I have lived a lot of life, more than one should be allowed and still be alive, but I am not so altruistic as to share my knowledge here without reward.
One reward is what I learn here, another reward is reminiscing about my youth, as I perceive that many here are young. Being with the young keeps me vital, so that is a reward as well. So in return I share.
Dare's insightful thread (This Mindset is Blowing My Mind) sparked a realization for me and a learning opportunity for those who want to be confident but don't really know what confidence is..
Dare's post:
Note my entries in bold type and notice he uses the word "feeling" to conote his deep understanding.
"…Here's how it all tied together.
I made a mental exercise out of it. I wrote "SNMC" on my hand, short for "She Needs My Cock." (1)
I then went to work (co-working space.) Any woman I saw that day, I said to myself: She needs my cock. I also started feeling (knowing), really feeling (knowing) that deep undercurrent of sexual energy that's present through society at all times. I'd get flashes of what kind of orgy would be happening at the bus stop, on the sidewalks, etc if inhibitions were suddenly released. I walked through life with that sexual-undercurrent-awareness all day. I'd feel my own horniness, then realize that everyone else is feeling (knowing) the same thing. This is different than conceptually realizing human beings are sexual. It's FEELING (KNOWING) how horny society as a whole is.
I'd look at a woman and tell myself: She needs my cock. Then I'll look at her body and I could actually feel her horniness eminating from her. (2)
By the end of the day, I felt completely different. I feel like my entire perception of the world has changed. I don't feel like I'm hornier or want sex more than other people now. I feel like we're all part of the same club of people who badly want to fuck, we just don't know it. (3)
I feel less afraid to approach or show interest (confidence), as I *GENUINELY* feel (know) like I've tapped into how badly women want dick…"
This is an example of confidence through knowing.
Knowing is not an intellectual grasp, it is a feeling. Knowing creates confidence.
Primordial innate confidence comes from a deep knowing in your heart. When you know by heart (deeply) you are confident; illustrated by people saying, "I can do it, I know it by heart!"
1) Knowing (feeling) women want you cock.
2) Knowing (feeling) you are attractive
3) Knowing (feeling) we are connected as humans.
The above are important. But what connects them and creates confidence is "knowing."
Knowing is confidence.
What Dare experienced was a realization, a prelude to learning.
Learning is not "knowing." Learning is not confidence.
The process of confidence (knowing) begins from a realization that sparks learning which then creates practice that leads to performing. Performing repeatedly leads to knowing - which is confidence.
You perform something you have practiced. From performance comes refinement.
Refinement is wisdom (knowledge + application + time (repetition) = wisdom) \Wisdom is a deep knowing (by heart) and the essence of confidence.
Learning is a cognitive exercise that precedes practice
So when you realize that we are all connected in that we share a similar desire (in this case sex), and when you realize that the ability to fulfill mutual desire is attractiveness, when you realize that we seek intimacy as a mechanism to fulfill our desire (for sex and affection): then you understand that women want your cock. When you reach an "understanding," it is the end of the learning phase. Now you move into a practice phase.
Practice precedes performance
When you understand the above, you approach and interact with women because you understand their desire, and you are now using your understandings in a practical way to seek intimacy.
Performance precedes wisdom
Performing what you have practiced, in this case by repeatedly being intimate, creates wisdom (in this case carnal) and is the last step of the transformation of learning into knowing (confidence).
Wisdom, deep knowing by heart, and the ability to make your knowledge useful, is confidence.
When you can use what you have learned, and now know, to accomplish goals (to become "accomplished") it produces confidence. Older men have the advantage here. Women like accomplished and the confidence men portray from their accomplishments make mature men attractive.
Mature men (code for older here in Costa Rica) that try to compete as younger men are seen as foolish, or unaccomplished. Doing so, they are acting outside of their element of power.
Many people do not understand how to gain confidence… now you do. Thanks Coyote! (jajajaja) and thank you Dare (you get living Buddha points for your cool posts).
Confidence is a projection of competence gained from making your knowledge useful – when people (women) see that you have the ability to improve their life, they see you as desirable. The ability to improve lives through your wisdom creates what women see as confidence.
The above is kung fu theory applied to social situations.
In ancient authentic kung fu it is said, "You can take my life but you can never take my confidence."
Character is a crucial part of attractiveness. Dare is changing his character (behavior) through realizations to affect (create) confidence.
Your understandings and the ability to behave consistently according to your self definition can never be taken from you, unless you allow it.
Thus a man can kill me, but he can never kill my character. Only I can do that, which is the ultimate sign of failure (weakness or "beta" (as you guys say). Women want to feel powerful over you, and one way is to get you to perform character suicide: act against your self definition (your values). Betas use this as game as they are constantly going against themselves by bending to fulfill women's frivolous desires.
Alphas have confidence because they "know." In this case, they know "SNMC."
Confidence, like the definition of ancient kung fu, is "knowing."
