Let's say you guys are sitting at the bar, having a good conversation, and it's time to start kino escalating. What's your favorite way to make that bridge smoothly?
Bridging from conversation to kino
I don't actually think bridging smoothly is necessary, beyond waiting for a low-key moment (not a knee-slapping moment). There's a quiet spell, she's been looking in your eyes and clearly likes you, you just fucking do it. Wrap that hand around her, hold her hand, or whatever. I don't think you need a transition or build-up.
Quote: (04-28-2010 12:07 AM)kingkong Wrote:
I don't actually think bridging smoothly is necessary, beyond waiting for a low-key moment (not a knee-slapping moment). There's a quiet spell, she's been looking in your eyes and clearly likes you, you just fucking do it. Wrap that hand around her, hold her hand, or whatever. I don't think you need a transition or build-up.
Maybe I should have clarified a bit more. I hear you, but I guess what I meant to say is this...sometimes physical chemistry with a woman is great right from the outset, esp if she's the touchy feely type. Some women seem a bit more reserved and you have to be more smooth in transitioning with them. I was on a date last week with a girl where we were talking fine, but getting a kino transition was awkward. If it was a club, I'd just get up and dance with her to initiate kino, but if it's a bar and you're both sitting in bar stools talking, it's a little more challenging.
I'm from a culture that kisses on the cheek when you meet someone.
I try to mix the cheek kiss with a side rub no matter what. If I'm already vibing with the girls I'll do a side rub along with a behind the ear/upper neck slight grasp.
If I'm in Hawaii I'm more bold about it. On the mainland it's gotten me some dirty looks and for sure cost me lays. When I kiss a girl I just meet that appears to have a issue wit it, I just explain that it's how my people do it. It's a great conversation starter, too.
Mainland girls in Hawaii are always shocked when they get kissed like that for the first time. Funny thing is I usually swoop those very girls with relative ease. I turn their offense to my kiss around and make them think they just offended me. They either get real apologetic and kiss me back and more touching ensues. OR what I really want to happen is the girl give me the "Hawaii is still the USA" argument, which I always win, and get that kind of game started.
Kiss them at the get go.
Aloha!
I try to mix the cheek kiss with a side rub no matter what. If I'm already vibing with the girls I'll do a side rub along with a behind the ear/upper neck slight grasp.
If I'm in Hawaii I'm more bold about it. On the mainland it's gotten me some dirty looks and for sure cost me lays. When I kiss a girl I just meet that appears to have a issue wit it, I just explain that it's how my people do it. It's a great conversation starter, too.
Mainland girls in Hawaii are always shocked when they get kissed like that for the first time. Funny thing is I usually swoop those very girls with relative ease. I turn their offense to my kiss around and make them think they just offended me. They either get real apologetic and kiss me back and more touching ensues. OR what I really want to happen is the girl give me the "Hawaii is still the USA" argument, which I always win, and get that kind of game started.
Kiss them at the get go.
Aloha!
^^^
The man is right
I've noticed if you start out Kino the girl will Kino back. Because they are as comfortable as you are. One time a girl sat next to me and started asking me questions. I wanted to dance with her and said, "let's go dance", I saw she started hesitating and grabbed her hand and we walked out on the dance floor. After several songs she grabbed my hand and we went out on the patio.
Another time I was out with a girl on a date for several hours and there was no touching at all. We went dancing at the end of the date, as we danced she got closer and closer. I then took her to her car and made out with her and tried to bang her in the back seat haha
A guy I know he told that when you meet the girl for the first date you put one hand on the hip and kiss her on the cheek at the same time. That way you establish right away where you guys stand and you can progress the kino from that point on, unlike getting a makeout on the first date and then going home and jerking it.
The man is right
I've noticed if you start out Kino the girl will Kino back. Because they are as comfortable as you are. One time a girl sat next to me and started asking me questions. I wanted to dance with her and said, "let's go dance", I saw she started hesitating and grabbed her hand and we walked out on the dance floor. After several songs she grabbed my hand and we went out on the patio.
