[charmer]

as we know,attraction is a must rule in order to get the bang...but this is the most frustrated factor for me...once i get the interaction with a girl and communication goes and i apply all the techniques i.e routine stories,neg,cocky funny..i make a girl attracted to me and this is the time where words 'i love you' comes in...but the main problem is that girl simply do not leave me at all...and all i have to do is to play my 'nice' game because once and if she finds that i simply do not have intentions having L TR with her or if she comes to know that i am all interested in sex....she would go mad and felt cheated....moreover,this kind of attraction increases if i get the bang with her...and the girl owns me...she thinks i am her future husband ..she wont leave me.

sometimes i think i should not break a girl's heart after bang....but i am helpless...i cant help it..when i want to dump a girl.i choose the most worst described method of dumping someone..and that is silent...yes thats how i am...because what she demands from me after sex...i cant fulfill that.

i have quit gaming some chicks and didn't get the bang simply because i cannot afford too much attraction...i cant afford LTR...i cannot afford her 'misbehavior' once she falls in love with me.


what do i do?.

[Lumiere]

Try being honest.

IF you don't want a LTR then tell her.

[Trotter]

I've actually pulled an asshole thing or two myself. I used to say that I'm upfront with these bangs and let them know right off that's all it is. It turns out I was only telling half the truth. I would wait until after I banged them to bring it up. I guess my feeling on the matter is that if you mention it before hand sex is less likely to happen so I don't until afterward. I've only had one chick get pissy with me and I don't think really because she had any illusions of being in an LTR, but the fact that I mentioned it probably made her feel like a whore. Need to find a different approach. I might be all for saying nothing at all and just going with the flow.

[thegmanifesto]

Charmer,

Read this:

How to Un-Pick up Girls

http://www.thegmanifesto.com/2009/07/how...girls.html

Should solve all your problems.

[Giovonny]

Yes, ....the "UN-PICKUP".....this becomes important when girls start getting "clingy" or when you get "sick" of them and need a break. I just had a conversation with my Philipina/Swedish college girl about how "attached" she is becoming. I told her to "be smart" cause i don't want a serious relationship. I also told her "this is not a love thing"..."its a fun thing"....."don't get your emotions/feelings invested in me cause I'll be leaving the country soon" (NOT TRUE) ....Honestly, i think the most important thing is HOW i said it....I said it without even an ounce of fear, shame, apology or "feeling bad about it" in my voice.

She called me the next day an apologized for "complicating" the situation and said that she will be "more smart" in the future. You would be surprised how many girls "just wanna have fun" and are down for a "friends with benefits" type of situation

"THEGMANIFESTOS" post on this topic is "spot on" ...and in my opinion is one of his most under-rated posts of all time...

[kerouac]

The easiest way to do this is to become completely careless at this point (though this might have the ill-effect of making her fall deeper for you). What works well is to start making it blatantly obvious you are into other girls. Start checking other girls out, and if she brings it up, just tell her you need your freedom, and throw the napkin on the table and just leave.

[thegmanifesto]

"Philipina/Swedish college girl"

Sounds like a good combo.