First off, I love this forum. When I found the news out this morning, I wondered what the board would think.
As a player, it is almost like a death sentence. I have dodged two bullets in my life and looking back I am happy about it. You think you would learn the first time but the second time was a straight xanax and liquor induced smash that I couldn't remember. Anyway, it's not about me but being a developing player the first thing that went through my mind is I hope she doesn't keep it.
I spoke to some of my battle buddies this morning about it. They are all older cats (early 40's). They are saying that it is a blessing. I actually felt like a shithead after how positive they were about the situation.
A little about the situation. My little step sister is 21, about to finish her degree in accounting this fall, and has never worked a day in her life. She went to Belize for a little summer vacation in May and returned pregnant. An average dude in Belize pulls 6K a year. Those are mostly city dudes and dudes in the capital. She was messing around in the south so more than likely the dude doesn’t have shit going for him. Basically she will be raising the child alone. Thing is she can't take care of herself. Her mother does everything for her and supports her. Which is cool while you are in college, but she could have easily gotten a job to help out. She never has.
She is 21 yo so you can imagine what is running through her mind right now. All the shopping, babyshower, blahblahblah but this shit is going to break my dad's marriage. He fought hard to get my niece out the house. She is finally going with her mom after 6 years. So the house is my brother who just moved back home (23) and my little sister(21). Now if she keeps it then a new child will be in the picture that my dad will have to support for a while. My pops is so close to retirement in Belize haha. I emailed him today. He has that beaten tone in him. That "what could you do" face. I think he will suck it up for a year then try to boot her, move to Belize, or divorce my stepmom.
The baby is a month along right now. Women get so emotional when they can start feeling it. My first dodge was 8 weeks along and she cried to me for 20 mins. The second was 6 weeks along and I actually was there and paid for everything. A month is almost the point of no return for the young girls. I think she is going to keep it.
Alright, if you had some advice for your little sister, what would you tell her? I wouldn't try to sway her either way but I would try to smack her in the face with reality, tell her about my experience, tell her how she is going to fuck up my dad and her moms marriage, and in the end tell her she needs to "woman up" if she is going to become a mother.
I would recommend the military to her because that degree with no experience can only take her so far. Finish her degree, go officer, drop the baby with dude if possible, and get that first duty station then figure shit out. Otherwise she will be working some 10hr job depending on her mother and my father for support.
Appreciate the thoughts.
As a player, it is almost like a death sentence. I have dodged two bullets in my life and looking back I am happy about it. You think you would learn the first time but the second time was a straight xanax and liquor induced smash that I couldn't remember. Anyway, it's not about me but being a developing player the first thing that went through my mind is I hope she doesn't keep it.
I spoke to some of my battle buddies this morning about it. They are all older cats (early 40's). They are saying that it is a blessing. I actually felt like a shithead after how positive they were about the situation.
A little about the situation. My little step sister is 21, about to finish her degree in accounting this fall, and has never worked a day in her life. She went to Belize for a little summer vacation in May and returned pregnant. An average dude in Belize pulls 6K a year. Those are mostly city dudes and dudes in the capital. She was messing around in the south so more than likely the dude doesn’t have shit going for him. Basically she will be raising the child alone. Thing is she can't take care of herself. Her mother does everything for her and supports her. Which is cool while you are in college, but she could have easily gotten a job to help out. She never has.
She is 21 yo so you can imagine what is running through her mind right now. All the shopping, babyshower, blahblahblah but this shit is going to break my dad's marriage. He fought hard to get my niece out the house. She is finally going with her mom after 6 years. So the house is my brother who just moved back home (23) and my little sister(21). Now if she keeps it then a new child will be in the picture that my dad will have to support for a while. My pops is so close to retirement in Belize haha. I emailed him today. He has that beaten tone in him. That "what could you do" face. I think he will suck it up for a year then try to boot her, move to Belize, or divorce my stepmom.
The baby is a month along right now. Women get so emotional when they can start feeling it. My first dodge was 8 weeks along and she cried to me for 20 mins. The second was 6 weeks along and I actually was there and paid for everything. A month is almost the point of no return for the young girls. I think she is going to keep it.
Alright, if you had some advice for your little sister, what would you tell her? I wouldn't try to sway her either way but I would try to smack her in the face with reality, tell her about my experience, tell her how she is going to fuck up my dad and her moms marriage, and in the end tell her she needs to "woman up" if she is going to become a mother.
I would recommend the military to her because that degree with no experience can only take her so far. Finish her degree, go officer, drop the baby with dude if possible, and get that first duty station then figure shit out. Otherwise she will be working some 10hr job depending on her mother and my father for support.
Appreciate the thoughts.
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