[adrian_D]

I've got a date coming up where i know the second venue's going to be a night club. I'll be blunt - i can't dance. I've three left feet and I feel like a complete tool. Does anybody have a workable stratagy for dealing with the club scene when the thought of dancing freaks you out??

[thegmanifesto]

adrian_D,

I am sure our resident dance G, armanid27, will have some tips for you.

I am not sure about a quick fix, but if you want to learn how to dance, without dance classes, try boxing.

I can dance decent, because of the rhythm I have learned from boxing over the years.

If you want to breakdance, watch Style Wars: http://www.amazon.com/Style-Wars-Sam-Sch...ive=380601

And if you want to be really ill watch this: Kid N’ Play - House Party - Dance off http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2008/08/kid...e-off.html

[adrian_D]

I'm not sure if i can learn much in a few days. However, I've just found the below bit via google (don't know who wrote it) but it doesn't say what you should do if you don't dance....

Dating Tips – If You Can’t Dance, Don’t!

So the moral of the story is…If you can’t dance…DON’T. Now on the surface, that seems like a nice little piece of dating advice. But it goes much deeper than that… It is a powerful metaphor that MUST be applied to every aspect of your game.You see, as pickup artists we all have our own individual strengths and our own individual weaknesses. Having a good sense of humor is obviously a strength and one which can be exploited when related to dating and relationships in general. But right now I want to focus on our weaknesses… because we all got em. There are the kinds of weaknesses we can change and there are the kinds we can’t. And it is up to you to decide which of your weaknesses are worth devoting time to improving.But what I’m asking you to do is to make a list of your weaknesses and then go down that list and check off whichever ones are HIDEABLE.For example, as previously stated, I am a terrible dancer… But I have the option NOT to dance and therefore not reveal that weakness. I am also a very messy eater… But I have the option NOT to take my date out to eat. (Or at the very least, I can avoid ordering the spaghetti.) Identifying our own weaknesses is crucial, but by identifying which of our weaknesses can be masked and then doing so, we are taking our game to the next level. So just remember…If you

[Giovonny]

Why take her to a dance club if you can't dance??? But if you have to i think your only shot is.......Booze!!! and lots of funny playful jokes about how you used to take tap dance/ballet as a kid...then grab her hand and agressively pull her to the dance floor. Go crazy and just have fun moving to the music (even if you feel embaressed), if you do it with confidence , she will "feed off" your "not give a fuck" attitude and you guys might have fun. Its either this or just stand there with your hands in your pocket while some guy like armanid27 sweeps her off her feet!

[thegmanifesto]

Both good points.

And I was going to add like Giovonny, booze covers up many weaknesses in your Game.

[MiXX]

Hey guys,

Adrián_D, you've received some good advice above. The only thing I can add is if you MUST take her to a dance place and changing venues (like a comedy club instead) is absolutely out if the question, then be honest, BUT always be the guy that is willing to learn and try something new.

Here are the 2 scenarios I believe may happen:

Scenario 1: she loves to dance and is a great dancer.

If this is the case, tell her your worries now, and that you would LOVE to learn from her since she can mold you into the perfect dancer shed love to share the dance floor with. Sound excited at the thought of her being you instructor, and tell her you are very passionate about making
sure the 2 of you are having a great time.

Scenario 2: neither one of you can dance.

If this is the case, you're in LUCK! suggest that you both go take a dance lesson together as a fun date! This is a ton of fun and allows you to both instantly connect! After you've shared a couple of lessons, revisit the idea of that club she wanted to go to. Nevermind if you feel that you are a beginner, what matters us that you are exposing your fun and silly side to make her happy. She will see this, and you will be rewarded.

Let me know how it works out!

[alchemist]

In my experience confidence is key. If going on to the dancefloor really makes you uptight, don't go there. If you go to a nightclub with the attitude of being fun despite not being able to dance, it's a different story. Let her know how shit you are at dancing and ask her to teach you, or tell her sarcastically how good you are. Either way, if you can get her laughing and get your hands on her, it shouldn't be the biggest problem in the world.

I have a couple of friends who are awful, awful dancers ... they are the epitome of the no rhythm-having white Anglo-Saxon. One of them waits until he's really drunk, then wanders on to the dancefloor and does this thing where he stands still and just swings his arms slowly like a gorilla. Even when he's that drunk, it's obvious how self-conscious he is. My other friend just has fun. He moves to the beat as well as he can (not very well) jumps around and waves his hands with lots of energy and a fun, I-don't-give-a-fuck kind of vibe. Guess who does the best at pulling in clubs?

Personally, I'm no Fred Astaire but I'm not quite as bad as my 2 friends. When I'm out I like hip-hop, some R&B, house and some techno. Two-stepping to a beat and using your arms a bit isn't hard at all. As long as I'm feeling loosened-up and enjoying the music, being an average or slightly-above-average dancer is pretty easy.

[adrian_D]

Thanks for all the sugestions, guys. I've seen a couple of 'How to' videos on youtube but I dion't think i'm going to get my shit together within 48 hours to make a great impression. I'll try and do my best though.

[thegmanifesto]

'One of them waits until he's really drunk, then wanders on to the dancefloor and does this thing where he stands still and just swings his arms slowly like a gorilla."

That's pretty funny.

adrian_D,

Let us know how it goes.

[speakeasy]

(01-23-2010 11:17 AM)adrian_D Wrote:  

I've got a date coming up where i know the second venue's going to be a night club. I'll be blunt - i can't dance. I've three left feet and I feel like a complete tool. Does anybody have a workable stratagy for dealing with the club scene when the thought of dancing freaks you out??

