[Pappy]

I've been reading a lot lately about guys complaining about girls who are flakey. Here's what I think about the subject. To guys who complains too much about flaking :

1- Don't date stupid bitches

She's hot, she gives you an erection, and you want to fuck her. But she's a selfish cunt, she's obnoxious and loud, narcissic, materialistic. Deep down you hate her. You picked her for her looks only. So why do you get angry when she's acting like the bitch she is? You're already taking shit from her just by listening to her mindless babble just so you can fuck her, so suck it up when she's being herself and flake.


3- Know what you want

Seems to me a lot of guys start by wanting to fuck a girl but end up liking her in the process. If you're in the businness of fucking for fucking, then you will seek a particular kind of women (bitches) , and you won't care about them not showing up to dates. If you care it means you already have some feelings for her and you're doing it wrong. Feelings are for long term relationships. Mixing the two is generally a bad idea.

And if a ltr is what you're looking for... --->

3- Don't be an asshole yourself

Most game material is suited to get bitches into bed, not for love, not for romance, but to get laid. That's where it all started from : bars and clubs. This is a particular subset of society. So if you go around treating every women like club bitches, and everything is a power play, then they will return you the same level of respect. It doesn't mean they're not attracted to you and their vaginas are not tickled, it means on a human level they just think you're not good. This matters too. There's attraction, but there's also social skills.

If you're a guy with certain values, and that's the core of yourself, play your own strenghts. For instance, if you expect someone, not just girls , to be on time or not flake, then act accordingly : be on time and don't flake yourself. If you want a woman to commit to a date, commit to it yourself. If you're honest about it, then that gives you the right to call people out. Even bitches will appreciate it, they will sense your investment and good boyfriend material and think they have a chance catching you.

[Catch 22]

Yeah, I've been struggling with #1. DC has pushed me to accept more stupid bitches because there are fewer who can get the dick hard. Has led to a lot more headaches.

[iknowexactly]

(10-12-2012 04:48 PM)Pappy Wrote:  

...if you go around treating every women like club bitches, and everything is a power play, then they will return you the same level of respect. It doesn't mean they're not attracted to you and their vaginas are not tickled, it means on a human level they just think you're not good. This matters too. There's attraction, but there's also social skills.

Yikes, this guy is smart. Ya mean people respond to being treated NICE sometimes? C'mon, yer kiddin.

[sixsix]

I am pretty new to trying to set up follow up dates. Interesting challenges. It's a whole lot easier to get the girl into you and make out then it is to get her to come out for a drink.

What I think is my biggest problem (and maybe yours too) is going hardcore on the attraction and neglecting the comfort. So you make her horny that night and the make out is no problem, but the next day she lacks the connection and comfort. I rarely remember the conversation. What does she study again? Damn.

What helps me is when you meet her, just go for the attraction. Think I am a player and big trouble all you want. We kiss. Then before going find the time to sit down and talk. Be vulnerable ("Don't tell anyone but I used to be afraid of swimming" or whatever) so she opens up for real conversation. Talk about your dreams and hers. What's her biggest fear? Say "You know what? You are actually a cool chick" and tell her it would be cool to see her again. Then get her number. Make out and be the one to stop it. Tell her you will text her and leave.

[Pappy]

(10-14-2012 05:59 AM)sixsix Wrote:  

What I think is my biggest problem (and maybe yours too) is going hardcore on the attraction and neglecting the comfort.

My problem is that I grew up being a traditional, honest guy. Then I started to change in high school and college, where everything is about drinking, acting like you're the shit, you're a star, and the only thing that matters is fun. Now that I got older I realized that I'm done living that way. I look for other kind of women(mostly foreign), who look for other qualities in men. Strong, dependable, sticks to his word, honest, and even affectionate. These women are less superficial in the sense that they have better human qualities. And just like me, they don't like arrogance, disrespect, and dishonesty.