[Goneped]

Hey guys, just wanted to let you know ive been reading glimpses from Bang. Officially started reading Day Bang from start to finish. My question is about a month ago I have met a young women who works at a restraunt who ive noticed multiple eye contact with me while i was out with my family for my birthday dinner. I noticed she had a ring on so i didn't bother to make any chat with her. Well i ended up going to the club the next day and i ran into one of my highschool buddies and she ends up coming up to him a few minutes into our chat. She seemed so excited to see me. Long story short we talked very shortly and my friend was actually quite good friends with her i guess. Its been a month since that approach im wanting to re-establish something maybe pop my head in the restraunt she works at and grab a drink or too, high end restraunt with a bar. my problem is i wouldn't know how to approach her as she sits down guests and i wouldn't know how or what to approach her with to start a chat with her and get her number. All feedback is very appreciated. Thanks guys.

[WanderingSoul]

If she is a hostess she might get off work before the place closes as it gets slow. You could go in maybe 90 minutes before closing time and when she seats you mention to her that you are going to such and such place in an hour or two and that she should go with you when she gets off.

If she says no, still go to the other place and try to meet some other girls. Don't let yourself get caught up in oneitis with this girl. If you find yourself liking her, which from your post I suspect you may be leaning that way, know it is probably just because you may not have many other girls on the line right now.

Good luck man.

[Goneped]

(06-19-2012 07:27 AM)RioNomad Wrote:  

If she is a hostess she might get off work before the place closes as it gets slow. You could go in maybe 90 minutes before closing time and when she seats you mention to her that you are going to such and such place in an hour or two and that she should go with you when she gets off.

If she says no, still go to the other place and try to meet some other girls. Don't let yourself get caught up in oneitis with this girl. If you find yourself liking her, which from your post I suspect you may be leaning that way, know it is probably just because you may not have many other girls on the line right now.

Good luck man.

Thanks for the advice my man, I am not liking her as far as love star struck. Its been a while, I am somewhat shy. But i am trying to break that bubble i just don't know what to start talking to her about as i want to grab her number first and go from there for a date. Thats where im stuck at. How to approach and what to say.

[poutsara]

(06-19-2012 12:53 PM)Goneped Wrote:  

Thanks for the advice my man, I am not liking her as far as love star struck. Its been a while, I am somewhat shy. But i am trying to break that bubble i just don't know what to start talking to her about as i want to grab her number first and go from there for a date. Thats where im stuck at. How to approach and what to say.

I would go to this place near when she gets off of work. Go with a friend who is talkative. Sit near her area and talk about interesting/fun stuff or at least make it look like you are. Invite her to join with a question or two when she looks not busy. Gauge her interest from there and if she is, invite her somewhere else with you immediately.

[MrXY]

You've already me this girl through your friend, right? well that makes it easy.

Go into the restaurant, preferably with a friend of two and less than two hours before closing

Wait until she's not busy go over to her and say something like" I remember you, you know (your friends name) right. How have you been?

Important note: pretend that you do not remember her name. "What's your name again?"

Make small talk for a minute or two then ask her to join you at some club when she gets off. If she says she can't, say "I can put your number in my phone, maybe we can get together some other time."

If you can't get her to go out with you that night have a plan to go approach other girls

[Veloce]

(06-19-2012 09:53 PM)MrXY Wrote:  

You've already me this girl through your friend, right? well that makes it easy.

Go into the restaurant, preferably with a friend of two and less than two hours before closing

Wait until she's not busy go over to her and say something like" I remember you, you know (your friends name) right. How have you been?

Important note: pretend that you do not remember her name. "What's your name again?"

Make small talk for a minute or two then ask her to join you at some club when she gets off. If she says she can't, say "I can put your number in my phone, maybe we can get together some other time."

If you can't get her to go out with you that night have a plan to go approach other girls

Solid advice. I work in a restaurant, hostesses are my bread and butter.

Never hit on a girl while she's busy at work. If she likes you and you've established strong eye contact, in my experience you can be surprisingly open and direct. If you've seen her 2-3 times and she recognizes you, just make small conversation with her, little quips that don't occupy her time. What you want to say at some point is, "So when are we gonna get together for a drink?" Her response will gauge her interest level. If she says something like, "Let's do it soon!" Then hang out for a bit, finish your drink, and then have a scratch piece of paper for her to write her number on. Right as you walk out, put it in front of her and let her know to write down her # so you can reach her later. It can't be too obvious; some restaurants/bars don't look kindly on their servers/hostesses giving their number out in the middle of a shift.

I've gotten several bangs like this. Your timing has to be pretty precise.