If you're talking about your ordinary club that plays hiphop and r&b "club hits", you don't really need to know how to dance. If you watch people, nobody is truly dancing to this stuff, they're just moving to the rhythm. And the closer you get to a girl physically on the dance floor, the less actual dancing you'll be doing. In fact, much of the "dancing" I see is some dude just rubbing his dick on her ass to a beat. So I wouldn't even worry about it. At long as you can sense the beat and move your body to it, you don't need to learn any actual steps. You can completely dance sensually with a girl with lots of kino and not know a thing about dancing.

Now if you're talking other types of dancing like salsa, merengue, tango and what not, you'll need some skills. You just can't fake that stuff, it's technical and you need to learn the steps and there's no way around it. In that case, go to take some lessons.

[Shaman]

Here you go: How to club dance

[MiXX]

Well, here is another notch story involving dancing. Last night, while still on a business trip, I gathered a couple of co-workers/friends, and we headed for a "night out" - we ended up at a Trendy Hookah bar (I don't smoke, but this is actaully something fun worth trying occassionally", and I had my eye on a Solid 10!!! She was an all-American girl, looked like a mix between Alyssa Milano, and Pink - she was incredibly beautiful, and even had a veteran old school G like me at a lost for words many times!

Ok - no matter what I did - this woman cted like a total BITCH all night, she did not like anything anyone suggested, was acting like a brat, demanding attention, and spitting venom at me every so often as if to 'neg' me... (???)

If I suggested a place, she would instantly find something negative to say about it, and ruin anybody's mood, but I finally said - look, you sound like you don't want to be here, and as much as I'd hate to say this - why don't I just take you home, and we'll just not invite you to our "lame" social nights anymore - cool? (I was just pissed at her bad attitude)

"We are going dancing" I said, "and unfortunately, you've just about said you don't like to drink, smoke hookas or do anything fun - so, maybe sitting at home is your
thing".

She replied, "it's not that I don't like anything, I just don't like you!"

WTF? First time hanging out with this girl, and I've been nothing short of a cool
gentleman!

I had just about given up, when someone asked me "hey, Armanid27, can you dance
West Coast Swing?"

Now, by now, you all know how I feel about Dancing to game girls, and I replied "a
little here and there, I could always learn some more however".

Turns out these girls liked a dance called "west Coast Swing" - (Youtube it to see it in
action). Being a good salsa dancer helped, and I immediately was able to pick up on the moves
in a matter of 15 minutes and 2 dances...

Now, our grumpy girl, was paying close attention to me...she already told me she does not like me, so why is she fucking looking at me all night?

Did I mention this girl wa a solid 9 borderline 10 Victorias Secret model type?

She suddenly asks me, "hey, can we dance?"

I, surprisingly agreed, but was waiting for her to act like a total bitch on the dance
floor and make things even worse...

Turns out, this girl can West Coast Swing dance her ass off...and in minutes, we looked like we knew each other for years!

She would not let go of me all night, and bitched at other girls in the group when they asked me to dance that I was "hers".

LOL! How funny!

By 2:30am, we were - well, how can I say this like a gentleman - fucking!

That's right boys, I did not even have to try anymore - this girl was gonna have sex with me wether I liekd it or not, and basicaly ripped my clothes off when I took her
back to her place! No tricks, no resistance - just straight up raped me, and I felt like
if I dared say no, or even put up any resistance, she'd kick my ass!

She got up the next morning, fucked me one last time, and then cooked breakfeast
burritos for both of us before heading back to work.

Learn West Coast Hustle to game american girls!!!! Even the one that says she
cannot stand you, will fall victim to your moves on the dance floor!
Moral of the story - get out there and dance man!!

[thegmanifesto]

armanid27,

Excellent story.

Sold.

[Quasi]

armaid huzzah bro!

Besides that dancing is a way to show sexyness and swagger, its def. also turned her on that you told her to behave or go home

[Giovonny]

I think she was gaming you the whole time. "Pretending to not have a good time" is common "hot girl game". They need the attention. Telling her to "go home" was a nice play.

I'm on my way to my Salsa class now.

[Mirrored]

Armanid, you sound like a baller. I like your style.

As for me, I'm an okay dancer and better than I think. Confidence and smiles go a long fucking way if you're not good.

I however, advise against taking a girl out on a date at any sort of dance clubs because I think of it as inviting competition. If you're fucking this broad on the daily, yeah, you can bring her out, but if not, you're just setting yourself up to get swooped. And yeah, you might be smooth enough to prevent that, I am. But I don't have fun doing it, and getting rid of annoying and overtly obvious guys can kill a vibe. If I pay american club drink prices I had better be having a good time.

Yeah, you may find another girl there, but if you're looking for someone else there why bring a romantic interest to begin with. I hear some people argue that its good for your game to go after other girls etc. I disagree, and have found that it has closed doors and burned bridges.

Also, learn to dance. Seriously, it's not hard. It's something that anyone can do. Take some lessons. They're cheap. And you can meet hot girls that care about their bodies there. And it connects you to social nights anyways. All around good game.

And when you can pull some suave ass motherfucking dance stuff at a wedding or other social event, you are going to be the coveted cock of the night.

[thegmanifesto]

"I however, advise against taking a girl out on a date at any sort of dance clubs because I think of it as inviting competition."

Just Keeping It Real
It's A Player's Feel
Don't Take No Chick To The Club When U Just Met Her

Please believe it, unless your game is tight and you trust her.
Then don't bring her around me. Cause...