[Aliblahba]

(05-09-2012 08:52 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(05-08-2012 06:26 PM)Roosh Wrote:  

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I do this shit all the time by timing my corners at grocery stores and moves at the bar. At parties I time corners and lengths of time a girl will spend in the bathroom.

Hah I do that too.

I have mastered the "stare at your phone and act confused look" in order to add a few seconds and time it just right.

I'm really surprised that this hasn't been covered in more detail. Even those dudes in the PUA videos should be teaching this instead of that witch doctor crap. Bump into a girl by chance (that you made happen) as apposed to running them makes the rest of the job 1000X easier. If you're going to cold approach some girl walking down the street you better have some razor edge verbal skills and still they're going to be like WTF does this clown want? Are you kidding? = Uphill battle. Why would you want to do that? My cat-call game is even stronger than that run em down shit.

The fact that these "Gurus" are teaching kids this shit makes me sick. Yea it's better than sitting at home playing runescape but it will become a big disappointment in the long haul.

The moves. They need to be discussed. I see a thread here about how many approaches a day a week a night before you call it quits. That's just a numbers game like asking a thousand girls if they want to fuck.

The PUA's are setting up guys for certain doom. Cold approaching on the street is suicide. What do you do when someone just comes up outta nowhere and starts talking? You go on the defensive. Women are 10x more defensive, and the bitch shields are gonna be automatic. Like Emech said, it's an uphill battle of monumental proportions, like Iwo Jima. Don't spend your days fighting that hard. There are much easier ways.

The enemy is best conquered from within. A full frontal assault will wear down you down fast. Low and slow. A chance encounter puts you under the radar, and lets you erode her defenses so much easier.

For us seasoned vets, it's just shit we learned as time progressed. Like sitting near the girls bathroom in a club, or timing what line to get in in the grocery store.

Go skim through Pua Hate. When these guys talk about how the community fucked up their lives, I believe it. I don't care how alpha you are, getting blown out hard is gonna wear heavy on your self-confidence/esteem. I wouldn't want to approach any chick after 5 ran away down the street. Shit sucks.

Indirect is less evasive, and if a chicks not interested, she'll let you know without dropping a mushroom cloud.

[King Solomon]

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women love serendipity.

chance.

fate.

Give them that. Give them a good story to tell.

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[purplelake02]

(05-15-2012 08:23 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

(05-09-2012 08:52 AM)el mechanico Wrote:  

(05-08-2012 06:26 PM)Roosh Wrote:  

Quote:

I do this shit all the time by timing my corners at grocery stores and moves at the bar. At parties I time corners and lengths of time a girl will spend in the bathroom.

Hah I do that too.

I have mastered the "stare at your phone and act confused look" in order to add a few seconds and time it just right.

I'm really surprised that this hasn't been covered in more detail. Even those dudes in the PUA videos should be teaching this instead of that witch doctor crap. Bump into a girl by chance (that you made happen) as apposed to running them makes the rest of the job 1000X easier. If you're going to cold approach some girl walking down the street you better have some razor edge verbal skills and still they're going to be like WTF does this clown want? Are you kidding? = Uphill battle. Why would you want to do that? My cat-call game is even stronger than that run em down shit.

The fact that these "Gurus" are teaching kids this shit makes me sick. Yea it's better than sitting at home playing runescape but it will become a big disappointment in the long haul.

The moves. They need to be discussed. I see a thread here about how many approaches a day a week a night before you call it quits. That's just a numbers game like asking a thousand girls if they want to fuck.

The PUA's are setting up guys for certain doom. Cold approaching on the street is suicide. What do you do when someone just comes up outta nowhere and starts talking? You go on the defensive. Women are 10x more defensive, and the bitch shields are gonna be automatic. Like Emech said, it's an uphill battle of monumental proportions, like Iwo Jima. Don't spend your days fighting that hard. There are much easier ways.

The enemy is best conquered from within. A full frontal assault will wear down you down fast. Low and slow. A chance encounter puts you under the radar, and lets you erode her defenses so much easier.

For us seasoned vets, it's just shit we learned as time progressed. Like sitting near the girls bathroom in a club, or timing what line to get in in the grocery store.

Go skim through Pua Hate. When these guys talk about how the community fucked up their lives, I believe it. I don't care how alpha you are, getting blown out hard is gonna wear heavy on your self-confidence/esteem. I wouldn't want to approach any chick after 5 ran away down the street. Shit sucks.

Indirect is less evasive, and if a chicks not interested, she'll let you know without dropping a mushroom cloud.

This is interesting topic. PUA bootcamps and teachers teach and advocate direct approach mostly. They say, practice, practice, practice to improve. They say if you approached below 500, you are beginner.

In order to improve, practice is important like in every field, dance, basketball etc. However, if you approach indirectly your numbers will be lower compared to the person who approach direct.

For example, you are in grocery store, you wait the girl to come, and arrange yourself and make the approach. In order to approach at perfect time, you have to wait 5-10 minutes. If you did direct, you could finish approach and make another one.

Also, in direct approach, puas go to city center and approach 3 girls in 1 hour if its crowded area. In crowded city center, or on street, indirect is hard way to talk to girls. If you follow indirect style, you have to go to coffee shop, grocery stores etc. and wait for the perfect time to come. In addition you cant approach more than once at the same store, because all security, personel etc. around you. In street, you are free and nobody hears, approach as many as you want.

