[redbeard]

(09-10-2017 09:59 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

I don't know if anyone here feels this way, but I currently can not see any real benefit for myself, for not fapping.

When I have ED I think its nervousness, and my own natural protection mechanism against women I shouldn't mess with anyway. There are some women I struggle at first with to get it up with, and others that I am practically busting a nut on before I get it out of my pants.

I'm naturally a high energy, aggressive guy, and have been my whole life. I workout a lot with intense exercise(HIIT, Crossfit, etc). I keep it under control with meditation and a strong self-oriented approach to people in general, I just generally withdraw from people if I need to. I physically remove myself from situations of randomness with other people, like clubs and random bar bullshit that always pops up.

I tend to over think, over react, over emote, etc. Fapping calms me down, and helps me go to sleep. I got to 5 days in a row once of no fapp, and its like my body completely shut down. I didnt feel right.

I suffer from ADD. Maybe not fapping could help with that? I dont know. I do however think that fapping too much is bad(more than 2x p day), and that excessive porn use is as well. I dont mind dropping porn, and get more excited with a plate sends nudes, than when I find one online.

Just random thoughts.

Have you gone more than 5 days?

Are you still fucking girls?

[Vaun]

(09-17-2017 12:05 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

Have you gone more than 5 days?

Are you still fucking girls?

I can't remember when I have gone more than five days, in my entire life. I regularly have sex with my current plates.

[redbeard]

(09-17-2017 10:28 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 12:05 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

Have you gone more than 5 days?

Are you still fucking girls?

I can't remember when I have gone more than five days, in my entire life. I regularly have sex with my current plates.

You're hitting flatline. I suggest a 30 day reboot.

[CaptainChardonnay]

Coming up on 2 weeks now. Did edge a little bit this morning but stopped. No real desire to watch porn anymore. Didn't install a blocker or anything. I don't really think of it. That might be the best strategy since I tried counting the days before and it just made me think of it more.

[Ivanis]

^
Very similar to myself. I still read some erotic fiction from time to time but I do not have the desire to act upon the urges. Just something to do while you're bored. Be warned however, it can be a slippery slope.

[twogapz]

Thanks to all you guys who post your successes and failures. I have good days and bad days and have seen some improvement. I start to really feel desire on the third day and have a lot of game improvement to do before I can start to meet my desire without this. Seeing your stories and tips helps a lot, even though I know this journey will be tough.

One thing that has helped is simply not being in a place where I'm tempted. Knowing my weaknesses helps.

Repping many of you who post.

[Swoldier]

I've been on NoFap for about a year and a half now and it's honestly been one of the most transformative periods of my life.

I had always been afraid of rawdogging girls because of the amount of precum I produced, so I rarely did it with girls unless we were in an LTR and I knew for a fact that she was on birth control (it is possible to impregnate a chick with precum, contrary to popular belief, and with the amount I produced I wasn't risking it). A year ago I read a post on another forum about a guy who reduced his amount of precum by abstaining from masturbation (his theory was that excessive masturbation leads to weaker PC muscles) so I decided to try it. I did that for about 10 months while doing reverse kegels sporadically.

A few weeks ago I noticed while making out with a girl that I produced very little precum, which was a big step up from my previous state (in which my boxers would have been soaked). I'm not sure if it can be attributed to the reverse kegels, not masturbating, or both, but I doubt it's from the reverse kegels because I only did it every other month. Whatever the cause, I love the results.

I think of NoFap akin to Pascal's wager: much to gain, very little to lose.

[Vaun]

(09-17-2017 10:53 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 10:28 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 12:05 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

Have you gone more than 5 days?

Are you still fucking girls?

I can't remember when I have gone more than five days, in my entire life. I regularly have sex with my current plates.

You're hitting flatline. I suggest a 30 day reboot.

Reboot from what?

[redbeard]

(09-17-2017 05:54 PM)Vaun Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 10:53 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 10:28 AM)Vaun Wrote:  

(09-17-2017 12:05 AM)redbeard Wrote:  

Have you gone more than 5 days?

