[Surreyman]

I think I've had a bad couple of weeks, where half a dozen girls I was dead certain about have flaked out on me.

It's not that I'm upset I lost them, it just makes me feel like I'm going nowhere.

How do you guys keep your morale up when you're in a slump?

[MrXY]

I deal with the frustration of flaking (and of general bad female behavior) by managing my expectations

That is, I keep my expectations of girls really low. I expect them to flake, lie, act crazy, etc so when they do I'm not disappointed

And remember that a lot of this is a numbers game, a certain percentage of approaches are going to convert to numbers, numbers to dates etc

As far as being in a slump goes, remember that, if you keep working, the cold streaks are always followed by hot streaks.

[XXL]

to me no expectations is huge. i understand i'm not that high priority in her life after we meet. i can never tell what's currently happening in her life when i meet her so i got no weight on my shoulder. no worries.

why you give a fuck? cause if you were happy you wouldn't give a fuck. when some particular girl pulls out her validation/attention you don't lose your morale, you keep your cool and stay centered & carefree which already comes across high status as a motherfucker. and now other girls want to meet you cause who doesn't want to talk to happy guy.

can you see how game is not about girls at all?

[HeyPete]

(06-24-2012 05:32 PM)XXL Wrote:  

to me no expectations is huge. i understand i'm not that high priority in her life after we meet. i can never tell what's currently happening in her life when i meet her so i got no weight on my shoulder. no worries.

why you give a fuck? cause if you were happy you wouldn't give a fuck. when some particular girl pulls out her validation/attention you don't lose your morale, you keep your cool and stay centered & carefree which already comes across high status as a motherfucker. and now other girls want to meet you cause who doesn't want to talk to happy guy.

can you see how game is not about girls at all?

Exactly! It's like Mike Damone said to Rat (almost 30 years ago, holy shit) in Fast Times at Ridgemont High.

"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude."