[DeepGreen]

I have a complicated situation (at least for me) that I haven't been in before.

Basically I am currently seeing a girl (N) that I met in Asia, Peru but we are not "official" at the moment. But I am also starting to see this other girl who is my Uncle's girlfriend's niece (G). She has the biggest best rack I have ever seen on a woman. Yes I know I am shallow, don't care.

Anyway, I have known G for while and have always run game on her but I have never escalated to the next level because either success or failure could have greatly complicated things and I felt too inexperienced to deal with it at the moment. However I am currently fast approaching my limit and am just going to say fuck it and go for it because the way I see it either I escalate and she accepts, or she rejects me and I know not to waste any more time on G.

As for N, I basically went for it because I wanted a distraction from G. Seeing as how I am in Peru and she is one of the few blonde blue eyed girls here (There aren't many in Peru) she knows she can basically wait until she is in relationshit until she gives it up, but I am close to reaching my limit on this one as well. The first 3 times we went out I always went in for the kiss but she refused and always texted me first after the date. I figured since she still wanted to see she liked me enough but when I grabbed her ass she got pissed and asked me what I wanted from her and she doesn't know what type of girls I usually go out with yadda yadda golden pussy syndrome.

I figure there are 3 possible outcomes

a) I end up with neither.
b) I end up with one or the other.
c) I end up with both and have to keep them from finding out about each other.

I figure I will just ride this out until it blows up in my face and have to deal with blowback from my family and friends. Does anyone have any suggestions on juggling more than one woman at a time?

Feel free to be as brutal as you think is necessary.

[Gmac]

So if you aren't juggling the two yet, why are you moving two steps ahead of yourself? Slow down and stop overanalyzing or you will end up with neither. There's a good chance you won't get what you want that way. Stop obsessing over these girls and make a move. Forget the consequences, they're meaningless here.

[DeepGreen]

Thanks for the tip. Sometimes one needs outside input to see clearly.

[Veloce]

(04-01-2012 12:13 PM)DeepGreen Wrote:  

I have a complicated situation (at least for me) that I haven't been in before.

Basically I am currently seeing a girl (N) that I met in Asia, Peru but we are not "official" at the moment. But I am also starting to see this other girl who is my Uncle's girlfriend's niece (G). She has the biggest best rack I have ever seen on a woman. Yes I know I am shallow, don't care.

Anyway, I have known G for while and have always run game on her but I have never escalated to the next level because either success or failure could have greatly complicated things and I felt too inexperienced to deal with it at the moment. However I am currently fast approaching my limit and am just going to say fuck it and go for it because the way I see it either I escalate and she accepts, or she rejects me and I know not to waste any more time on G.

As for N, I basically went for it because I wanted a distraction from G. Seeing as how I am in Peru and she is one of the few blonde blue eyed girls here (There aren't many in Peru) she knows she can basically wait until she is in relationshit until she gives it up, but I am close to reaching my limit on this one as well. The first 3 times we went out I always went in for the kiss but she refused and always texted me first after the date. I figured since she still wanted to see she liked me enough but when I grabbed her ass she got pissed and asked me what I wanted from her and she doesn't know what type of girls I usually go out with yadda yadda golden pussy syndrome.

I figure there are 3 possible outcomes

a) I end up with neither.
b) I end up with one or the other.
c) I end up with both and have to keep them from finding out about each other.

I figure I will just ride this out until it blows up in my face and have to deal with blowback from my family and friends. Does anyone have any suggestions on juggling more than one woman at a time?

Feel free to be as brutal as you think is necessary.

You have some catching up to do. Read through the forums for the next few days. Read Bang.

Okay, once you can manage to fuck both these chicks, congratulations.

Many members of the forum juggle several girls at once. It's normal and not the big deal you're making it out to be. In the initial stages of dating, most girls, at least American girls, ASSUME that you're fucking other girls and many of them are okay with it. It's only after a certain amount of dates and fucks that they might try to lay the "exclusivity" bullshit on you. I've had girls bring it up after two weeks, others after 3 months.

For me personally, the best days I have are when I wake up with one girl and go to bed with another that night. To do this comfortably it requires a head change on your part. Get rid of the guilt. Stop thinking about the girl or how it's going to affect her. While it requires serious effort to keep a steady rotation of girls, at the same time you shouldn't be giving a shit about any one of them. They're easily replaceable. If a girl calls you out, bullshit your way around. Joke about your 15 girlfriends openly.

While you should always make a girl wonder if you're fucking other girls, you shouldn't leave evidence and give her anything concrete to go on. Put your phone on silent. Keep your place clean and free of other girls stray hairs (wtf is up with girls shedding, jesus) I used to keep a box of shit girls would leave behind, makeup, earrings, underwear, socks, but then I just started throwing it out after a few days.

But, as mentioned above, worry about the bang first, then come back.

[Lumiere]

So you know 2 girls and you are banging neither of them?

This a new usage of the word "juggling" that I had not previously encountered.

[Clearwaterkid]

I don't believe there is anything to worry about until you are fucking both of them. Juggling is when you are having sex with both of them at the same time.

I have an unusual medical condition that leaving me with an over active sex drive. There is rarely one girl that can keep up with me so I usually have 3-4 at a time I juggle. This is my formula: Two get me twice a week and two get me once a week. And one day to myself for rest or searching for new girls to switch some of them out. If I'm at 3 girls then I decide whether one gets me 3 days, they all get me 2 days or I keep two days open for finding girls. It's easier than you think to balance.

[amity]

am re-visiting this thread as i'm in a similar position of juggling two girls
neither knows of the other's existence
one is a gf (has been something of an on/off situation but a gf nonetheless)
the other is a chick i met recently who is very much dtf
for the moment, i'm managing to work it pretty well, giving a bit more time to the gf, and an evening or so per week or a weekend day with the other girl
but i'm aware that this can't go on forever and so will need to make some decisions about what to do
i've thought about just telling girl no.2 that i'm not monagamous and see other women, and see what she says
but i'm aware it could backfire
alternatively i could just keep going as things are and say nothing, but i feel that girl no.2 is gonna start asking more questions soon... and i'll need to have some answers if i want to keep her onboard
any thoughts or suggestions?