I suffered from pretty bad approach anxiety, worse than a lot of guys have it, I think (or I may be wrong). I'm just now starting to come out of my shell.
The problem with a lot of these 'programs' to overcome approach anxiety is that they tend to take a one size fits all approach, but guys are different. For example, telling somebody with severe approach anxiety to deliberately crash and burn is probably going to backfire, and it's going to reinforce that fear in his mind (it will essentially turn a faulty perception into actual reality). GLL's program is generally good as it uses a proven psychological phenomena to overcoming fear (progressive desensitization), but I also agree it's a little slow and not decisive enough.
Ultimately I think you need to find the solution within you and then bring it outward. I hope to write about this experience in a series of two articles for ROK sometime down the line. The first would be finding an internal program to balance your inner game, and the second would be the act of approaching itself. If it's worked for me I think it can work with anyone and is flexible enough to suit the needs of others.
AA probably won't ever go away permanently for most guys. I'm still dealing with reducing my own, but I agree with boywonder34 that there will come a decisive tipping point where it becomes manageable at least a good enough portion of the time that you'll be approaching with at least some regularity. For me that was my third or fourth approach.
The problem with a lot of these 'programs' to overcome approach anxiety is that they tend to take a one size fits all approach, but guys are different. For example, telling somebody with severe approach anxiety to deliberately crash and burn is probably going to backfire, and it's going to reinforce that fear in his mind (it will essentially turn a faulty perception into actual reality). GLL's program is generally good as it uses a proven psychological phenomena to overcoming fear (progressive desensitization), but I also agree it's a little slow and not decisive enough.
Ultimately I think you need to find the solution within you and then bring it outward. I hope to write about this experience in a series of two articles for ROK sometime down the line. The first would be finding an internal program to balance your inner game, and the second would be the act of approaching itself. If it's worked for me I think it can work with anyone and is flexible enough to suit the needs of others.
AA probably won't ever go away permanently for most guys. I'm still dealing with reducing my own, but I agree with boywonder34 that there will come a decisive tipping point where it becomes manageable at least a good enough portion of the time that you'll be approaching with at least some regularity. For me that was my third or fourth approach.