Quote: (01-03-2015 11:45 PM)POASTER Wrote:
The dominant female mother is actually very real in every traditional culture I've interacted with - Asian, Middle Eastern, Latino, Indian, etc. But they usually spend a long time in the kitchen making delicious traditional dishes.
In these cultures women run the household and men run the greater society.
In modern America, men work all day then come home to their girlfriend and bastard child (who may or may not be his). Then the girlfriend, who is wearing sweatpants, will treat him to a nice dinner of microwaved Hotpockets. Afterwards she'll say "I'm tired! I wanna watch Netflix!!" and force the guy to go wash the dishes.
I think it runs a little deeper than the traditional household-society paradigm.
What I mean by dominant, is just not dominant in the household, but dominant emotionally as well.
I'll use Mexico as the prime example because it's where I have run into the most mothers in Latin America.
Mothers in Mexico can be downright scary. Many emotionally control husbands and the entire family. They run things behind the scene, they exert an enormous amount of pressure on other family members, and they are the ones that most major decisions go through.
Many Latino fathers I have run into are actually quite passive and usually the "nice guy" of the family. This even extends into the economic sphere, because many families rely on the informal market for their finances and mothers are often the ones who run stores or the family business for the day-to-day operations.
Every family dynamic is different, sure, but I would rather deal with the wrath of a father than a mother in Mexico any day. Latinas can be cunning, smart, and particularly ruthless when they want to be. Ask many Mexican children and they probably fear their mother more than their father all things remaining equal.
Any girl that I have ever gamed in Latin America through a family dynamic, the goal is always to appease the mother. The mother is the one who decides whether their daughter is worthy to be with you and can be extremely judgmental during this process.
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I also think as far as the aesthetic paradigm is concerned, Latin America isn't too rosy either. On average, most Latinas balloon up after bearing children, not do they particularly take care of themselves physically in their own home. For every American girl in sweat pants, there is a Latina in something similar. I have spent time with mothers in their own homes, both attractive ones and unattractive ones, and there really isn't anything different with how they dress or look at home than your average American woman.
Sure, your typical Latina girl can cook a meal better than your average American girl, but I don't consider this a big deal in the grand scheme of things anyways.
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I think there are some things to learn from Latinos and some things to completely avoid. In fact, because of their often crass and chauvinistic behaviour, I often play the opposite game to get Latinas in bed and it works. For example, the high prevalence of cat-calling and machismo culture is something to completely disregard for game. Latinos are also often to persistent on targets, not knowing when to move on to something else.
However, Latinos body language and their ability to use language in a smart and sexual way is extremely valuable. I have watched many Latinos do extremely well because they are quite smooth when they know what they are doing. Some also have the ability to work very quickly on women and have perfected the ability to sweep girls off their feet particularly with their strong use of body language and escalation.
I have incorporated a lot of things into my style from aspects I have observed when in Latin America, but I have also totally disregarded other things. All of this to say, just like any other group of men out there, Latinos are a mixed bag and I don't think you can really put any group of men on a pedestal or rank them.