[Timoteo]

(08-20-2012 03:15 AM)XXL Wrote:  

as for drama in LTR/dating. sadly, it's the ultimate seduction.

extreme example: Rihanna Says That She And Chris Brown "Love Each Other And We Probably Always Will"

translation: "i'm hot famous chick who can have any man in the world however i'm emotionally hooked (like a drug) on the guy who beat the shit out of me in public and made me lose my mind and turned my life into one big fucking chaos but i can't stop therefore we fuck on the regular and the sex is awesome"

It's also not surprising how not a single "journalist" or interviewer has ever asked, that I can recall, what happened that night that caused him to beat her ass. I read when it first happened that in the car, she grabbed his phone because another bitch called or texted him, and she flipped out. An argument insued, and she threw the car keys down the street, blah, blah and he flipped and started swinging. I had also read that the relationship was volatile, and that she's slapped him in the past. The whole concept that you can't ask WHY he hit her, because to ask is somehow insinuating that she deserved it, is bullshit. Of course WHY is an important question. Maybe she laid hands on him first, and he went overboard in reply, but that would reframe the narrative - she's no longer a complete victim, and he's no longer the monster the media wants to portray him as. I always wondered why he didn't do a minute of time, especially with the pics of her busted-up grille out there. Maybe behind the scenes they took into account that she did infact strike him first, and wasn't the complete innocent that she's being portrayed as.

[dirtman]

This has been said before on here, so I'm mostly just re-iterating, but here's my two cents:

Never admit it, unless you want to end the relationship. Even then, it's shitty and wounds her pride and feelings.

Never tell the "other woman" your real name or give her your "real" number. Use a google voice number. Unless you're sure you can absolutely trust her, but you never know what will change, or if a girl may go psycho on you. Be batman with the strange, and don't reveal too much.

Never take her to your place. Never, ever do this. Go to her place, or get a room.

Ideally you'll do this in another town. At the very least, don't go places you go with her.