Are you still fucking girls?

I can't remember when I have gone more than five days, in my entire life. I regularly have sex with my current plates.

You're hitting flatline. I suggest a 30 day reboot.

Reboot from what?

Fapping.

[redbeard]

(09-17-2017 05:51 PM)Swoldier Wrote:  

I've been on NoFap for about a year and a half now and it's honestly been one of the most transformative periods of my life.

I had always been afraid of rawdogging girls because of the amount of precum I produced, so I rarely did it with girls unless we were in an LTR and I knew for a fact that she was on birth control (it is possible to impregnate a chick with precum, contrary to popular belief, and with the amount I produced I wasn't risking it). A year ago I read a post on another forum about a guy who reduced his amount of precum by abstaining from masturbation (his theory was that excessive masturbation leads to weaker PC muscles) so I decided to try it. I did that for about 10 months while doing reverse kegels sporadically.

A few weeks ago I noticed while making out with a girl that I produced very little precum, which was a big step up from my previous state (in which my boxers would have been soaked). I'm not sure if it can be attributed to the reverse kegels, not masturbating, or both, but I doubt it's from the reverse kegels because I only did it every other month. Whatever the cause, I love the results.

I think of NoFap akin to Pascal's wager: much to gain, very little to lose.

Great post thanks. I'm still on the fence about precum pregnancy, but we can agree that NoFap is a positive force in a man's life.

What kind of RK routine were you doing? I think I need to focus on them but I can never really get the "feel."

[Swoldier]

(09-17-2017 08:54 PM)redbeard Wrote:  

Great post thanks. I'm still on the fence about precum pregnancy, but we can agree that NoFap is a positive force in a man's life.

What kind of RK routine were you doing? I think I need to focus on them but I can never really get the "feel."

https://www.risingmaster.com/reverse-kegels/

This was the guide I used. It's definitely hard to learn the feel for it. I did it on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays; 3 sets, 30 reps. but I wasn't consistent. I haven't done it in months but I'm gonna get back on it.

[Kid Twist]

I think the PDE5 inhibitors increase your juice (the juice is loose) so unless they act on vasodilation of the crura or pelvic floor (possible) making it "relaxed" I'm not sure precum has any impact except for differing arousal.

My opinion on the differing states of arousal is an amalgam of all inputs: images, habits, but I think most of all, comfort. In a world where you were never desensitized to female images or sex, etc. I think you'd probably get boners in close proximity even to women, of course depending on your age. Now for those that hook up, a lot of times anxiety can be there (subconscious) because there isn't classic courting or comfort in being around one another frequently, anymore. Similarly, I think sometimes guys go for low hanging fruit and the girl just isn't attractive to their person or genetic profile, even though they feel they could blow up any moment.

In any case, it is certainly more vivacious to live without fap. So do it.

[semibaron]

Just want to say that for me, Tinder and Instagram bitches are almost as bad as porn for my dopamine.

Am definitely cutting them out.

[redbeard]

(09-18-2017 09:05 PM)semibaron Wrote:  

Just want to say that for me, Tinder and Instagram bitches are almost as bad as porn for my dopamine.

Am definitely cutting them out.

This is definitely true.

For me it's worse when I get a strong prospect.

If I haven't nutted in a while and get a new lead in the pipeline, I get super horny. Not only do I have pictures to look at, I have proof that this woman wants my seed. I'll look through her IG/tinder and think (in vivid detail) what I would do to her.

To fix this I try to minimize screen time period...which is good for ALL areas of health. If I go for a walk I try to leave my cell phone so I can spend time de-cluttering my head.

I don't get triggered so much by random IG hoes because they're just pictures, but REDDIT can certainly do it for me. There are so many high quality porn subreddits, with exactly what you want, in high quality gif format. Point and click, and you've got a highlight reel of the porno. Wow.

Even just being on /r/the_donald is hard for me, because it's just a simple change of URL to get me on a porn subreddit.

