Quote: (11-14-2012 01:58 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (11-13-2012 09:00 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:
I also expect this among the negatives, sadly:
- Even greater enforcement of alimony collection
I guess you're confusing alimony with the child support here. Child support is enforced by the state through various means, but alimony is not. If it isn't being paid, trying to get it is similar to trying to collect any other judgment in your favor.
Maybe it makes a difference that Croatia has alimony (alimentacija), but it's not alimony like "payments for the wife", it's just what you'd call "child support".
Still, given that child support is frequently inflated, i.e. child support has alimony rolled in to "preserve the former lifestyle", contains no mechanism to ensure that it is actually being spent on the child, and is generally a lot higher than 50% of the actual costs of raising a child, does it make a significant difference how those two are collected? Child support has jumped the shark a long time ago in it being significantly different from alimony.
Quote: (11-14-2012 01:58 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
And if you're talking about child support, I can't understand why is this negative? Do you want to support someone else kids through higher taxes? I'd rather force their father to pay for them.
Because child support often has alimony stealthily rolled into it. Some small level of child support is reasonable of course, but you know that's not what I'm talking about. Particularly when we're not talking about some cads abandoning their families, but rather Beta providers being thrown out.
It seems to me that you're afraid of us paying for the kids that unmarried mothers irresponsibly have with cads. I am too. Who isn't?
But the fact that they'll get or won't get something from those cads is not relevant to female motivations in the first place. They know that they will experience no shame for doing it (because the society is PC now), and that they won't die in poverty (because the state will ensure that doesn't happen), and that is enough. Forcing those guys to pay child support, while of course it should be done, will not solve or even slow down the problem. The problem is in the female motivation.
Quote: (11-14-2012 01:58 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (11-13-2012 09:00 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:
Growing rates of single motherhood and the praise it receives
Just to make clear, are you talking about single motherhood or kids born out of wedlock? The latter isn't a big deal at all.
I mean just single women who raise children alone. These are divided into women who had children while married and then divorced, and those who had children out of wedlock in the first place (without a stable partner, see below). Both forms of single motherhood are bad, as evidenced by numerous studies about single-parent (or rather, single mother, since they are 85% of single parents)'s children outcomes, even when income differences and other factors are controlled for.
Example. Is there a significant difference between the two forms? Both have the same negative effects, it's just that single motherhood following a divorce is socially accepted (i.e. "I'm not a trashy teen mother!").
Obviously, it's growing very fast. I don't know if post-divorce single motherhood is growing at the same rate, but it's safe to assume that both are growing.
If you mean kids being born out of wedlock to stable couples who stay together, no, of course that's not a problem. I don't care if they have the paper or not. But that's practically marriage, isn't it? And I don't think it's that common. Certainly it can't account for more than half (if that) of the increase in green lines in the graph above.
Quote: (11-14-2012 01:58 AM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (11-13-2012 09:00 AM)Handsome Creepy Eel Wrote:
- Continued growth in divorce rates
Reference please. AFAIK they're stabilized, and now declining.
Haven't heard of it declining, but even if it were, would you really want to count that as some kind of achievement? It's still a massive number, and a part of the drop is just due to less people getting married in the first place, or people postponing marriage more and spending more time being divorced.
I think Dalrock explained it better than I did:
http://dalrock.wordpress.com/2012/07/04/...to-change/