Traditionally (in real life), the person who does the asking does the paying. This is usually the man. Online date protocol is a more ambiguous.
Of course womens' self-entitled advice is "the man always pays". This can be a mistake, because women have contempt for men who are too compliant. On the other hand, they may think a guy is cheap if he splits the check. It's a no-win situation.
It's all about attitude. It must be smooth, but also congruent. I tried furtively paying the check when the woman went to the bathroom. Some bitches would not even thank me and then cut contact. In these cases, paying for rude dates just triggers their cognitive dissonance, and makes them rationalize that you must be a loser who is trying to buy their affection. I suggest tossing in enough cash and then handing them the check. If you must pay, reach for the check, say you will pay, and look them in the eye for acknowledgement. If the woman is sweet and feminine then I'll pay without hesitation. Otherwise I'll use it as an ideal opportunity to show I don't seek to buy her approval.
Of course womens' self-entitled advice is "the man always pays". This can be a mistake, because women have contempt for men who are too compliant. On the other hand, they may think a guy is cheap if he splits the check. It's a no-win situation.
It's all about attitude. It must be smooth, but also congruent. I tried furtively paying the check when the woman went to the bathroom. Some bitches would not even thank me and then cut contact. In these cases, paying for rude dates just triggers their cognitive dissonance, and makes them rationalize that you must be a loser who is trying to buy their affection. I suggest tossing in enough cash and then handing them the check. If you must pay, reach for the check, say you will pay, and look them in the eye for acknowledgement. If the woman is sweet and feminine then I'll pay without hesitation. Otherwise I'll use it as an ideal opportunity to show I don't seek to buy her approval.