Another time I was out with a girl on a date for several hours and there was no touching at all. We went dancing at the end of the date, as we danced she got closer and closer. I then took her to her car and made out with her and tried to bang her in the back seat haha
A guy I know he told that when you meet the girl for the first date you put one hand on the hip and kiss her on the cheek at the same time. That way you establish right away where you guys stand and you can progress the kino from that point on, unlike getting a makeout on the first date and then going home and jerking it.
I agree with the others. Just do it. Don't overthink it.
After building a little chemistry and creating a good sexy vibe you can say if you havent already asked, "So, where do you workout at? wow, your work is paying off. (then proceed to lightly sqeeze her arm, and compiment it). From there I slowly escalate the conversation to a sexual state, without being perverted. Always remaining a classy gentlman. Now you can compliment her legs and lightly squeez her thigh lol...two hours later Im making out with her like a beast.
Early on Kino is hard when you are learning the game, afterward it just becomes natural. The thing to keep in mind is that most people dont react badly to "EASY" non sexual, non intimate kino. If you make a mistake early on, all isnt lost. People give other people alot of leeway on their comfort zones during the first meeting. That being said, the easiest way to start kino, with a non NLP method would be palm reading. I am a huge fan of cold reading in general, and i work magic with it, but palm reading is the easiest bridge you can fine, and no girl will say no to it. You can also play jewelery games.
I always wear a cheap piece of easily replaceable necklaces or bracelets. If things are going well, and want to set another meeting, its great. Just ask straight out "Are you a theif?" Of course the answer will be no. Then go into some bullshit about how you really want to meet her again, but you have a terrible memory. Then act like the idea just hit you, and give it to her, but be sure you emphasize that you expect it back at the next meeting. If she flakes, its a cheap necklace/bracelet at a few dollars, but it really cuts down on the flakes b/c they now have something they need to return. Just putting it on her is an easy way to bridge the gap as well.
I always wear a cheap piece of easily replaceable necklaces or bracelets. If things are going well, and want to set another meeting, its great. Just ask straight out "Are you a theif?" Of course the answer will be no. Then go into some bullshit about how you really want to meet her again, but you have a terrible memory. Then act like the idea just hit you, and give it to her, but be sure you emphasize that you expect it back at the next meeting. If she flakes, its a cheap necklace/bracelet at a few dollars, but it really cuts down on the flakes b/c they now have something they need to return. Just putting it on her is an easy way to bridge the gap as well.
I keep hearing about how guys utilize "palm reading" in their routines and to initiate kino, I don't doubt that it can and does work, but I've always felt that it's way too cheesy for me to try, like I will burst out laughing at myself, for feeling like such a dork. That said, whatever works, if you can pull it off, and chicks dig it, then whatever... I think "Mystery" himself dubbed stuff like that (palm reading, astrology, etc.) "chick crack"... I guess it just doesn't fit my style.
Girls like playing that stupid thumb war game for some reason. That might work in place of the palmistry come to think of it.
Its all about TOUCHING. Find a way to do it. "Chick Crack" is great because it involves touching, verbal pushing and pulling/teasing, lots of eye contact. AND it gets them to open up about themselves. AND it is a very suggestive, flirty way to communicate with someone.
Playful, flirty communication with a man but without really risking anything. They love that. They can and will believe it IF they want to or they can just dismiss it as bullshit. Its real and its not real. This is why its great for chicks. Its about feelings more then facts. This is the crazy, counter intuitive world that chicks live in.
If you don't like "chick crack", you better find another way to playfully touch. I like exercise/yoga dates because it allows for touching. I just like to be an expressive touchy person in general. Be aware of her moving closer to you. If she is, she is probably hoping you will touch her. Keep it playful.
Playful, flirty communication with a man but without really risking anything. They love that. They can and will believe it IF they want to or they can just dismiss it as bullshit. Its real and its not real. This is why its great for chicks. Its about feelings more then facts. This is the crazy, counter intuitive world that chicks live in.
If you don't like "chick crack", you better find another way to playfully touch. I like exercise/yoga dates because it allows for touching. I just like to be an expressive touchy person in general. Be aware of her moving closer to you. If she is, she is probably hoping you will touch her. Keep it playful.
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