Quote: (03-17-2013 04:24 AM)AntiMediocrity Wrote:
Quote: (03-16-2013 10:28 PM)houston Wrote:
Yeah, why haven't you commited suicide yet!?
I had a "cold spell" of 6 years, up until last year. I was still masturbating the whole time. So it goes without saying I'm used to lack of sex...I just don't have masturbation as a crutch any more.
And if not having that crutch is worth killing myself over, my issues go beyond addiction. Quote: (03-16-2013 10:31 PM)storm Wrote:
AM. How have your hobbies changed.
I used to spend a lot of my time playing video games, mainly an MMORPG. I used to work out quite a lot, read books (PUA material for example) and study to be a personal trainer before I discovered that MMO I refer to.
Doing nofap has given me the strength to quit that MMO, and video-gaming in general. I haven't played a game for 37 days now. I'm back to lifting&cardio, reading and keyboard practise. Quote: (03-17-2013 12:34 AM)kickboxer Wrote:
That's a long time amigo. You should bang out a 4 to gain some momentum.
I dunno man, I've only had two sexual partners, they were both in LTR's. And they were 7+/10's as far as I was concerned while going out with them, I'm worried I'll lose any respect I have left if I fuck girls I don't consider attractive.Quote: (03-17-2013 12:39 AM)little wing Wrote:
If you jerk off now, you'll blow a load so big the state you live in might tip over
What's a state? I kid, I'm a UK resident.
And I don't plan on jerking off any time soon. I like to think I'm done with fapping, for the rest of my life.
Hey buddy,
I think it's good you stopped the gaming for now. At the very least until you get this side of your life running the way you want it to.
You have to want it, badly. You have to go out consistently and use that built up desire to make you approach. Nofap will not get you laid; going out with motivation to will.
I suggest going out at least 3 nights a week. Pick a night during the regular week that has potential for you, for me that is Wednesdays. Go out Friday and Saturday, and during those nights, be heavily direct.
Many people are against direct game like this. Girls are used to getting hit on, so why be another one of those guys? It's all in the delivery. I have a couple buddies who can pull regularly, and their game is aggressive and direct. They softly grab and pull in girls that walk by them, with a smile. They see a girl they want, they intrude in on their group and pull them towards them. What you say doesn't matter, it's how you say it. Their eye contact is extreme, dominant, and sexual. If you are thinking about isolation, cockblocking etc, that should not matter. The goal here is to get her so in the moment with you she tells her friends to leave her alone for a minute. Or you grab her and pull her in and yell to her friends 'she is mine! You can't cockblock this blossoming romance.'
This is something I've seen my buddies do to pull. I say 1/5 girls they 'pull in' they can get some serious attraction going. From there it is just about working out logistics, which is the harder part. Basically, get her so aroused with you she won't give a shit about her friends at that moment.
This game takes a lot to pull off though, it's all in body language and delivery. I'm still working on making it a part of my techniques.
Also, day game. There are many great threads here on day game you should search up.