Im writing this post because the other day I was discussing with a couple of my buddies what they think a girl does to show attraction to you, whether it be during the day or at night. If everybody could put in their two cents it would be greatly appreciated seeing as I am also having a hard time figuring this out.
What are the clear signs of attraction?
Proximity- when a girl hovers in your area, even if she has her back turned towards you.
Crossing her legs towards you.
There are a whole list of indicators of interest out there. Try googling it.
Crossing her legs towards you.
There are a whole list of indicators of interest out there. Try googling it.
If she follows you....
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
If she plays with her hair while she looks at you.
Preliminary IOI's... Proximity (she hangs out around you and is chilling in your vicinity), this is especially poignant if it's obvious she's gone out of her way to stand there.
Next would be strong eye contact, she obviously is looking at you from across the room, she holds the eye contact when you look back at her. It's especially a good signal if smiles at you while maintaining eye contact.
Shit my last lay from NYE was almost all initiated based on strong body language, and my properly reading the IOI's from the chick.
After proximity and eye contact, it should be stating the obvious that any woman who initiates conversation with you is interested, you'd have to have your head up your ass to not know that.
Once you are into a conversation, I'd say the woman asking questions about you is a clear sign of interest and attraction, as well as how much she contributes to conversation. Generally speaking interest equals attraction, and if a woman is not that interested in you she won't ask you questions or make effort to forward the convo.
Perhaps even more important than her asking questions and contributing to conversation is body language, facial gesturing, eye contact, and kino. If the woman initiates kino by touching you any where, but especially your arms or chest, you have attraction. Beyond that you have to read her body language, does she lean into you, does she move closer, stare deeply into your eyes, do her pupils dilate ever so slightly, does she smile a lot, does she stare at your lips. If she does all these things you need to man up and kiss her.
I could get way more deep into this stuff, but for now, this is good advice.
Next would be strong eye contact, she obviously is looking at you from across the room, she holds the eye contact when you look back at her. It's especially a good signal if smiles at you while maintaining eye contact.
Shit my last lay from NYE was almost all initiated based on strong body language, and my properly reading the IOI's from the chick.
After proximity and eye contact, it should be stating the obvious that any woman who initiates conversation with you is interested, you'd have to have your head up your ass to not know that.
Once you are into a conversation, I'd say the woman asking questions about you is a clear sign of interest and attraction, as well as how much she contributes to conversation. Generally speaking interest equals attraction, and if a woman is not that interested in you she won't ask you questions or make effort to forward the convo.
Perhaps even more important than her asking questions and contributing to conversation is body language, facial gesturing, eye contact, and kino. If the woman initiates kino by touching you any where, but especially your arms or chest, you have attraction. Beyond that you have to read her body language, does she lean into you, does she move closer, stare deeply into your eyes, do her pupils dilate ever so slightly, does she smile a lot, does she stare at your lips. If she does all these things you need to man up and kiss her.
I could get way more deep into this stuff, but for now, this is good advice.
Quote: (01-05-2013 05:04 PM)jerome Wrote:
If she follows you....
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
I agree with this 100%.
Once I think I have hooked a girl (could be 1 min in, could be 10 min in), I move her to get a drink or smoke, or something.
You then can "read" how she reacts and you have a perfect temperature gauge.
Nice subtle compliance test, guys. I'm going to try this one tonight.
They say that 90% of communication is non-verbal, as the guys have said it has a lot to do about body language. If a girl is playing with her hair is a pretty tell-tale sign, if you are having a group conversation and she glances your way even when you aren't speaking is another one.
Quote: (01-05-2013 06:10 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:
Quote: (01-05-2013 05:04 PM)jerome Wrote:
If she follows you....
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
I agree with this 100%.
Once I think I have hooked a girl (could be 1 min in, could be 10 min in), I move her to get a drink or smoke, or something.
You then can "read" how she reacts and you have a perfect temperature gauge.
G, what do you do if she does not comply? Do you hit the next button?
