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11-29-2012, 02:40 PM
OK unfortunately I wear my heart on my sleeve and genuinely go out of my way to help people wherever I can, male or female. Obviously this doesn't fit at all well with becoming a player so I need to override my natural instincts to be caring, see the best in people etc and become a cold hearted bastard.
If any of you are familiar with The Walking Dead TV series you will know there is a hard arse black girl in the most recent series who looks after numero uno and never lets her guard down for one second. I want to be more like her and view every female with suspicion.
Its a strange thing to want to learn but has anyone got any tips on how to become more callous? I was honestly thinking being purposefully rude to a shop assistant once a day or something... anything to make me less sensitive to other peoples feelings.
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11-29-2012, 02:48 PM
Why do you want to become more callous?
Do you think you will get more pussy?
Do you think you will have a more fulfilling life?
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11-29-2012, 02:51 PM
It sounds like to me you want to become what Roissy calls the caring asshole.
He had a post very recently about being the right type of asshole. Go check that out.
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11-29-2012, 03:26 PM
Humans develop emotional bonds with humans. Those that don't are damaged.
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11-29-2012, 03:53 PM
Being an asshole to people for the sake of it won't fulfil your life in any way.
I've gone down a similar path, I used to be a bit like you. It comes with time, but you've got to make your main focus you. That comes from a heightened sense of self esteem, thinking that you're above others and choosing carefully who deserves your time. Literally they have to do something or be something that deserves your attention.
Do things that will raise your profile to yourself if you're not already. Get to the gym, buy new clothes, that sort of thing. Accept your ego inflation and you'll find it becomes quite natural.
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11-29-2012, 05:04 PM
It's okay to be sensitive to others' feelings. It's arguably a very good thing. Where you come into danger is when you put yourself at risk for the sake of others without being goddamn sure you won't lose big because someone arbitrarily lets you down.
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11-29-2012, 05:27 PM
There's a fine line between not caring about things and being a dick. You can still be a nice person while being care free. The guy who gets mad in traffic cursing out the world while blowing his horn is also the beta going home to being shifted on my his wife everyday. You feel me?
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11-29-2012, 05:51 PM
I think maybe what lush1 is concerned about is being the type of "nice guy" who gets taken for a chump, whose kindness is consistently and constantly taken for weakness and then gets jerked around for it. I realized I was in that camp of nice guys when I taught public school and was surrounded by crazy little kids and bitter, crazy feminist women, young and old (and ugly)--the realization of being THAT type of nice guy was a real bitter pill. Or red pill.
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11-30-2012, 02:34 AM
Agreed, NewSpark; that's what I was trying to say myself. I was in the same place (arguably still am in some ways); nothing sucks more than being hurt/robbed BECAUSE you were a good guy. Protecting yourself so you're not taken advantage of isn't callous, it's necessary.
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11-30-2012, 04:41 AM
I'm very attentive and caring and emotionally tuned, extremely empathic, and people lean on me and appreciate me. But that's only to a few select people. I deal with too many faces, too many numbers, too many pairs of tits, too many stories, to give a fuck. Maybe its just my impression but I always felt it happened naturally after enough time that you just got desensitized.