[capote]

Saturday night. Me and my boy were trying to get inside a bar really late (3am) ; we couldn't but we met two girls who were also refused entry. So we got talking and 20 mins later they are all at my place, having some drinks and dancing. Things got really hot and heavy but it was impossible to isolate them. So finally they decide to leave, we walk them to their house still hoping for that last possibility. Nada..

So after a few hours I get a message from the girl that goes like this:
"Hey! Can I come at your place, to finish
What we started?"

I was asleep and didn't respond until after 4 hours..
"Hey XYZ! I just woke up right now..you can come later this evening'

Anyway, no response since then. I called her later (after another 3-4 hours) but got the machine (obviously left no message).

How should I play this?

some context: I live in a student dorm in a perfect location.

[Pappy]

Seems you're doing good, but it was late and they were drunk. I suggest you wait a few days and invite her some other place. Don't count on last time's vibe. You have to reclose the deal, then you can bring her back home.

[rationalize_this]

This happens to me all the time when I have one girl over already, and I get a text from another and I'm passed out. The best course of action is usually not to reply for a day or two. This does a few things. First it instills a little sense of insecurity that she put herself out like that and you haven't taken the bait. Second, her hamster starts spinning rationalizing maybe you don't really like her that much, and that pussy doesn't have that much power over you. When you hit her up again, she won't be expecting it most likely, and she will be more open to your advances. DO NOT MENTION her previous text however.

Your response reeks of desperation. The exclamation point, you responded as soon you woke up, and readily and hastily accepted her bait, THE VERY NEXT NIGHT. This is where the importance of fucking other girls comes into play. You're busy! You have another party to go to, a date with another girl. When you get a text like this keep it in your back pocket like a wild card so to speak, and hit her up when no other options are panning out.

[capote]

rationalize_this,

I totally get you. However, note that I am in France...culturally its different here and the girls like it if you call them (in general). I felt that I might have come across as very rough and ready for sex during our encounter so I wanted to cool down and act like I am pursuing her. I am anything but desperate and I want her to know that, without her going cold. Its a possibility since she was quite drunk.

French girls are crazy. Anyway, I'm just going to wait and watch...

[rudebwoy]

(10-01-2012 10:59 AM)capote Wrote:  

rationalize_this,

I totally get you. However, note that I am in France...culturally its different here and the girls like it if you call them (in general). I felt that I might have come across as very rough and ready for sex during our encounter so I wanted to cool down and act like I am pursuing her. I am anything but desperate and I want her to know that, without her going cold. Its a possibility since she was quite drunk.

French girls are crazy. Anyway, I'm just going to wait and watch...

She might have liked the fact that you came across"very rough", do not resort to normal guy. She will not think you are desperate because she was the one that called you to come over and finish what was started.
I would be inclined not to call her so soon or maybe send her a text.

[HiFlo]

man, this happened to me last thursday. Made out with a chick in a club, couldn't pull her right then & there. At 3AM she texts me "fuuuckkkk me now." I'm asleep The next day I run some standard text game to reinitiate and she tells me to fuck off pretty much. LOL!!!!!

Frustrating, but I don't think there's anything you can do. Chalk it up the game is all. haha.