Interesting question cause I havent seen this in a while, but a HUGE key to game. Being able to read people will make you stand out from a LOT of the other guys, cause a lot of men have NO clue how to read women-when the womans nonverbals are SCREAMING for him to approach. Women are MUCH more subtle with their nonverbals and use them much more then men do, so people able to read those and know how/what shes feeling without her saying will help you a LOT. I know there are other threads for this on here, including a video of a group of singles (who are being recorded on video for the program) out to meet people (look for a date) set in the UK that goes over a lot of this. I'd look it up for you buttt....thats your job.
Ok so big signs-as stated:
-Playing with their hair
-Touching their neck
-Reciprocating touch
-Holding your hand (I read this on here, and believe this law to an ABSOLUTE T now...any time you can hold a girls hand, I pretty much guarantee you can kiss her or the kiss will be coming soon. I'll do something like get her to give me a high five, and then I will lock her fingers inbetween mine and end up holding her hand. Im touchy feely as fuck, so it usually works....and again, if you can hold a girls hand like that or while walking around or talking (or whatever you're doing)-the kiss is on the way, just a matter of eta)
-Open body language (legs/arms uncrossed)
-Feet/body pointed towards you
-Her eyes/the way she looks at you-Now yes her pupils will dilate and thats a fact, however I have almost NO idea how you would be able to tell that unless you're WAY too close to the girl or somewhere with plenty of light which most night time places don't have. Eventually/hopefully with enough experience, you'll be able to tell the difference between when a girl is just looking at you and when a girl has that interested/checking the guy out look. I laugh for joy like a schoolboy on the inside when Im looking around and I catch a girl checking me out. Hahahaha. BUSTED BITCH!!
-Any girl who looks at you/eye contact twice is pretty much interested and open to approach
-Also, don't just learn how to read the girl herself but also any of her friends or the group dynamic. One of my wings can check out sets and immediately (or quickly) tell which one is the alpha female, which is the one you MUST befriend or get on your side as soon as you approach/open-if you do things will be MUCH easier. If not, you just made things WAY harder then they need to be.
-Also, conversely-if you can read other peoples body language I hope you know how to present good body language yourself.
-Im a HUGE stickler for body language and being able to read people well, it will/can help you immensely in game as well as other parts of life or just walking around/meeting people....and hey, never know who you might run into or what fine ladies they could know.
Good hunting boys
Ok so big signs-as stated:
-Playing with their hair
-Touching their neck
-Reciprocating touch
-Holding your hand (I read this on here, and believe this law to an ABSOLUTE T now...any time you can hold a girls hand, I pretty much guarantee you can kiss her or the kiss will be coming soon. I'll do something like get her to give me a high five, and then I will lock her fingers inbetween mine and end up holding her hand. Im touchy feely as fuck, so it usually works....and again, if you can hold a girls hand like that or while walking around or talking (or whatever you're doing)-the kiss is on the way, just a matter of eta)
-Open body language (legs/arms uncrossed)
-Feet/body pointed towards you
-Her eyes/the way she looks at you-Now yes her pupils will dilate and thats a fact, however I have almost NO idea how you would be able to tell that unless you're WAY too close to the girl or somewhere with plenty of light which most night time places don't have. Eventually/hopefully with enough experience, you'll be able to tell the difference between when a girl is just looking at you and when a girl has that interested/checking the guy out look. I laugh for joy like a schoolboy on the inside when Im looking around and I catch a girl checking me out. Hahahaha. BUSTED BITCH!!
-Any girl who looks at you/eye contact twice is pretty much interested and open to approach
-Also, don't just learn how to read the girl herself but also any of her friends or the group dynamic. One of my wings can check out sets and immediately (or quickly) tell which one is the alpha female, which is the one you MUST befriend or get on your side as soon as you approach/open-if you do things will be MUCH easier. If not, you just made things WAY harder then they need to be.
-Also, conversely-if you can read other peoples body language I hope you know how to present good body language yourself.
-Im a HUGE stickler for body language and being able to read people well, it will/can help you immensely in game as well as other parts of life or just walking around/meeting people....and hey, never know who you might run into or what fine ladies they could know.
Good hunting boys
A girl who's curious about you gives tons of signs mentioned above
A girl who is actually attracted:
- is quiet and attentive and getting anxious/stiff in your presence
- complies to your physical moves
- gives you big/happy eyes
A girl who is actually attracted:
- is quiet and attentive and getting anxious/stiff in your presence
- complies to your physical moves
- gives you big/happy eyes
Quote: (01-05-2013 08:13 PM)soup Wrote:
Quote: (01-05-2013 06:10 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:
Quote: (01-05-2013 05:04 PM)jerome Wrote:
If she follows you....
