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09-19-2012, 06:06 PM
Of course, you silly girl. You're not 'looking'. You want puppies and rainbows and romance just magically happening, but you're definitely not LOOKING. Is any woman under 30 without a gross physical deformity ever actually 'looking'?
That being said, where to take it from there? My thought is to completely ignore the comment and move forward, but I wonder if the forum has some proactive approach worth looking at.
Context: I had a night out at karaoke where I performed like a son of a bitch (I have a very good voice and know how to dance and sing at the same time). My buddy started talking to this girl, but then he had to ditch, leaving her to me, and I started chatting her up a bit. She's nice, cute, 24 and seems like a decent human being. However, I failed to build much of a connection in between the fun times and bouncing around between girls, and next thing I know, she's sweeping up her coat to leave. (oops) I told her, 'I need your number'.
Now that I type that context out, my second thought is that her comment may need some addressing, to chill out her hamster a bit and let her feel a little 'safer'. Thoughts?
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09-19-2012, 06:09 PM
also, our conversation outside of karaoke was extremely limited.
Me: 'XXXX, this is YYYY from ZZZZ on Sunday. Wasn't that fun?' (Tuesday)
Her: 'Hey YYYY. Yea. Sunday was fun.' (1 hour later)
Me: 'Let's do it again.' (Wednesday)
Her: 'Sure. Just to let you know tho, I'm really not looking for anything romantic.' (2 hours later)
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09-19-2012, 06:18 PM
Say "That's cool with me, we can just have fun" or "yeah I'm just looking for fun too"
They all know what fun is so there won't be any surprises.
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09-19-2012, 06:25 PM
'Sure. Just to let you know tho, I'm really not looking for anything romantic.' = Let's just be friends.
You weren't bold enough dude. Tough game.
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09-19-2012, 08:47 PM
Last night I hit up a 21 yr old Mexican here in SoCal. I asked her if she ever went out (we were at a club) and asked if she wanted to get a drink sometime or do something. She said yes, it would be fun, but just so you know, I like going out as friends, so only if its that. (A form of I am not looking for anything right now) All I said, which piqued her interest and got her chasing me, was "Why would we go out as anything different? I just met you and it was in a bar. I usually never meet people in bars but I wanted to talk to you"
Basically dude, just casually put it back on her and act like 'why would you even think that it would be anything romantic' and you should be good. I dont know about your chick now but that should work most of the time.
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09-19-2012, 08:56 PM
sylo, I like your style there. I'll try and construct a casual way to say it over text.
Also, badger3x, for the record, my go-to song is Wicked Game.
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09-19-2012, 08:59 PM
I could see one of two things working:
1) A reframe, as mentioned by others. Something like, "Slow down who said anything about romance?"
2) Ignore it and press on. "And?"
In your situation, I would choose the reframe because you didn't really sell her on you in the initial meeting.
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09-19-2012, 09:05 PM
I've had girls I've banged for months vomit this verbal diarhea out, and I've had girls that I hadn't banged yet say the exact same thing. You probably caught her at a shit time in her life, aka shes gotten pumped and dumped brutally for a few months, or just got broken up with/ended an LTR. I wouldnt even try to salvage this. I may use it as an excuse just to fuck with her. "Whatever you say Juliet"
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09-19-2012, 09:13 PM
The first girl I ever banged using Game said this to me before our first date.
"Sure we can hang out, but I'm not really looking to get into a relationship or anything. I like making new friends though."
We banged on the second date.
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09-20-2012, 07:26 AM
Haha, i heard that for the for the first time the other night from a regular fuckbuddy. She caught me out of frame. She said something along those lines and i told her "your morally retarded" and said "who cares, can you make sense for once?". The way she said it was so stupid and made no sense to the point that I got mad.(caught up in her emotional trap). Boom , haven't heard from her since. Nor do i care.
Biting your tongue And diverting the conversation is always your best bet , especially when in doubt. Even more important ,keep your state of mind the same. The minute she knocks you off track is the minute you could lose and get caught up in her emotional trap. The object here is to remain UNFAZED. <---- that is your frame, keep it for life.
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09-20-2012, 08:00 AM
Actions over words. This is the first Red Pill lesson.
You're welcome.
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09-20-2012, 03:24 PM
"I'm not looking for anything right now" means she's either looking to do casual, which I find most women struggle with, or she's looking for a chump. Someone she can put in the friendzone but get boyfriend-like attention from. If she ain't bangin' you shouldn't be hangin'
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09-21-2012, 02:37 AM
Heard "I don't want anything serious" recently from a girl on POF.
My response was "cool, whatever happens happens." I went on about how I am booked to travel soon, so she's not allowed to get attached. I think she liked hearing that. The date resulted in a SDL. I think 'nothing serious' girls are those who only want to bang without there being any relationship, btw, she texts me when she has days off now. Heh.
I think the booked to travel line could be useful with both girls looking for relationships and those looking for 'nothing serious'. If the relationship girl likes you enough she'll think she'll be willing to wait a few weeks in the distant future or whatever (besides, it's a DHV, "booked" to travel - not "wanting" to travel) and the nothing serious girl will read that as "oh great, he's not permanent". Remember your plans can always happen to "fall through", Grandma is sick, again.
I'm trying to find an answer or routine that would work in both cases or when the girl doesn't tell you what she's looking for, as if she knows.
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09-21-2012, 07:49 AM
My favorite direct game lines are these two :
"Who said we were friends?"
and something like
She : "I'm going to hit you with something to test your reaction. I have a boyfriend, I'm not looking for anything right now, etc."
Me : ... (full eye contact for like four-five seconds)
"And?"
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09-21-2012, 07:59 AM
Quote: (09-19-2012 06:06 PM)aphelion Wrote:
Of course, you silly girl. You're not 'looking'. You want puppies and rainbows and romance just magically happening, but you're definitely not LOOKING. Is any woman under 30 without a gross physical deformity ever actually 'looking'?
That being said, where to take it from there? My thought is to completely ignore the comment and move forward, but I wonder if the forum has some proactive approach worth looking at.
Context: I had a night out at karaoke where I performed like a son of a bitch (I have a very good voice and know how to dance and sing at the same time). My buddy started talking to this girl, but then he had to ditch, leaving her to me, and I started chatting her up a bit. She's nice, cute, 24 and seems like a decent human being. However, I failed to build much of a connection in between the fun times and bouncing around between girls, and next thing I know, she's sweeping up her coat to leave. (oops) I told her, 'I need your number'.
Now that I type that context out, my second thought is that her comment may need some addressing, to chill out her hamster a bit and let her feel a little 'safer'. Thoughts?
Notice the "right now" part in your thread title?
That's her telling you she is not all that into you, she thinks she can do better and plans on finding out.
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09-21-2012, 10:13 AM
Quote: (09-19-2012 08:59 PM)Bacchus Wrote:
I could see one of two things working:
1) A reframe, as mentioned by others. Something like, "Slow down who said anything about romance?"
2) Ignore it and press on. "And?"
In your situation, I would choose the reframe because you didn't really sell her on you in the initial meeting.
Yeah I would have probably said something like "we've just met and you're already talking about romance, don't get carried away we're not getting married yet".