[hoops330]

Let me run this by the forum...
No matter where you're at you are going to find venues that you like and frequent them often. Females are going to do this too so chances are you will be seeing the same people out and around. If a girl is giving you obvious ioi's and you know you're going to be seeing her again, is it ever a good idea to play her off and wait till the next time around?
If there is lots of eye contact and you don't move in does that make you a pussy in her eyes or is it making her think "hmm what is his deal?" can we intentionally use this tactic to maintain the upper hand and a sense of mystery or does it backfire?

[ElBorrachoInfamoso]

It makes sense under 3 different conditions

1. You already have a sure thing in the club and approaching the other girl would ruin that

2. You are with a cool group of people including cute girls; the other girl will think you're too busy for her but still be interested next time she sees you.

3. She's ugly so why bother?

[OGNorCal707]

Strike while the iron is hot my friend, this is some of the best advice I've received about women, and yet I often fail to put it into action. As cliche as it is, "you snooze, you lose". I'm all for cultivating the "mysterious vibe", but women are so fickle, they could be feeling you one night, but have totally lost their interest a week later. I've experienced this first hand, and it's boggled my mind. I find that they only give you "so many chances to step up to the plate" so to speak. Often if you don't step to them in a timely manner, they won't be pining for you that much more, think "oh he's so mysterious", they will most likely be thinking, "God what's his problem, I've been starring at him all night, why didn't he come talk to me?"

We can rationalize it all we want, I for example, just got home from a frustrating night out at the bars. I hate to put any one girl on the pedestal, but there is this very sexy blonde girl who is damn near a 10 (also very cool, sweet, laid back, and seems real), that I've had my eye on for days, she had been "shooting me lazers" for days, but I always found a reason to make an excuse not to step to her. Finally, I received the golden opportunity, she was doing her laundry folding clothes next to me, and opened me in conversation, we had a great chat and I could have gotten her number for sure then, but I rationalized that I shouldn't since I was leaving town to go back east for a couple weeks.

Well tonight I saw her out again, again mad IOIs and eye contact, again I rationalized not stepping to her, because I'm leaving to go to Mexico in 2 days and told myself that if I mack on her and we hit it off, I'm going to be dealing with "what ifs" my entire trip and getting all love sick over a girl thousands of miles away. So whats the point of this pathetic anecdote?.....

Well, this same girl ended up getting swooped on by a total lame chode at the end of the night, and I had to deal with the knowledge of knowing that it could have easily been me, had I just grown the balls and stepped to her earlier in the night. I rationalized away my reasoning for not approaching her, and in the end I came up short.

You will come up short if you DO NOT strike when the iron is hot. There are just too many other dudes out there, dudes who will be hot steppin and approaching those girls that you didn't approach when you got the IOIs. Eye contact and IOIs are their way of inviting you to approach them, if you don't then some other guy will be up to the task, whether they are getting IOIs or not. It's too bad that we live in a society where men are so thirsty for pussy and guys are lining up, practically taking numbers to talk to chicks. She has no lack of options, so it's highly unlikely she's just going to wait for you grow a pair to approach her.

The only way I can really see "aloof game" working is if you are already macking and hooking up with other girls, in which case they will notice it and it will be a DHV raising your stock in their eyes, assuming that the girls you are hooking up with are of a high caliber.

So excuse my long winded rant, but I think I've made my point, "you snooze, you lose", don't be like me, grow a pair, and gets to steppin.

[XXL]

(01-25-2013 02:27 AM)hoops330 Wrote:  

If there is lots of eye contact and you don't move in does that make you a pussy in her eyes or is it making her think "hmm what is his deal?" can we intentionally use this tactic to maintain the upper hand and a sense of mystery or does it backfire?

Where did you get that conclusions from?

1. what's the difference what a random girl who owes you nothing might think about you? You might have million reasons not to chat someone up, it's totally arbitrary.

2. by ignoring a girl who stares at you, you're not mysterious, cool or aloof, you're just a guy who didn't want to that girl in that moment. That's all.