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
I agree with this 100%.
Once I think I have hooked a girl (could be 1 min in, could be 10 min in), I move her to get a drink or smoke, or something.
You then can "read" how she reacts and you have a perfect temperature gauge.
G, what do you do if she does not comply? Do you hit the next button?
You (metaphorically) pimp slap her.
I agree that following is huge. I always venue change to establish that she'll follow and also it's (not to sound gay) a "little adventure". You and your girl met here, now you're going together here. You get to guide the small of her back with your hand, walk on the proper side of the street, pop a piece of gum in your mouth and offer her one to get her thinking about an eventual kiss, etc.
"I'm still kinda new to the city and I love trying new places. Let's go try that bar across the street."
"I'm kinda ADHD - I love new atmospheres and spaces. Let's hit up ____."
"This bar is cool but they don't have fresh mint here. Let's go to ______ I want you to taste this vodka/water with fresh mint. It's so crisp."
"I'm still kinda new to the city and I love trying new places. Let's go try that bar across the street."
"I'm kinda ADHD - I love new atmospheres and spaces. Let's hit up ____."
"This bar is cool but they don't have fresh mint here. Let's go to ______ I want you to taste this vodka/water with fresh mint. It's so crisp."
When it comes to girls checking you out, they are very sneaky. If walking past a girl or if you are sat and she is walking past you do not look at her until just as you are about to pass. In the UK at least, a girl whos into you will likely sneak you a sideways glance at the last minute, its great if you catch them do it because they will know that the attraction is mutual. And it is completely undeniable - theres no reason to sneak a sideways glance at someone unless they are checking you out so if a girl does this you know 100% that they like you.
In such a situation dont make the mistake of staring at a girl as you're walking past, women are much less sexually aggressive in this respect - they will sense your eyes on them and not look back at you. (except in Germany, where I've found girls have no qualms about bogging you out as you approach them, its great).
In such a situation dont make the mistake of staring at a girl as you're walking past, women are much less sexually aggressive in this respect - they will sense your eyes on them and not look back at you. (except in Germany, where I've found girls have no qualms about bogging you out as you approach them, its great).
Quote: (01-05-2013 05:36 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:
Preliminary IOI's... Proximity (she hangs out around you and is chilling in your vicinity), this is especially poignant if it's obvious she's gone out of her way to stand there.
Next would be strong eye contact, she obviously is looking at you from across the room, she holds the eye contact when you look back at her. It's especially a good signal if smiles at you while maintaining eye contact.
This is all true but also do remember that if a girl really likes you then the opposite may be true - she may avoid talking to you completely or do anything to avoid eye contact. It means that you make them nervous and imo can be a much bigger sign of attraction. If a girl talks to everyone in a group except you i would consider that a strong IOI, depending on how confident the girl is (and remember most girls aren't very confident, regardless of what you read about feminism etc). Similarly if a girl is rude or dismissive to you for no reason (and nice to everyone else) then I would consider this a strong IOI
Quote: (01-05-2013 08:13 PM)soup Wrote:
Quote: (01-05-2013 06:10 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:
Quote: (01-05-2013 05:04 PM)jerome Wrote:
If she follows you....
No clearer sign of attraction...
Ask her to follow you, if she won't
she was bluffing or playing games or just was not interested.
I agree with this 100%.
Once I think I have hooked a girl (could be 1 min in, could be 10 min in), I move her to get a drink or smoke, or something.
You then can "read" how she reacts and you have a perfect temperature gauge.
G, what do you do if she does not comply? Do you hit the next button?
Case by case.
But she just fell down a couple on notches in my mind.
The main thing is you have a "temperature gauge" of her attraction.
In that scenario, it would be pretty cold.
You might just have to "re-heat".
Thanks for the input guys,I realized that I had 2 good chances and should've capetalized on it, for some reason I've been stuck on making the first move but I feel as if i should figure this out on my own,seeing as how it's the biggest roadblock I have.
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