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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-23-2013, 10:32 PM
I remember reading responses to this one before so someone please post the link to the thread here - I can't find it.
scenario is this: this is the 3rd bang with the same girl and after sex we're lying down (yeah yeah cuddle or w/e). anyway out of nowhere she says so are we having fun or is this something more than that.
i actually paused as i didn't know the response. i want to keep banging this chick, as many others past her, but not if she wants to be around with me during the day or 'as a boyfriend." so i froze for a few seconds, and that awkward silence made her blurt out, "im okay with it if its just for fun." i just said something like "im not sure, im just way too busy right now to decide."
what would you guys say? I feel like i have lost girls in my rotation too soon because im always caught off guard when they pop this question or a variation of it. sometimes its on the 10th bang, sometimes 5th, but now this... 3rd bang...
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-23-2013, 10:34 PM
she's 25.. not sure if that biological hamster made a move in her head. not sure if age is relevant here.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-23-2013, 10:36 PM
I love that one! I'm going to have things to say here..
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-23-2013, 11:25 PM
"I'm enjoying spending time with you. We'll see where it leads."
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-23-2013, 11:42 PM
Quote: (01-23-2013 11:27 PM)alphaspiraton Wrote:
Quote: (01-23-2013 11:25 PM)lurker Wrote:
"I'm enjoying spending time with you. We'll see where it leads."
Ah fantastic ill steal this one. Positive but vague.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-24-2013, 06:54 AM
Quote: (01-23-2013 11:25 PM)lurker Wrote:
"I'm enjoying spending time with you. We'll see where it leads."
Yeah i need to borrow that line
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-24-2013, 06:07 PM
Quote: (01-23-2013 10:32 PM)alphaspiraton Wrote:
i actually paused as i didn't know the response. i want to keep banging this chick, as many others past her, but not if she wants to be around with me during the day or 'as a boyfriend." so i froze for a few seconds, and that awkward silence made her blurt out, "im okay with it if its just for fun." i just said something like "im not sure, im just way too busy right now to decide."
She was probing you. It wasn't a shit test, but most women that you bang a few times will wonder "where this is going." She put it out there, didn't get a response, so she responded in such a way that you'll keep her around until SHE figures out what to do. Maybe she's got another option in mind, and is trying to figure out which to go with. If you like banging her, keep doing so. If she comes back at you with this again, give her that ambiguous answer that was suggested, that you like spending time with her but haven't thought much beyond that. If she can't hang with that, she'll bounce. It'll be on her.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-25-2013, 06:44 AM
I was faced with this question once. My response was: "I don't know. I'm not trying to make anything happen - just going with the flow."
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-25-2013, 08:06 AM
I tell them it is up to them. If they want it to be more we can try being something more. Although this might of lead to a stalker issue in Peru.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-25-2013, 11:10 AM
wait... if you're not a prostitute then what have I been paying you for? (said with obvious sarcasm)
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-25-2013, 11:23 AM
i'm an in the moment kind of guy. and if all those moments lead up to something more than just 'having fun' over time, then so be it. but all i can promise you is the right now
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-25-2013, 11:31 AM
Quote: (01-25-2013 11:23 AM)reaper23 Wrote:
i'm an in the moment kind of guy. and if all those moments lead up to something more than just 'having fun' over time, then so be it. but all i can promise you is the right now
HA HA...THAT'S WHAT I'M TALKIN' ABOUT! And you look
deeply into her eyes when you say this shit...
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-27-2013, 02:09 PM
As long as you don't say "i want a relationship" or something to that effect, you've passed the shit test.
I say "how about we take it one date at a time and see what happens."
You gotta be vague and aloof but without being a prick. Girls feel vulnerable after they've fucked you, they know theres been a power shift and they're just looking for some reassurance that you didn't play them. However, if you beta out and appear needy you'll give her buyers remorse on giving you the bang.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-27-2013, 08:27 PM
Do we have to put labels on it?
Why do you need to be so ceirtain about everything in life? Are you happy? Are you enjoing?
There you are.
Push the question back, she will be confused and prospone trouble about commitment.
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Girl asks "so are we just having fun or are we something more than that"
01-29-2013, 11:45 AM
You could always A+A as well:
[shocked look] Of course we're something more than that! I've already picked out our first six kids' names!