Quote: (01-24-2013 04:36 PM)cozos Wrote:
Quote: (01-24-2013 02:12 PM)johnwu Wrote:
In this specific situation, you refer to it as "getting chumped." You obviously aren't on amicable relations with this guy, and he also thinks that he can step all over you, he senses weakness and does not respect you.
I would say that it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you don't get thrown off your game.
Obviously this guy threw you off your game.
Your problem is that you do not feel confident around competition. Basically you need to work on inner game. If you aren't confident around competition, you aren't confident at all.
When you do have confidence, and competition arises, you can treat it a number of ways, it all depends on what you are aiming for.
If the priority of the night is to get laid, I'm probably going to shut down that competition immediately by simply ignoring them (As this conversation should be with you and some girls, with some guy randomly butting in), and continuing the conversation as if the interruption never happened.
If the priority of the night is to have a good time, I know that there are other girls that I want to test out, i'd welcome the guy into the conversation, if he's weak, he'd get pushed out of the conversation fairly fast, or if he is cool i'd use that to my advantage and make us both look good.
He is actually a good friend of mine - he just gets bored of conversations that aren't relevant to him. He does have a high level of social mastery though - if anything I'm friends with him to pick up some of that.
How would you ignore the guy if he captured the attention of the girls you were talking to?
Cozos: "so then I went-"
Other guy: "hey guys bla bla bla"
Girls: "That's so cool! How did you-"
Cozos: "SO anyways.. back to my awesome topic"
Seems like a pissing contest to me
If he is you good friend, you should be working with him...
When I am out with one of my good friends, we are always building off each other, making ourselves look even better.
If I take the conversation in a certain direction, he can keep going with me.
Occasionally we will start ripping on each other, but you should be able to handle that, and it usually turns into witty banter anyways.
Actually my friends and I rip on each other all the time, if you can't handle it, you're a bitch.
Now for the scenario you proposed.
From my experience, most guys are out to get laid, they are not out to actively piss on you, unless you invite it.
If I see some hot girls with some weak guy, I'm going to move in on that, my mind set is that the girls have the honor of speaking to me, and I should go let them have that honor, I am the prize, they aren't.
So I am going to move onto any group of people where there is an attractive woman to me, regardless of the scenario going on.
If I see some girls looking disinterested, that is a screaming invitation.
So if you are with some girls, and they aren't that engaged in the conversation, someone is going to move on that.
If I see a group of people that are really into the conversation, I'm going to move in on that, they are having fun, I am fun, I belong with them.
Once i'm in the conversation, i'll find out instantly if you can keep up or not.
If you cannot talk about things that I'm talking about (aka keep up with me), or get one of the girls interested in your own conversation, then you lose.
Conclusion: If you cannot play at a high level, isolate as soon as possible and escalate.