you!"

People's FB accounts are almost tantamount to their homes these days. You have to be really careful about knocking on the door. There's no way in hell I would put in an unsolicited FB request or non-friend PM. It's something I'd clear with my girlfriend verbally during face-time.

That being said, there's also the case of locking doors.

Women are addicted to their gadgets and the internet and all, but at the same time they are REALLY BAD at locking down their online data. So a lot of their posts and photos are wide open to the public. They also often have twitter feeds or even blogs related to their hobbies.

I have been able to do background checking on women with nothing but their first name, where they live/work, and their occupation. This information has literally saved me a ton of drama lately, as I had one Tinder match that was indirectly tangled up in a sexual molestation case, and another after where I could tell she was a whack-a-doodle based on her FB wall postings.

I am finding myself walking into even icebreakers armed with useful information about them that they don't know I know. It's really hard to resist the temptation to seriously game them with it ala Bill Murray in Groundhog day. You can also use that information to see how honest or forthcoming they are. If they skirt around or contradict things it's an instant red-flag.

So use technology to your advantage.

[XPQ22]

There's a real simple way to not have to deal with girls you're dating snooping around your social media accounts:

Her: "Hey! Why don't you add me to Insta/FB/blahdieblah whatever the app of the day is!"

You: "No."

Her:

You: "Doing you a favor, really."

The "Just Say No" approach. Girls who aren't social-media addicts, the type you want to date, will just shrug and say "Oh. Okay."

A different type of woman will get all angry and miffed and threaten to leave you etc. and that's great because you just smoked out the crazy. You're going to dump me because I won't add you on some app? Wot a looney-tune.

I think it's sort of sadly indicative as to just how far gone women, men, and relationships are in the West that some borderline spyware beep-boop computer program created by a Harvard turbo-nerd seems to have become a source of actual relationship problems. Even though I work in tech I'm thankful that I'm just old enough to sometimes get away with simply playing dumb and pretending that I don't understand any of it.

(03-14-2017 10:03 PM)questor70 Wrote:  

I am finding myself walking into even icebreakers armed with useful information about them that they don't know I know. It's really hard to resist the temptation to seriously game them with it ala Bill Murray in Groundhog day. You can also use that information to see how honest or forthcoming they are. If they skirt around or contradict things it's an instant red-flag.

So use technology to your advantage.

It's sadly amusing when you see a girl on some dating app using the same profile pics she uses on Facebook. "Hey, I recognize her! Wait a sec, who's that guy in the other pictures! Ah her 'boyfriend', right, got it."

Noticed that with friends of friends before. Multiple times.

[Hazaer]

(03-14-2017 09:06 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

(03-13-2017 06:06 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

She lied too you about going to another campus and ghosted your FB request. This girl is not interested in you. Meet more/new women.

I think she might have ghosted on fb because I ignored her at the store when she was expecting me to approach. And note that she rejected my fb request rather than just not responding to it. But I am not sure what this means. I didnt send her any message with that request.

She did tell me once after the time she first said that she was changing campus, that she was going to stay but I thought that was for the vacation since she was working there and not because she changed her campus. At that instance, before I could ask her if she was going to stay in the same campus for the next sem, her friend walked in and she quickly changed the subject so I assumed that she was staying for the vacation but changing campus for the next semester.

Thing is I am bound to run into her if she is still studying at the same campus so from what I gather from you guys, its best to just ignore her and move on?

[Hazaer]

(03-15-2017 07:16 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(03-14-2017 09:06 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  

(03-13-2017 06:06 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

Hey guys, I kind of messed it up with a uni girl using fb. This is the story..

I know this girl for a long time for about a year. Didnt really go anywhere with her but we kept meeting each other. She showed iois at the beginning but then due to various situations got her number, lost it and so didnt have the opportunity to take her out. She told me she was going to study in another campus from this semester so she was supposed to be gone.

Then last week I was looking at a girl from a distance away and she was leaving a store. After I entered that store, I thought I saw her again in front of me and realised after a while that it was the same girl and it might be this girl who I know. I was looking at her from the back and she had died her hair black from blonde. I think she might have turned her head to get my attention as I was behind her but I was really confused and didnt engage especially by coming up from behind.

Then from fb, I learnt she was still studying in launceston and sent her a friend request a week later. I had intended to start a conversation about something else entirely but I think she deleted my request.

I know I messed it up by not talking with her and then going on fb but how do I now respond to her if I saw her again? I am guessing just a 'Hi' and nothing else or maybe I should just ignore her? I thought she was a very nice girl but well she is just like the others.

Thanks for the suggestions.

She lied too you about going to another campus and ghosted your FB request. This girl is not interested in you. Meet more/new women.

I think she might have ghosted on fb because I ignored her at the store when she was expecting me to approach. And note that she rejected my fb request rather than just not responding to it. But I am not sure what this means. I didnt send her any message with that request.

She did tell me once after the time she first said that she was changing campus, that she was going to stay but I thought that was for the vacation since she was working there and not because she changed her campus. At that instance, before I could ask her if she was going to stay in the same campus for the next sem, her friend walked in and she quickly changed the subject so I assumed that she was staying for the vacation but changing campus for the next semester.

Thing is I am bound to run into her if she is still studying at the same campus so from what I gather from you guys, its best to just ignore her and move on?

Any confirmation on the above?

The last time I totally ignored her, she sent me a mail a few days later asking me to participate in another of her psychology experiments she is a psych student. But during the experiment, there was another female experimenter and I tried to banter with her. This girl didnt even attempt to step into the convo. She just attempted convo when the other girl was not around. I am guessing this is a dead lead.

[General Stalin]

If you want to talk to her then talk to her. Don't make it so complicated, although since she denied your FB friend request I would bet your odds are not super great. Why you sweating over this one girl so much? Is she the only female in your school?

[Hazaer]

(03-18-2017 10:22 AM)General Stalin Wrote:  

If you want to talk to her then talk to her. Don't make it so complicated, although since she denied your FB friend request I would bet your odds are not super great. Why you sweating over this one girl so much? Is she the only female in your school?

You are right. I should next her. Its just that sometimes girls oscillate between showing interest and not, its just confusing and she didnt seem the type to play too many games.