Your First Threesome
10-03-2012, 02:49 AM
@Joehoya, I agree with #1: luck and logistics are usually massive. It's not a matter of convincing, or completely dominating the situation. It's more about finding the <1% of girls with great potential, doing what you can do cultivate enthusiasm and comfort, and getting them to a bedroom.
Although I suspect with great game, you can screen less and game more. In other words, start with two girls who are only mildly bi/kinky and convert them to threesomes with massive game.
@Candide, I concur that alcohol needs to have as small a role as possible, and your main girl must play an active role. Still, alcohol will grease the wheels, but if it's used all the time you'll miss out on the bonding that creates repeat customers. Kudos for going in sober!
I'll be general about my first (outside a swinger's club) threesome, so feel free to ask questions. It started with a kinky 19yo girl who was a former FB, and returned to me for rebound sex after a 10mo relationship. While she was in the relationship, I had kept her abreast of my swinging, and she was getting in touch with her new found interest in girls, so the pieces fell into place. I was crystal clear that I wanted to have more threesomes, with or without her, so the frame was set.
After being back together for a month, I met the perfect candidate for us in a city two hours away. She had experience with guys and girls and was also in a rebound, so was down to date a couple. I talked to the new girl/guest a few days later, then immediately called my girl. She was excited that (a) everything was set up for her and (b) she and this girl had a lot in common. The next day, we had a three way call, and planned to drive up to the guest's city later in the week. We all flirted, and we talked about dancing and crashing in the hotel room, but the threesome itself was only implied.
The date itself was a lesson in logistics. I booked the hotel early, and drove my girl over with plenty of time to get comfortable with the room and the city. We planned to meet the guest at 10pm, but she was late, and the club we chose wasn't 18+ like we thought. So I scrambled a taxi and talked with a friend I knew in the area, and we settled on a BYOB hookah bar that didn't check IDs, and a semi-ghetto bar that let my girl in for $20 under the table. The whole time, I kept my girl in the middle of us, because the girl's rapport with each other was paramount, and if anyone was going to get kino from me it had to be my girl. I helped the girls create a love bubble by handling all the logistics (like fetching beer for the hookah bar and talking to bouncers and cab drivers) and I let them playfully team up against me when it felt right.
After lots of drinks, dancing and flirting, we all went to the hotel room at 2am. It was academic from there. I made out with the guest (for the first time!) and I said "it's hot in here" and took my shirt off (the "go first" principal). We offered the guest a massage, and she helped us out by taking off her dress before laying face down on the bed. During the massage, I moved down to the guest's thighs, and had my girl straddle her torso. She went in for the kiss, and the sexual tension exploded as the two went at it.
The next four hours are "burnt into the annuls of my mind," and the room had an atmosphere of perpetual lust. Every attempt at sleep was sidetracked by the slightest kiss or grab. We did get a smoke break and a shower break, but by 7am I was very glad I had brought caffeine pills.
Lessons:
- The right primary girl is worth her weight in gold. She must have a real interest in at least experimenting with girls, zero jealousy, and enough free time to make it happen. Having lots of experience with girls will not make up for a mediocre attitude or poor logistics.
- Each girl was taken into a conversational space of frankness and trust where I could show her my path, and ask about her compatibility with that path. The attitude was calm, cautious, and blunt. The threesome was an adventure, but also a project, so expectation of reliability and contribution seemed to create momentum.
- Bouncing two girls around a large city is like being a ringleader in a circus. You must lead the vibe, but also handle every logistical contingency. Coming prepared with multiple venues near the hotel would have helped.
- It all starts with frame control. I was so committed to threesomes that I was willing to risk losing each girl. At the same time, I never put pressure on the girls, relying instead on showing them the real opportunity for serious fun, and letting them quietly agree.