Quote: (08-05-2012 10:44 AM)JayMillz Wrote:
A lot of us travel and meet different kinds of women. The one thing you may not want to do is try to wifey up a travel bang, particularly if you are in a country where 90% of the women that get with gringos are hoes or "semi-pros."
I'll give you an example of what I mean. This guy thinks he found his Beyonce. Here is a touching video she made about her new gringo husband http://youtu.be/_cu9t3FOfFc
Meanwhile, this is what he really married
Don't let this happen to you.
Got any more details on this chick Jay? Is she an old bang or something? No need to get too specific, just curious as to her backstory is all.
Quote: (08-05-2012 01:03 PM)thedude3737 Wrote:
You know, I think as long as you know what you're getting yourself into, why not?
If I was 60+ years old and sick of the chase (I can't really fathom that happening, but you never know), and as long as I knew I was getting a down and dirty hoe, but I wanted to keep her around, I could see myself wifing it up to keep her happy.
When I was in my 20s I was super hung up on the madonna whore complex. I REALLY cared how many guys a girl had fucked and was even paranoid about it. 10 years and many sluts later, I don't really care. I treat bangs, dates, and LTRs all the same, like total sluts and I don't commit to any of them. If I find myself eventually settling down with a hoe when I'm old, so be it, at least I'll know what I'm getting.
Now, any guy that has DELUSIONS about the girl he's with, that's a different story. Guys that are getting hitched in their 20s, 30s, 40s to "the girl of their dreams", basically a foreign chick that's actually EAGER to fuck them unlike the girls back home, AND she's thin AND she's got a turbo ass, yeah, these guys need to hold out for a bit longer and enjoy the ride before settling down.
I'm with this viewpoint here.
The sad thing is that for the dude in the video ("Harold Lumoze"), this is probably not a horrible deal unless he has the wrong impression of her. If he's got delusions that she was an angel before he got to her, then yes, he's in for a rude surprise eventually.
But if he is more hip to the game and can see what he's getting into (he may very well be on top of things, who knows) then this could come out a net positive from a return-on-investment standpoint. Think about it:
He's, in all likelihood, a black american male. I've
mentioned the challenges associated with black males and dating in America before. Suffice it to say that, unless you're in the exemplary 5% of the population here, you're going to have a hard time attracting fit black women in their prime, and
dating out of the race is not easy. Black women regularly complain about the dearth of marriageable black men, but the reality is that black men
don't have all that much to choose from either.
To put it simply, dude probably doesn't have many options beyond women who are old, fat (or both) and carry hostile attitudes.
With this girl, he gets a fairly decent deal that involves a tradeoff.
As a price, he must accept that she was probably a hoe beforehand (stripping, semi-pro work and similar things at least) and may have some mileage and baggage with her. He's also going to need to accept that videos of her like this are going to be out there and will exist for good.
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Yes, these videos are of the actual girl in question. She made a comment on the second video using the same account she'd used to post her tribute to her new boyfriend. She appears only in the first quarter of this second video. The comment, from 9 months ago: "
i need to know who make that video i am the lady dancing and that is crazy i have a lot of man and lesbian bother me becuz of this video."
She's still working on her English.)
In return for dealing with this, however, he gets a young (22), hot girl in her physical prime with a banging body and an upbrining in a culture (Dominican) with a much less pathological/hostile attitude to black men than he'd commonly see among his own (black american women
do not respect or really even like black men). She'll fuck like a champ, look good on his arm and probably be much more feminine and fit than the women he's used to hanging around.
Is this a bad deal? Only if the guy is delusional, as thedude mentioned earlier. If he knows what he's getting and understands what she is, then he'll be able to manage her realistically (ex: pre-nup, avoidance of simping, etc) and avoid the many risks (ex: divorce/visa rape, hurt over discovering she isn't an angel, simping, etc) usually associated with this type of deal and get more out of it.
Whether or not Mr. Lumoze has done all of this is up in the air, but he could get a solid return if he has some sense.