I guess this is the right terminology? Another way to put it is that I don't feel like I have the skills to build/retain a harem. It seems like girls tend to view me as "keeper" material and once they figure out that I'm just out to have fun/sleep around they drop me.
Most recent example (although this same story has played out 5 or 6 times in the past year): This girl (met off Match.com) had three good dates with her. First came back to my place, made out, sucked her tits, etc. Second we fucked (raw dog). Third was NYE - I met her out close to midnight, we made out at 12 and then walked back to my condo and fucked (really good sex). I let her spend the night and we raw dogged in the AM. She sent me "girlfriendy" texts throughout the week and I was somewhat noncommital - responded but took my time and was casual. Really not into her, find her mildly annoying, don't want to lead her on too hard, etc. but she has a young tight body and the sex was hot.
We had made tentative plans to hang out today but she's gone dark and didn't respond to my "resume" text last night. I'm honestly okay with it she's a full 1.5 to 2 points beneath my ideal woman and now I'm free of any potential discomfort/awkward/her crying ending that I always feel when I know I'm not interested in what she wants (LTR). But still I'd have liked to fuck her a few more times and used her to fill up my calendar for a weeknight for the next couple of weeks.
Is the problem ultimately that I met her off Match.com so she was expecting me to be interested in LTR? Or is there something I can do to retain a girl like this for longer (without outright "lying" to her as far as hints that I'm interested in LTR, bringing her to dinner, etc.)? Or is the problem that I'm lacking the skills to be a better player and keep girls like this around until I want them gone? If so, I'd love to glean some tips and continue to grow my game in order to attain this. I'm not willing to outright lie and mislead chicks into thinking we're headed towards a LTR in order to keep them around - I want to have that soft harem setup (I really hate that term haha) where they know what's up but are still willing to put up with my bullshit because I'm so fucking awesome. I'm about to go re-read Roosh's stuff on soft harems but I also would appreciate real-world feedback as well.
Most recent example (although this same story has played out 5 or 6 times in the past year): This girl (met off Match.com) had three good dates with her. First came back to my place, made out, sucked her tits, etc. Second we fucked (raw dog). Third was NYE - I met her out close to midnight, we made out at 12 and then walked back to my condo and fucked (really good sex). I let her spend the night and we raw dogged in the AM. She sent me "girlfriendy" texts throughout the week and I was somewhat noncommital - responded but took my time and was casual. Really not into her, find her mildly annoying, don't want to lead her on too hard, etc. but she has a young tight body and the sex was hot.
We had made tentative plans to hang out today but she's gone dark and didn't respond to my "resume" text last night. I'm honestly okay with it she's a full 1.5 to 2 points beneath my ideal woman and now I'm free of any potential discomfort/awkward/her crying ending that I always feel when I know I'm not interested in what she wants (LTR). But still I'd have liked to fuck her a few more times and used her to fill up my calendar for a weeknight for the next couple of weeks.
Is the problem ultimately that I met her off Match.com so she was expecting me to be interested in LTR? Or is there something I can do to retain a girl like this for longer (without outright "lying" to her as far as hints that I'm interested in LTR, bringing her to dinner, etc.)? Or is the problem that I'm lacking the skills to be a better player and keep girls like this around until I want them gone? If so, I'd love to glean some tips and continue to grow my game in order to attain this. I'm not willing to outright lie and mislead chicks into thinking we're headed towards a LTR in order to keep them around - I want to have that soft harem setup (I really hate that term haha) where they know what's up but are still willing to put up with my bullshit because I'm so fucking awesome. I'm about to go re-read Roosh's stuff on soft harems but I also would appreciate real-world feedback as well.