Lately I've gotten back on using Self-Control on my laptop. I block all the porn sites AND instagram and reddit. I work from my computer so it's crucial to keep it (and my brain) porn free.

[ShotgunUppercuts]

Havent been in here in a while.im ready to jump back on this wagon. Day 1 almost over .

[Lucky]

Just completed 2 weeks.

[twogapz]

Great work Lucky.

Replacing bad habits or weak habits with good ones also helps a lot.

[Lights]

Day 80 here.

I hit 95 days or so earlier this year and then wanted to have sex really bad so I started drinking a little bit and one thing led to another.

Even after ejaculating during sex made me feel weak and worse. It didn't feel right.

I regretted losing all my spiritual connectedness. I was tethered to the spirit world during nofap.

I was very conflicted about how I should handle sex. After weirdly watching porn but not masturbating for a couple weeks I reset everything around late June.

I promised to hit 90 days monk mode then evaluate how I would handle sex and re assess.

I'm noticing a lot of guys posting day ones and two weeks and a lot of so called relapses.

That's umacceptable. There is no way that sitting around playing with your dick watching porn is okay.

I would like to see more big numbers on here. Not that the numbers matter but 90 days should be mandatory minimum.

No more relapsing and day ones. It's pathetic.

I don't mean to judge but there's gotta come a point where you're so disgusted with your behavior that even thinking that you masturbated a month ago makes you sick.

Let's get a lot of water under the bridge and never look back.

I started tackling a host of other issues once the nofap thing was underway. So there's a lot of work yet to be done. So let's get this going. And let's get a shitton of distance past this thing.

Nofap is the tip of the iceberg of the new world that's ahead of you.

When I got 30 days under my belt my life started changing drastically. And quickly.

And can't imagine how far and fast I will go as time passes. I feel like I am distorting time.

Take care guys. Let's get some big numbers going.

[redbeard]

Today marks 11 months.

[Kid Twist]

I detected a loss in vitality and dopamine, was more tired, and it was almost instant / next day. I do think nutrition had something to do with it, however. Aight boys, to the end of the year. Finish strong!

[ShotgunUppercuts]

@Lights my record is 104 days i intend to beat that record. Ill call monday a week cuz i dint remember when i started.

[CaptainChardonnay]

Gotta restart after coming up on 3 weeks. No porn just woke up hungover and was horny.

[redbeard]

Cross-posting for awareness. Guy comes to the forum and says jerking off is more pleasurable than having sex. Is this what you want?

(09-17-2017 05:09 PM)nordicplayer Wrote:  

Not having a gf or fuck buddy, my source for sex are ons atm. I have praticed nofap, but that just leaves me with a bad temper.
These days I jerk off about 2-3 times per week.
Problem is that jerking off is nothing like fucking a girl. You are moving your hand back and forth, not thrusting inside a vagina. This leaves me a bit off when I do fuck a girl, because the sensation and pratice is so much diffrent from jerking off, and I sometimes have to work really hard to cum because of it.
I've been thinking about getting a fleshlight to keep my movements in check, since that way I'll be using the same muscles as if I was having sex.
Any thoughts?

[sterling_archer]

Day 46. Half way there. I broke my previous record some 10 days ago. Urges drop down immediately when I think about them because I have something I haven't had before. I am focused and know what are benefits, some of the I feel already. Keep strong guys.

[Geomann180]

Annnnnnnnnd I'm back at day one.

Long story short, I went a week without beating it (ok - I edged, but didn't do death grip!). Last week my girl came over and I got close to finishing without using my hands, but it was just out of reach. Blue balls, however, were in reach. Frustrated, with heavy balls, I beat it and came on her face (to her surprise). Afterwards, I didn't go a day without beating it, the voice in my head telling me "It doesn't make a difference now!".

I swear, fapping is like eating pringles. You can't just eat one.

Luckily, I'll be working for the next 18 days straight. Here's to working so much that I don't have time stick my hands down my pants, except to piss in the woods.

G