When the open hand that represents everything outside you meets the closed fist of internal confidence you have the kung fu salute...
One reward is what I learn here, another reward is reminiscing about my youth, as I perceive that many here are young. Being with the young keeps me vital, so that is a reward as well. So in return I share.
Dare's insightful thread (This Mindset is Blowing My Mind) sparked a realization for me and a learning opportunity for those who want to be confident but don't really know what confidence is..
Dare's post:
Note my entries in bold type and notice he uses the word "feeling" to conote his deep understanding.
"…Here's how it all tied together.
I made a mental exercise out of it. I wrote "SNMC" on my hand, short for "She Needs My Cock." (1)
I then went to work (co-working space.) Any woman I saw that day, I said to myself: She needs my cock. I also started feeling (knowing), really feeling (knowing) that deep undercurrent of sexual energy that's present through society at all times. I'd get flashes of what kind of orgy would be happening at the bus stop, on the sidewalks, etc if inhibitions were suddenly released. I walked through life with that sexual-undercurrent-awareness all day. I'd feel my own horniness, then realize that everyone else is feeling (knowing) the same thing. This is different than conceptually realizing human beings are sexual. It's FEELING (KNOWING) how horny society as a whole is.
I'd look at a woman and tell myself: She needs my cock. Then I'll look at her body and I could actually feel her horniness eminating from her. (2)
By the end of the day, I felt completely different. I feel like my entire perception of the world has changed. I don't feel like I'm hornier or want sex more than other people now. I feel like we're all part of the same club of people who badly want to fuck, we just don't know it. (3)
I feel less afraid to approach or show interest (confidence), as I *GENUINELY* feel (know) like I've tapped into how badly women want dick…"
This is an example of confidence through knowing.
Knowing is not an intellectual grasp, it is a feeling. Knowing creates confidence.
Primordial innate confidence comes from a deep knowing in your heart. When you know by heart (deeply) you are confident; illustrated by people saying, "I can do it, I know it by heart!"
1) Knowing (feeling) women want you cock.
2) Knowing (feeling) you are attractive
3) Knowing (feeling) we are connected as humans.
The above are important. But what connects them and creates confidence is "knowing."
Knowing is confidence.
What Dare experienced was a realization, a prelude to learning.
Learning is not "knowing." Learning is not confidence.
The process of confidence (knowing) begins from a realization that sparks learning which then creates practice that leads to performing. Performing repeatedly leads to knowing - which is confidence.
You perform something you have practiced. From performance comes refinement.
Refinement is wisdom (knowledge + application + time (repetition) = wisdom) \Wisdom is a deep knowing (by heart) and the essence of confidence.
Learning is a cognitive exercise that precedes practice
So when you realize that we are all connected in that we share a similar desire (in this case sex), and when you realize that the ability to fulfill mutual desire is attractiveness, when you realize that we seek intimacy as a mechanism to fulfill our desire (for sex and affection): then you understand that women want your cock. When you reach an "understanding," it is the end of the learning phase. Now you move into a practice phase.
Practice precedes performance
When you understand the above, you approach and interact with women because you understand their desire, and you are now using your understandings in a practical way to seek intimacy.
Performance precedes wisdom
Performing what you have practiced, in this case by repeatedly being intimate, creates wisdom (in this case carnal) and is the last step of the transformation of learning into knowing (confidence).
Wisdom, deep knowing by heart, and the ability to make your knowledge useful, is confidence.
When you can use what you have learned, and now know, to accomplish goals (to become "accomplished") it produces confidence. Older men have the advantage here. Women like accomplished and the confidence men portray from their accomplishments make mature men attractive.
Mature men (code for older here in Costa Rica) that try to compete as younger men are seen as foolish, or unaccomplished. Doing so, they are acting outside of their element of power.
Many people do not understand how to gain confidence… now you do. Thanks Coyote! (jajajaja) and thank you Dare (you get living Buddha points for your cool posts).
Confidence is a projection of competence gained from making your knowledge useful – when people (women) see that you have the ability to improve their life, they see you as desirable. The ability to improve lives through your wisdom creates what women see as confidence.
The above is kung fu theory applied to social situations.
In ancient authentic kung fu it is said, "You can take my life but you can never take my confidence."
Character is a crucial part of attractiveness. Dare is changing his character (behavior) through realizations to affect (create) confidence.
Your understandings and the ability to behave consistently according to your self definition can never be taken from you, unless you allow it.
Thus a man can kill me, but he can never kill my character. Only I can do that, which is the ultimate sign of failure (weakness or "beta" (as you guys say). Women want to feel powerful over you, and one way is to get you to perform character suicide: act against your self definition (your values). Betas use this as game as they are constantly going against themselves by bending to fulfill women's frivolous desires.
Alphas have confidence because they "know." In this case, they know "SNMC."
Confidence, like the definition of ancient kung fu, is "knowing."
When the open hand that represents everything outside you meets the closed fist of internal confidence you have the kung fu salute...
