[Feo]

This thread reeks of gay...



But honestly...go play some fucking sports and don't hang around your lame ass office buddies.

[Blackhawk]

(07-10-2012 01:36 PM)Feo Wrote:  

go play some fucking sports

I moved to a new town and had the bright idea to join a co-ed softball league to meet lots of locals (and girls) quickly.

Everyone was married and older than me. I ended up on the worst team in the league. We literally lost every game.

It wasted my Thursday nights for 3 months.

I don't recommend repeating my experience.

[Way Cool Jr]

(07-10-2012 01:36 PM)Feo Wrote:  

go play some fucking sports

I like individual sports like swimming or hitting the gym.
Not really into sport teams.

And by the way most of the people in the gym, at least where I live, are lower class douchebags.

[Sebastian]

I am thinking about joining one of those lame sports for fall season (dodge ball, kickball etc)
they hit the bar right after the game lol.

(07-10-2012 04:36 PM)Blackhawk Wrote:  

(07-10-2012 01:36 PM)Feo Wrote:  

go play some fucking sports

I moved to a new town and had the bright idea to join a co-ed softball league to meet lots of locals (and girls) quickly.

Everyone was married and older than me. I ended up on the worst team in the league. We literally lost every game.

It wasted my Thursday nights for 3 months.

I don't recommend repeating my experience.

[Palo_alto]

Ask random guys to a man-date.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlfIyqSKAEM

Now, seriously speaking. Join a league or get yourself a soccer ball and go to pick up soccer, is fun, you work out and you meet people. That's what I do when I move to a new city.

[XXL]

(07-04-2012 06:13 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

I've been reading Roosh's Bang Poland, and while it's great on some game techniques, one of the lines that stuck out with me was that when Polish girls asked him who he was at the club with, he answered, "I'm here alone, I don't have friends here." In Poland, this worked for him b/c they interpreted it as self-confident, but in the US the lone-wolf thing isn't really considered cool.

yeah everytime i'm out especially at nightclubs (easier to blend in the crowd than in a bar) i see guys solo trying to have fun or just watching what's going on around

(07-04-2012 06:13 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

What about you all? Do you have close guy friends? Or do you have just guy acquiantences who you may see time and time again at the same bars/clubs?

Do you join a sports team league? Do you bond over sports at a sports bar with some regulars?

fast way to do it is, not surprisingly, by knowing girls..
+ by meeting girls you get into their social circles where you meet guys.
+ by going out with girls other guys are more open to meet you, bouncers are friendlier, door selectors welcome you and other random dudes in venues want to be nice to you to get closer to your girls.

you connect with guys by talking about sport, beer, girls, cars and working out. that's all.

playing together in sport teams or by talking about weightlifting at gym is also good. but hot girls is always the best bet

[thegmanifesto]

(07-04-2012 06:13 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

I've been reading Roosh's Bang Poland, and while it's great on some game techniques, one of the lines that stuck out with me was that when Polish girls asked him who he was at the club with, he answered, "I'm here alone, I don't have friends here." In Poland, this worked for him b/c they interpreted it as self-confident, but in the US the lone-wolf thing isn't really considered cool.

Why do you say that?

What city/state are you in?

[MikeCF]

If you want to make friends, you need to be worthy of being a friend.

Are you? Why? Because you were born?

What do you offer other guys?

[WestCoast]

(07-12-2012 03:04 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

If you want to make friends, you need to be worthy of being a friend.

Are you? Why? Because you were born?

What do you offer other guys?

Truer words have not been spoken. No different than "Game".

If someone adds value in your life you keep them around often don't you say get the fuck out of my way. Life's hard, but not harder than you think.

You know those coffee mugs that say "life's a bitch then you die?" how about this

"If Life's a Bitch... Why are you losing?"

[WestCoast]

(07-12-2012 02:33 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

(07-04-2012 06:13 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

I've been reading Roosh's Bang Poland, and while it's great on some game techniques, one of the lines that stuck out with me was that when Polish girls asked him who he was at the club with, he answered, "I'm here alone, I don't have friends here." In Poland, this worked for him b/c they interpreted it as self-confident, but in the US the lone-wolf thing isn't really considered cool.

Why do you say that?

What city/state are you in?

Bolded is entirely false. There will always be people who try to put you down, ignore them. I look like I am 21, I go out solo to pick up, with a wing only if he is competent or someone who has asked me for help.

Challenge your own beliefs

[46.]

(07-12-2012 07:57 AM)Sebastian Wrote:  

they hit the bar right after the game lol.

Yup. Everyone mentioned sports because its true. Most of my adult friends revolve around sports and after-game drinking (as well as work). The additional thing about hanging out with other men and sports is that sports qualifies dudes. You know who's all talk, and who delivers. You know who's selfish or unselfish, and who's got your back. All those characteristics displayed during games is what you'll get as a friend.

