[reino341]

OK, so the deal is that I don't think I've ever had a day 2 during the winter around here, and there's practically no indoor activity in the neighborhood of my apartment. If it wasn't for the winter, I could just suggest we meet here to go for a walk and then take her to my place which I've done before with success, but now the options are more limited.

The first option is to go for drinks or other activity in the city center and then game her to my place. The obvious "danger" here is that it will probably trigger her slut defenses since going back to my place (10 min by train) is a clear sign of impending sex. With good game it shouldn't be a problem though.

Then I could also tell her to meet me at my place. I think if a girl agrees, it's basically a green light for sex, barring some LMR that might happen. Now the problem is she might feel uncomfortable with not meeting in the public first, maybe it's up to my discretion to feel it out when I'm on the phone with her. Perhaps suggest meeting at my place first, and then at the first sign of hesitation just say that we can also meet somewhere else if you're more comfortable with that.

Option 3, fuck her in a public bathroom. Only half-kidding.

I don't have a car, and around here people of my age rarely do.

Thoughts and ideas welcome. I'm posting this because there's probably opportunities I haven't thought about.

[Frost]

I call it the fake second date.

Text her and make plans for a cool second date. Dinner at a new restaurant, some sort of activity, etc. Give her lots of notice, ie 4-5 days.

Text her the day after and break the plan. Give a good reason, be polite, don't be a flake. Communicate that you really want to see her but you're crazy busy this week.

Pick the night you want to close and tell her you're hanging out at home that night, drinking wine, and cooking a big dinner, and she can come help if she wants. Then drop this:

http://www.thumotic.com/2012/12/14/the-g...-date-ban/

[BlurredSevens]

Regardless of what happened on the first date, I ALWAYS have the second date at my place. Just tell her to come over for drinks and Scrabble. I've never had a girl turn that down.

It sounds like you're over thinking things, and that you're ready to jump ship at the first sign of resistance, which is a bad mindset.

Tell her what the plan is, don't ask for her opinion, or what she "wants" to do. She wants to bang you, man, that's why she's still responding to you after the first date. But the more you make her think about it, the less likely it is to happen.

If you think it's weird to have her over to your place for a 2nd date, then she is going to pick up on that vibe, and is also going to think it's weird. If you're relaxed about it, and act like it's no big deal (because it really isn't) then she will reciprocate.

If you're having trouble making a move at your place, here is what I do: walk up to my stereo and say "I need help picking out a song" - she will come over and stand next to you while you both flip through the songs on your iPod or whatever, and then of course that's when you make your move.

Keep it simple!!

[reino341]

(01-08-2013 12:33 PM)BlurredSevens Wrote:  

Regardless of what happened on the first date, I ALWAYS have the second date at my place. Just tell her to come over for drinks and Scrabble. I've never had a girl turn that down.

It sounds like you're over thinking things, and that you're ready to jump ship at the first sign of resistance, which is a bad mindset.

Tell her what the plan is, don't ask for her opinion, or what she "wants" to do. She wants to bang you, man, that's why she's still responding to you after the first date. But the more you make her think about it, the less likely it is to happen.

If you think it's weird to have her over to your place for a 2nd date, then she is going to pick up on that vibe, and is also going to think it's weird. If you're relaxed about it, and act like it's no big deal (because it really isn't) then she will reciprocate.

If you're having trouble making a move at your place, here is what I do: walk up to my stereo and say "I need help picking out a song" - she will come over and stand next to you while you both flip through the songs on your iPod or whatever, and then of course that's when you make your move.

Keep it simple!!

Day 2, first date. After 5 minutes of talking in a bus 2 weeks ago (she wasn't around). And not over thinking, simply want to have logistics in my favor.

I go out every day so I have no problem with abundance.

[BlurredSevens]

(01-08-2013 01:33 PM)reino341 Wrote:  

Day 2, first date. After 5 minutes of talking in a bus 2 weeks ago (she wasn't around). And not over thinking, simply want to have logistics in my favor.

I go out every day so I have no problem with abundance.

Completely misunderstood your post, sorry man. Thought you meant to write Date 2 instead of Day 2.

Carry on.