Quote: (06-06-2012 10:00 AM)Parlay44 Wrote:
I think it's some kind of chemical imbalance for some. For others it's a perversion or fetish.
I've talked with multiple gays that had traumatic episodes with women while they were still young. Mothers, aunts and teachers doing abusive shit to their little boys that left them scarred for life.
Then there's guys whose formative sexual experiences were just terrible. The woman crushed his cock blue and he walked in pain the next week. They were so worried about pregnancy they used a cocktail of birth control cremes that made his dick hole burn like napalm for days afterwards. He got a week long full body rash from being naked with her and thinks he's allergic to women. (instead of allergic to her perfume, or that he got an STD) These guys have such a horrible imprinting incident they have a physical revulsion to all women afterwards.
And then there's guys who are so embarrassed to be naked that pretty much anything spooks them. His public hair got caught in her braces. She didn't know how to give a BJ and used teeth, he was in pain but too embarrassed to tell her to stop. There was menstrual blood and that made it icky. She laughed or giggled sometime during sex and rather than it was her being nervous, he's sure she was laughing at his cock. She yelled at him. He didn't get an erection. (And there's a hundred reasons for that one, starting trying to force it with girls that don't pass your boner test to using alcohol or other drugs beforehand) They get shamed or embarrassed or feel pain once, and that's it. They're scared of women for life.
And then there's just crazy with unrealistic expectations. He was nervous about a date, masturbated beforehand, then didn't get an erection once they got naked. That wasn't a sign that masturbating before sex is a bad idea. No. That was a sign that women aren't attractive to him anymore.
Or the guys who think all girls, all the time, pass the boner test. The first time a girl doesn't? It's not her, it's him, he must be gay. (Talk about extreme white knight syndrome) Likewise the guy who don't know how to break up with his girlfriend because she's gotten fat, cut her hair short, or otherwise slipped down the attractiveness scale and doesn't inspire him anymore. She used to pass the boner test but doesn't now? It's never her, it's always him, he must have turned gay. These guys literally run out and buy the rainbow flags and shit just so they can break up without the girl feeling bad or responsible for not giving him an erection any more. And these girls are always very supportive of their former boyfriend in his farce of coming out of the closet, even trying to set him up on dates with other men, because it means having the perfect excuse to avoid facing her own declining attractiveness. Would she do the same and set him up on dates with other (hotter) women post-break up if he hadn't pretended to be gay? No. No she would not.
And finally there's guys like
Alfred Kinsey that train their sexual response badly with bad masturbation technique. Kinsey masturbated by shoving matchsticks down his dick hole. He spent his teen years training himself that this was the only way to get off. Needless to say, when he finally started having sex with a woman, he found it unsatisfying for its lack of matchsticks-down-the-dickhole-ness. And rather than saying, "Hey, I spent years learning to get off this one way, maybe I can now learn how to get off another way that's more compatible with having sex with my wife." he refused to grow, change or learn new techniques. Instead he hung out with freaky people who would put up with his freaky need, and refused to ever evolve past his 13 year old sexual self.