[PrettyBoy]

(07-05-2012 12:00 AM)pitt Wrote:  

I wouldnt be so desperate to make new male friends.

I have dumped most of my male friends almost two years ago and i have told myself not too long ago that i dont want to have new male friends and im good with the ones i have now. However, due to my super social nature, i cant help but get to know new people, i usually avoid it to go anywhere but when the new cat is interesting, i cant help but connect with him.

However when you are an adult, you are not just interested in connecting with someone who makes you laugh, you are more interested in connecting with someone who helps you grow. The truth is that the majority of males are uninteresting people, its hard for you to find other cats who are into self development. I am more interested in giving and receiving value. For example, me and one of my best mates were rolling the other day, then he told me to go see his cousin, we went to his cousin house, next minute we started talking about sports and then the conversation is getting more and more interested and i found out that he is got a post graduation degree in sports and health (some shit like that) and that he works as a personal trainer. Latter on we arranged a deal where i would pay his gym membership and he would give me personal training in the gym with non additional value (what a deal, a gym membership is 50 dollars per month and personal trainers charge that money per hour). So this cat became part of my circle by being my personal trainer. Talking about this, i have also met another cat two weeks ago who is giving me programming lessons for almost nothing.

Resuming, im more interested in getting to know people that bring value to my life then guys who are bringing fun.

Plus i am an international playboy, i dont stay around a lot, most of these cats dont even have money to go to a local nightclub, i cant see them keeping up with being my friends, they can't afford my lifestyle (i am talking mainly travelling here).

Pitt, excactly how do you maintain this international playboy lifestyle. I'm only 20 and I so badly want to travel.

[HiFlo]

(07-12-2012 03:48 PM)46. Wrote:  

(07-12-2012 07:57 AM)Sebastian Wrote:  

they hit the bar right after the game lol.

Yup. Everyone mentioned sports because its true. Most of my adult friends revolve around sports and after-game drinking (as well as work). The additional thing about hanging out with other men and sports is that sports qualifies dudes. You know who's all talk, and who delivers. You know who's selfish or unselfish, and who's got your back. All those characteristics displayed during games is what you'll get as a friend.

OK here's a deal that makes shit tough for me, want to see if anyone has any suggestions. I can't drink. I have major substance abuse problems. If I start to drink after a bout of sobriety, within 2 months I'll have burned all my bridges, spent all my cash and probably be arrested in a complete trajectory of a downward spiral.

It's weird to be the only guy who goes out after work/sports and NOT drink. Fuck dude.

[pitt]

I am not living big like other guys on here. You should ask guys who are making more than 100k per year. Check out the lifestyle subforum, there is tons of information on how you can make money long term. I wish this forum existed when i was 20, there is so much info on here, if you use it wisely, you should be doing fine in few years.

[HiFlo]

OK, another question, let's say I'm not a guy interested in talking about sports (I like playing em, even though I suck), but I just can't really develop 'feelings' to follow a sport.

Football is huge in the south. I know the scores the next day, but I have little interest in watching it.

How do I adapt myself to actually learning more & liking football/baseball/bball? Cause right now all I see is numerical stats on a page that I'm supposed to memorize. How do I inject emotion into this shit?

[Newb#3]

(07-13-2012 06:50 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

OK, another question, let's say I'm not a guy interested in talking about sports (I like playing em, even though I suck), but I just can't really develop 'feelings' to follow a sport.

Football is huge in the south. I know the scores the next day, but I have little interest in watching it.

How do I adapt myself to actually learning more & liking football/baseball/bball? Cause right now all I see is numerical stats on a page that I'm supposed to memorize. How do I inject emotion into this shit?

Pro sports are no fun if you have no one to root for.

Start watching even if its boring, and eventually once you know enough, find teams and players to root for. You wont have to really--if you watch long enough you find teams and players you like more than others. Or you live in a city where there is a team.

Thats why people who hate watching most professional soccer can still care about the Euro and World cups. They have teams they can root for. The same goes for the Olympics, where most of the sports are extremely unpopular.

[Blackhawk]

(07-13-2012 06:50 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

OK here's a deal that makes shit tough for me, want to see if anyone has any suggestions. I can't drink.

My advice is become an amateur bartender. You're not allowed to drink while on duty. Everyone knows that. So you'll go under the radar.

Other option is bring your own Vitamin Water or shit and drink only that (even if you just keep refilling the same bottles at the tap over and over again at home). If people ask you, it's part of your work out routine/training/ cleanse. You're no longer the guy with an alcohol problem, you're now the guy who's way serious about his body. People respect that.

(07-13-2012 06:50 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

How do I adapt myself to actually learning more & liking football/baseball/bball? Cause right now all I see is numerical stats on a page that I'm supposed to memorize. How do I inject emotion into this shit?

