Quote: (11-07-2012 05:13 PM)oldnemesis Wrote:
Quote: (11-07-2012 10:01 AM)Samseau Wrote:
Since it was his first girlfriend, how would he have known any better? It's not like he was settling with a "good enough" girl. He was ignorantly choosing one woman because he didn't know any better.
A "girlfriend" is typically more about a "friend" than a "girl", people tend to choose someone because they're comfortable with them, not because they're an opposite sex. And most people do fairly well with friends, being done so since the daycare times, and they simply don't care if there is someone even better. You have to have a specific personality to chase for the better your whole life (which basically means you're never happy with what you have), and most people are lucky not to have it.
Although you are right to a certain extent, in this day and age not going for the best woman possible is simply a life destroying option.
It's not a matter of if, but when, you get fucked over by a malicious girlfriend. I'm not exaggerating with woman-hate here. His old girlfriend was a legitimate user of men. She had major daddy-issues, would take offense to anything, and was a major attention whore.
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In fact your friend did incredibly well. Almost three years for the first relationship is impressive. A lot of marriages here in US don't make it past a two year mark.
If you knew what kind of shit he had to suffer just to make even that far, I doubt you'd call it an accomplishment.
He lost:
- Money
- Insane amounts of time
- Business opportunities (he wanted to go to law school; we studied for the LSAT together; he had a bitch girlfriend, I did not, and I beat his score by 6 points.)
And it was just a girlfriend! Imagine had he married that monster.
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No, he's already introduced me to his newest GF. I told him I don't think much of her, and he makes the effort to visit me on Sunday afternoons without her. I've been hanging with him every week for nearly 4 months straight, during which he still sees his GF.
So apparently he did not get the idea that "there exists something better than his monogamous life with a bitchy woman", and he did not take your advice seriously. Which was the point.
Well, although I don't like his new GF very much, she's still a big upgrade in personality compared to the last one.
I've accepted that he as a fundamentally different taste in women than I do, and he actually likes and prefers women with attitude. I hate them. It's not a big deal regarding our friendship.
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But him getting dumped was a slap of cold hard reality. He learned what a mistake it was to put his trust into a woman over his friends. He realized I was right, and that's why he returned and apologized to me.
So he is now spending as much time with you as before (and more than with his newest GF)?
Or just the bare minimum to keep your relationship alive, so he wouldn't have to apologize again?
Technically he's spending less than we did back in our college days, but what the fuck man, what do you expect? We have jobs and lives, it's not like we can just dick around all day like we did in college.
Additionally, the biggest impediment to us hanging out more often is that he lives 1.5 hours away from me. His girl lives nearby me, so it's actually easy for him to visit his girl on Saturdays and me on Sundays. He's gonna move into the same city as I do soon, and when that happens I'm sure we'll hang all the time.
You can grill me all you want Oldnemesis, but I'm definitely speaking from experience when it comes to having LTR male friends. In fact I have quite a few of them. I'm a man's man.
I can state with authority that it's good to stand up to your buddies when they do stupid shit, if you actually care about them. It will improve the relationship in the long run.
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