To sum up, if you follow indirect way in a month you could make 30 approach while if you followed you could make 100 maybe.

My question is to daygame vets.. how do you compensate downsides of indirect way in order to use time more efficient and improve faster.

[Dusty]

I started doing direct approaches more recently. Yesterday I see an 8 or 9 wearing daisy duke shorts and tan smooth legs. Yum.

I walk along side her. She has ear buds in. I look at her a couple times in an obvious way. She looks at me perplexed. I gesture to take her ear buds out. She does and looks annoyed and says what?? I say: I thought you looked cute so I wanted to flirt with you. She cracks up, relaxes, and we have a nice conversation for several blocks.

I like it. I put it right there on the table - I'm sexually attracted. I say it in such a matter of fact nonchalant way, they laugh. That's good. I get the message across, but in a low pressure, playful, fun way.

[Giovonny]

(05-15-2012 08:23 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

Cold approaching on the street is suicide...

...A chance encounter puts you under the radar, and lets you erode her defenses so much easier.

The key with cold approaches is to make them seem like "chance encounters".

You both just happen to be waiting at the same red light at the same time.
You both just happen to enter the elevator at the same time.
You both happen to be in the same line at the grocery store.
You both just happen to be looking at the same item.
You both just happen to be entering the building at the same time.

Don't just run up to her in the street at say "hey excuse me".

Walk along side her, walk in front of her, talk on your phone and let her hear your voice and vibe, etc.

Make it seem like you don't even notice her. Let her observe you for a few seconds. Then, open a conversation with her.

Make it seem Serendipitious. A chance encounter. A fake chance encounter.

(05-15-2012 08:23 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  

getting blown out hard is gonna wear heavy on your self-confidence/esteem.

We can not be emotionally fragile!

Getting rejected by a random girl should have zero effect on your self-esteem.

Our confidence must be much stronger then a random girls rejection. Much stronger.

(10-15-2013 12:55 PM)purplelake02 Wrote:  

if you follow indirect way in a month you could make 30 approach while if you followed direct you could make 100 maybe.

Not neccasarily.

Direct approaches are only slightly faster then indirect appraoches.

I could go direct but then talk to her for 10 minutes.

I could go indirect but the girl doesn't engage and the chat is over in a few minutes.

It all depends on how the conversation goes.

Generally speaking, indirect is a slower process, but, this is not always the case.

Sometimes, my direct appraoches stick and I talk to the girl for 15 minutes or more.

Often times, I use the "Direct-Indirect" style and I have no idea how long the interaction will go.

There is a time for each style. Use all 3 styles as needed.

(10-15-2013 12:55 PM)purplelake02 Wrote:  

My question is to daygame vets.. how do you compensate downsides of indirect way in order to use time more efficient and improve faster.

Basically, by being agressive and approaching more.

Also, go to high traffic areas so you will have hundreds or thousands of targets.

I don't like walking around searching for targets. I want to be surronded by targets so I can use direct, indirect, or the hybrid method.

Personally, I don't think it matters much what style we use. Our game attractiveness will be communicated with any style.

[Dusty]

(10-15-2013 02:27 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  

Often times, I use the "Direct-Indirect" style and I have no idea how long the interaction will go.

Gio

I've been experimenting with direct approaches. Actually, in the post above, I think I got that line from you ("You look cute so I want to flirt with you."). Used it a few times. I'm bound to get blown-out with it or experience an awkward coldness, but so far I got strong positive responses. Sometimes red faces and "you're so sweet" and mostly laughs and "thanks!" and then they are very open for conversations.

But I'm not sure what "Direct-Indirect" means. Could you explain?

[Giovonny]

(10-15-2013 02:53 PM)Dusty Wrote:  

But I'm not sure what "Direct-Indirect" means. Could you explain?

It's the style that Krauser popularized.

I explain it here:

(09-13-2012 04:18 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  

I did 10-11 approaches today. At a local college. I have come to realize two things:

1) Dressing very sharp with a GQ style increases my day game success by like 75%. Its amazing what a difference clothes can make. I'm doing a major wardrobe makeover. Clothes and style are huge in day game! Clothes can communicate alot about you and if you really look sharp, girls are way more open to talking with you. A well dressed stranger fits into their fantasy..

2) The Krauser method is the way to go. At least for me, right now. Its the best method of approaching that I have experienced so far, and I have done close to 1000 day approaches. The beauty of Krauers model is that you open her directly with masculine confidence and you also tease her to project non-neediness. Those two things make a powerful combination. The tease adds just the right amount of cockiness. The direct opener is a great display of masculine confidence. Its a great frame to start from.

Everyone wants to know if they should go direct or indirect. This is a combination of BOTH!!!

I will be using this approach style most of the time from now on. There are some situations where I might go indirect but I will still have flirtatious tone, body language, and eye contact.

Here it is: http://www.rooshv.com/direct-day-game-for-beginners

And, I don't like to jog up from behind the girl. Just doesn't feel right to me. I try to avoid this as much as possible. I prefer to catch her coming from the opposite direction and stop her face to face or catch her at a "choke-point" like a corner where people are moving in all directions.

I often touch their arm to get their attention.

Clothes+Krauser. That is my advice to all you day gamers!

[purplelake02]

Approaching outside is hard, girl doesnt know you, and many people want to sell something or are begging money, bitch shields are up. On the other hand, because of the number of girls and free environment, outside is a good field to learn and practice.

As giovanny said, style is not much important, choose whichever you want ...