Don't. People go to the tailgates for the food and the parties. No one pays attention to the game. Seriously, you'd do better to pay attention to people's BBQ recipes.

[WestCoast]

I want you to do something else.

Go up to a full length mirror say "what kind of person would hang out with me?"

Go to that venue!

There is no "map" to anything in life nothing. Seriously. Every time i try to do something text book i fail, when i just do it the way that shows my strengths I win... by a MILE

I don't like many sports, I dont like baseball or football, whatevs, if people dislike me because of that? Okay you're lame, next... because i won't denegrate you for disliking things I enjoy.

I like to dance... a ton. In fact i dance alone when i feel like practicing, because you know what i enjoy it. If someone "hates on me for this" NEXT if someone has no opinion? Great still a possible friend. If they do enjoy it well boom 1 thing in common!

Do things you enjoy, friends will follow.

The difficult thing is as the USA continues more people are going to be angling for things, more people are going to be "suspicious". I'm the reverse I give everyone a "until proven guilty" effect. So if i like someone's personality i'll reach out if i don't i won't. Simple.

No one should have time to stay around people they dislike.

Finally, no. This thread does not "reek of gay" this was a honest question, the bigger one is are you going to act on it?

If you don't well then

(07-13-2012 06:50 PM)HiFlo Wrote:  

OK, another question, let's say I'm not a guy interested in talking about sports (I like playing em, even though I suck), but I just can't really develop 'feelings' to follow a sport.

Football is huge in the south. I know the scores the next day, but I have little interest in watching it.

How do I adapt myself to actually learning more & liking football/baseball/bball? Cause right now all I see is numerical stats on a page that I'm supposed to memorize. How do I inject emotion into this shit?

[_DC_]

(07-13-2012 04:47 PM)pitt Wrote:  

I am not living big like other guys on here. You should ask guys who are making more than 100k per year. Check out the lifestyle subforum, there is tons of information on how you can make money long term. I wish this forum existed when i was 20, there is so much info on here, if you use it wisely, you should be doing fine in few years.

I don't get the point. I'm making over 100K now, and have no problem making friends, however, I'd say it was even easier back in college when I didn't have a job. Money has little to do with it.

As I write this I have to check myself though. I'll admit having a really awesome pad makes people want to come over and hang out more... if thats what you mean by more $$$.

[pitt]

(07-13-2012 10:39 PM)_DC_ Wrote:  

(07-13-2012 04:47 PM)pitt Wrote:  

I am not living big like other guys on here. You should ask guys who are making more than 100k per year. Check out the lifestyle subforum, there is tons of information on how you can make money long term. I wish this forum existed when i was 20, there is so much info on here, if you use it wisely, you should be doing fine in few years.

I don't get the point. I'm making over 100K now, and have no problem making friends, however, I'd say it was even easier back in college when I didn't have a job. Money has little to do with it.

As I write this I have to check myself though. I'll admit having a really awesome pad makes people want to come over and hang out more... if thats what you mean by more $$$.

DC prettyboy asked me how i maintain this international playboy life and i told him to ask guys that are doing big (they should be a better model to follow). I was just replying to pretty boy post, read the posts above again.

[Berliner]

(07-12-2012 03:04 PM)MikeCF Wrote:  

If you want to make friends, you need to be worthy of being a friend.

Are you? Why? Because you were born?

What do you offer other guys?

I agree completely.Some of you guys seem very selfish and looking at the situation from a completely egoistical perception.When looking for new friends who'll help you grow,ask yourself first how can you improve this person's life?Everything else is pure leaching.When looking for somebody who's providing value and is fun,what value do you provide and are you fun?I myself am on a level of funniness between Adam Sandler and Joe Rogan after he's been run over by a truck.Don't ask what the Doggfather can do for you,but..

Regarding keeping old friends,often times both of the people think that the other person doesn't really care about them and nobody takes the initiative to contact the other.I'd suggest trying to bring life to your friendship,if the other person doesn't respond,move on.

EDIT:For making new friends I'd also suggest finding commonalities and meeting that person in other context.For example you become friends with somebody on your football team,then suggest meeting for something unrelated that you both like doing,so that you become more than couple of guys who play(ed) in the same team.

[tjames]

How do you get a guy to rub baby's oil all over you and rub your muscles? Nothing gay or nothing I just want to make some male companions. Strictly platonic.

[wildwyaatt]

(07-04-2012 06:21 PM)thegmanifesto Wrote:  

It is straight up impossible to make new guy friends.

Especially with this younger generation coming up.

The only way it is possible is thru something like surfing or Boxing.

Expand please sir.

[wildwyaatt]

Make friends with lots of girls, they introduce you to the men. Men see you with 3 girls, men follow you. Worked well for me anyways, then they all talk about how pimp you are behind your back.