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(11-29-2012 09:25 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

What happens with a lot of guys is that they lose their game mindset on a date because they get happy and loose. They are like wow, I finally did it, she's here with me. I can relax now and take it easy. And what happens is that they slip back into their old behavior patterns

...which means they should work on their behavior patterns in order to be relaxed at all times [regardless whether they already had sex or not] instead of being concerned with "appearing" this or that way or trying to micromanage girl's perception of them, we all know how well that shit works, don't we.

[NYJ]

(11-29-2012 09:32 AM)starmaze Wrote:  

(11-29-2012 09:17 AM)lush1 Wrote:  

I agree when it comes to approaches but I've had a few rejections lately where I've been on a few dates etc, girl seems crazy about me then says bye bye out of the blue. It's hard not to take that personally.. Im trying to use these experiences to toughen me up as my heart is totally on my sleeve.

I lost some bangs becasue i didnt escalate fast enough. If she is crazy about you bang her as soon as possible.

This is so true. Case in point, back in April met this girl from my social circle and she was crazy about me from the get go. My friends kept telling me how she wouldn't stop talking about me or how she was going to be at the same spot I was going to that night etc. Well the one night I saw her again it was the same, she was all over me, making out with each other, the whole nine yards and I made the fatal flaw. We were all going to be at a bbq the next day so I didn't escalate any further that night thinking that the next day I could go and get it.

Big time mistake as the next day it was literally like she became another person. She came up to me and greeted me and pretty much nothing more. Sat 2 seats away from me at the table didn't really engage me at all the entire time. Never has the cliche " A day late and a dollar short " never been more appropriate.

[lush1]

(11-29-2012 09:25 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:  

What happens with a lot of guys is that they lose their game mindset on a date because they get happy and loose. They are like wow, I finally did it, she's here with me. I can relax now and take it easy. And what happens is that they slip back into their old behavior patterns which kills the girl interest.

The more attracted you are to a girl that MORE you need to be wary and conscious of how you are acting. For example, once a girl agrees to go out with me. I immediately go out and pick up a few more girls simply not to focus on her anymore and to not seem too needy when I meet her. The only time you can relax a little bit is AFTER you've bang her and then only just a little bit.

Frighteningly accurate. My problem is that when I'm dealing with younger girls I sense their vulnerability and I guess my paternal instinct comes in and I try and look after them, which is a long winded way of saying I become a beta chump.

I must ensure I disregard their vulnerable side and remember that no matter how delicate they seem they will still fuck me off without a seconds hesitation.

[Anon-A-Moose]

I've been really running official, structured, thought-out game only maybe 6 months now. I literally cannot remember the last time I was rejected. It was probably maybe 2 or 3 days ago. I can't remember it. Doesn't even register in my mind. It's like remembering how many times I took a shit two Sundays ago.

[NewSpark]

@Anon-A-Moose: I'd love to get to that point myself. The only way I suppose is to just jump in. I'm think about in Day Bang where Roosh says you gotta just schedule in the time--minimum 2 hours a week--to do approaches, otherwise you're really not gonna up your skills and change your mindset the way you want. (Or something like that.)

[Nomad77]

@Lush This is a simple way I use to remain myself not to make this mistake:

Always lead physically and follow emotionally.

If you are not leading a girl sexually she will end up feeling like a slut and break things off.