I see a lot of appropriate criticism of picky American spinsters. But I'm still a bit confused about mens' anger and resentment. Maybe this will show some understanding.
IMHO womens liberation is a social consequence of technological innovation. Specifically, labor-saving household appliances and the birth control pill allowed women to enter the workforce and eliminated womens' need for male providers.
That sounds like a good thing, and women exploited it by marrying later. Here is the problem with that strategy. Women happily date older men. That sucks for men in their twenties, because they must compete romantically with older, richer men. Young women have an enormous dating demographic advantage.
But this changes with age. Thirty-five-year-old women must compete for dates with twenty-five-year-olds. They have lost their demographic edge. In principle this is not a problem. Women might get married young. Older single woman might have great careers and seek equals or house-husbands. This is where the problem appears. Women tend to choose easier majors and lower-paying jobs. The previous generation needed male providers, and devoted themselves to learning domestic skills. Marriage was a contract that allowed men to purchase youth and beauty in exchange for future security and fidelity.
But now you have these thirty-something women with shitty careers demanding alpha male providers. They are in the twilight of their beauty years and don't offer femininity and domesticity. I don't understand why men are so antagonistic about women "riding the cock carousel". But I think this attitude shows these women cannot be trusted to be loyal and faithful. High-earning men get screwed on alimony. There is no reason to marry an older self-styled Sex in the City girl.
So what you have is deluded, self-entitled women who want an alpha provider prince. These women have squandered their youth and beauty, with no career or nurturing skills to offer. Their male cohorts have suffered loneliness and frustration in their twenties. Suddenly the men are expected to "man up", pursue the women, pay for dates, and generally be exploited. Basically it is a double standard. American women want to the opportunity to be economically liberated. But they don't want to be socially liberated. They shed old-fashioned domestic and relationship responsibilities, without assuming modern economic responsibilities.
Basically womens' sexual market value declines after thirty. Many of them have inflated out-of-date self-assessments. This consigns women to spinsterhood and disrupts the relationship market for men. With so many average women "5's" demanding men who are "10's", the average guy has a hard time finding a mate. So a lot of average men who are "5's" end up with women who are only "4's". Traditional men experience loneliness and frustration in their youth, and incomplete opportunities when they are older. Women have fun in their twenties. They have no responsibilities, and let men assume the burdens of economics and courtship. Then in their thirties they get therapists and anti-depressants. Nobody wins.
IMHO womens liberation is a social consequence of technological innovation. Specifically, labor-saving household appliances and the birth control pill allowed women to enter the workforce and eliminated womens' need for male providers.
That sounds like a good thing, and women exploited it by marrying later. Here is the problem with that strategy. Women happily date older men. That sucks for men in their twenties, because they must compete romantically with older, richer men. Young women have an enormous dating demographic advantage.
But this changes with age. Thirty-five-year-old women must compete for dates with twenty-five-year-olds. They have lost their demographic edge. In principle this is not a problem. Women might get married young. Older single woman might have great careers and seek equals or house-husbands. This is where the problem appears. Women tend to choose easier majors and lower-paying jobs. The previous generation needed male providers, and devoted themselves to learning domestic skills. Marriage was a contract that allowed men to purchase youth and beauty in exchange for future security and fidelity.
But now you have these thirty-something women with shitty careers demanding alpha male providers. They are in the twilight of their beauty years and don't offer femininity and domesticity. I don't understand why men are so antagonistic about women "riding the cock carousel". But I think this attitude shows these women cannot be trusted to be loyal and faithful. High-earning men get screwed on alimony. There is no reason to marry an older self-styled Sex in the City girl.
So what you have is deluded, self-entitled women who want an alpha provider prince. These women have squandered their youth and beauty, with no career or nurturing skills to offer. Their male cohorts have suffered loneliness and frustration in their twenties. Suddenly the men are expected to "man up", pursue the women, pay for dates, and generally be exploited. Basically it is a double standard. American women want to the opportunity to be economically liberated. But they don't want to be socially liberated. They shed old-fashioned domestic and relationship responsibilities, without assuming modern economic responsibilities.
Basically womens' sexual market value declines after thirty. Many of them have inflated out-of-date self-assessments. This consigns women to spinsterhood and disrupts the relationship market for men. With so many average women "5's" demanding men who are "10's", the average guy has a hard time finding a mate. So a lot of average men who are "5's" end up with women who are only "4's". Traditional men experience loneliness and frustration in their youth, and incomplete opportunities when they are older. Women have fun in their twenties. They have no responsibilities, and let men assume the burdens of economics and courtship. Then in their thirties they get therapists and anti-depressants. Nobody wins.
